Is she willing to see a doctor for any of these issues? And for the thyroid, as I have problems with mine, is she seeing an endocrinologist or at least her family doc? I’m sure you know that untreated thyroid issues can cause further issues.
I’ve been doing a lot of reading, and she has all the symptoms of an under active thyroid. I did convince her to make an appointment with her doctor. Its in Gods hands.
You are truly an inspiration. This is what it’s all about. Trusting in Him within the treacherous walls collapsing of this mighty storm.
Thank you. That really encourages me.
I agree with this 100%. Sacrificial love is always the right thing to do. Keep loving your wife even when the affirmation and good feelings aren’t there for you. God will take care of the results. Trust.
Forgiveness is a hard thing. Probably the hardest thing I have ever faced. You have to start by going to confession, and get absolution. Then you have to forgive yourself for your own mistakes. Only then can you start to forgive others. Finally, once you forgive others, you have to forgive 100%. You can’t keep 5% in your back pocket to pull out when the time is right. True forgiveness is 100%. That’s the hardest part. 100%.
This is very wise. It isn’t always easy to be the calming influence, but I think you have to be. Just keep plugging along hurthusband, asn as you have said give it all over to God.
It’s true that most everything is being driven by me. What else can I do? We went to Retrouvaille and it worked wonders for me, but not as much for her. At least that’s the way it seems. The thingis, some of the presentations were so powerful that she had to be touched by them. Since coming back from Retrouvaille she has not kept up with her homework. She’s just not someone who enjoys writing down her feelings like that. Last week was rough because I had so much hope that Retrouvaille would help take us down the road to recovery. The week came to a climax on Saturday night when she barely acknowledged my presence when I got home. I got upset, told her she was rude and we had a conversation where she finally said she wanted a divorce. That has sort of been her response whenever I back her into a corner. So why is it that 30 minutes later she came into the bedroom and she apologized and we got intimate? Then Sunday we spent the whole day together holding hands, hugging each other, etc. Could it be that on Saturday night when I told her that I was on a waiting list for some new houses, it gave her a wake up call? Could it be that when I told her I was going to get a storage unit and start moving out to get ready to sell the house, it was a wake up call? Could it be that when I told her I was going in for a lawyer consultation, it was a wake up call? So many mixed messages from her.
Yeah, I’d be very surprised if the guy was still around. I pretty much told him it would be in his best interest to never appear on my radar screen again. Know what I mean? I think you do. And I don’t think she’s on the look out for someone else.
She is trying to figure out what she needs to be happy?
She’s made her decision. She’s not happy. She’s not going to be happy. Yes, I love her. Yes, we have 3 grown children and a grandson. Yes, we all adore her. Her therapist is for her. She does not share what they talk about and I respect her privacy. Yes, she takes medication for depression and high blood pressure. I will love her until the day I die. That’s not just the emotions talking. That’s the truth.
Happiness comes from your own decision to want to be happy. This bears no reflection on you and your actions continually speak of a loving and comitted husband. You have handled the situation without being compromised which shows your strength of spirit so God bless you.
