Your comment is not about homosexuality itself, but about the act of homosexual sex. Do i believe this is behavior that i find maladjusted, yes, but let me clarify no more than i find heterosexual acts of sex outside of marriage maladjusted.
I’m glad that you admitted the fact that homosexual acts are maladjusted. I agree with you. I am also accepting the fact that heterosexual acts of sex outside of marriage are maladjusted behavior. We have an agreement on that, too. In moral theology we would simply call both of them sins, or morally disordered acts.
Now let me bring this discussion to the next phase. If stealing, for example, is a sin, then the
desire to steal is also a sin. The first is against the 7th commandment (“You shall not steal”), the second is against the 10th commandment (“You shall not covet your neighbor’s goods”). In like manner, if adultery is a sin, then the desire to commit adultery is also a sin, or a moral disorder. The first is against the 6th commandment (“You shall not commit adultery), the second is against the 9th commandment (“You shall not covet your neighbor’s wife”). If we apply this to homosexuality, we can say that if homosexual acts are sinful, then the
desire to engage in homosexual acts is also sinful, or morally disordered.
However, we must now distinguish between the mere
inclination to do something from the actual
desire to do something. If a person has a tendency or inclination to steal, it does not mean that he desires to steal, because desire is a different act – an act of the will – which is different from the mere impulse to act. The inclination to steal is a psychic or psychological disorder, but is not a sin. The kleptomaniac who is feeling an impulse to steal is not committing a sin because of that inclination, but is suffering a disorder in his soul (You are free to call this disorder whatever you want to call it – personality disorder, obsessive compulsive disorder, or whatever you want to call it). But when the kleptomaniac desires to steal, or actually steals something, then he or she commits a sin, or a morally disordered act. (Of course, I will grant that the culpability, or the gravity of the sin, will be reduced by the strength of the impulse, and by other factors.) In like manner, a man who is sexually attracted to a woman is not necessarily committing a sin. Attraction is not the same thing as desire. The mere sexual attraction to a person of the opposite sex is even quite natural and healthy, for our reproductive organs are naturally ordained toward the sexual union of man and woman. However, if this man desires to have sex with the woman, or actually has sex with this woman, then the act could be sinful or not sinful depending on their particular circumstances. If the woman is not his wife, then the act is sinful. But if the woman is his wife, then the act is not a sin at all.
But I want to call your attention to the sexual attraction itself between man and woman being “normal,” because our reproductive organs are designed to function toward this kind of union. It is unlike the impulse to steal suffered by a kleptomaniac. The kleptomaniac impulse – to take something that he knows does not belong to him - is a disorder with no natural basis. It is unnatural and abnormal. A man’s sexual attraction for a woman, however, is not a disorder at all, but is part of nature’s design, and is ordered toward the preservation of the species. It is healthy, and it is normal. Of course, if this attraction becomes excessive or overwhelming, then it becomes a disorder that we call “lust.” And while this is still not sin, it can lead to sin if this attraction is not controlled.
Now let us consider the case of the homosexual who feels a sexual attraction for a person of the same sex. This inclination is not yet the desire to engage in homosexual act, but a mere tendency toward it. Therefore, this inclination or tendency is not yet itself a sin. But, like the impulse to steal suffered by a kleptomaniac, and unlike the simple sexual attraction felt by a man for a woman, this inclination is also disordered in itself, because it has no natural basis, and even runs counter to the special design of our reproductive organs which are ordained only toward the union of man and woman. Therefore, the homosexual inclination IS a disorder, an unnatural or abnormal inclination, similar in some respects to the unnatural and abnormal inclination to steal suffered by the kleptomaniac.
The BIG question now is this: If the unnatural, abnormal, and unhealthy impulses suffered by the kleptomaniac deserves to be treated and helped by a health professional trained to handle this case, why should the same-sex inclinations and tendencies suffered by a homosexual not be treated and helped by a similarly qualified health professional? The problem I see with making homosexuality appear as a normal phenomenon in the human species is that we would be depriving the homosexual of his right to be helped in controlling his or her unnatural and abnormal tendencies.
Note that the objectively disordered nature of the homosexual inclinations demands that the homosexual be helped correspondingly. The issue here is not whether or not the homosexual is mentally sick. I can easily grant that he is not mentally sick, because whether a person will be labeled as mentally sick or not depends to a large extent on how you define “mentally sick.” But if we use common sense principles, we see that the homosexual needs help, just like the kleptomaniac, and those suffering from addiction, OCD, etc.