I need help!!!!

[Saint_wannabe]

You name it, and I need help with it. At this point I could really use some words of encouragement, and I could definitely (please) use some prayers. I could also use some advise on where I could go to start getting some help.

 

[NPC]

I can certainly pray for you - as I’m sure many others here will too. As to where you ought to go to receive help - no one can make a diagnosis unless they have an idea of the symptoms!, so I can’t give you a definite answer… However, if you are having spiritual problems - you need a physician of souls, so go and talk to a priest. If your problems include health - mental or physical - issues, seek help now… I think that whatever your problems are, talking is a most important course of action - do not ignore or bottle-up your difficulties. Don’t forget to consult with the Divine Physician frequently, as I promise to do on your behalf. God bless you.

 

[Saint_wannabe]

Thank you NPC and God bless friend. I don’t want to go into all of the specifics at this time, but they are many. I appreciate any and all prayers that I can receive, and all advice would also be appreciated. I’m having many problems with many impure things, and I’m not just talking about thoughts. I’m really thinking hard about going and getting some psychiatric help, along with going to attend some AA mettings to deal with some older demons that have come back into my life. I’m just really feeling pretty hopeless and helpless at this moment.

 

[NPC]

Thank you NPC and God bless friend. I don’t want to go into all of the specifics at this time, but they are many. I appreciate any and all prayers that I can receive, and all advice would also be appreciated. I’m having many problems with many impure things, and I’m not just talking about thoughts. I’m really thinking hard about going and getting some psychiatric help, along with going to attend some AA mettings to deal with some older demons that have come back into my life. I’m just really feeling pretty hopeless and helpless at this moment.

Well, it seems that you are on the right track in many ways… As I said, if the problem is medical, then you need to seek medical advice - and I know someone on a different thread pointed out that some of us are often very quick to explain problems merely from a spiritual perspective, when a problem may actually be physiological or psychological. So do seek help from the right people.

That said, I know that impurity can be combatted very forcefully by having a strong and active prayer life. It is never wrong to call on the Lord for help, and it will be beneficial to you to pray when you feel tempted - and also in thanksgiving for the times when you overcome temptation. Many people recommend praying the Rosary to help fight impurity; I myself find that I am greatly strengthened by the Holy Mass and by spending time (daily when possible) with the Lord in the Blessed Sacrament - it is a great comfort to be able to come before the Lord in all one’s weakness and lay one’s difficulties before Him.

Something else that will be of great spiritual benefit to you, if you are not already doing it, is frequent Confession. Many people recommend monthly confession - like me, you may sometimes feel the need to go to confession more frequently; indeed, sometimes you can feel like a broken record listing the same sins time after time. What you need to accept is that we all fall sometimes in different ways, but you have one of the central requirements for making a good confession - a sincere purpose of amendment & a desire to turn from your sinful ways. Let your confession be plain and entire - this will be a great help for the priest in giving useful and relevant advice to you.

So, don’t lose heart - you certainly can get through your difficulties… you are, after all a Saint Wannabe

 

[Saint_wannabe]

Well, it seems that you are on the right track in many ways… As I said, if the problem is medical, then you need to seek medical advice - and I know someone on a different thread pointed out that some of us are often very quick to explain problems merely from a spiritual perspective, when a problem may actually be physiological or psychological. So do seek help from the right people.

That said, I know that impurity can be combatted very forcefully by having a strong and active prayer life. It is never wrong to call on the Lord for help, and it will be beneficial to you to pray when you feel tempted - and also in thanksgiving for the times when you overcome temptation. Many people recommend praying the Rosary to help fight impurity; I myself find that I am greatly strengthened by the Holy Mass and by spending time (daily when possible) with the Lord in the Blessed Sacrament - it is a great comfort to be able to come before the Lord in all one’s weakness and lay one’s difficulties before Him.

Something else that will be of great spiritual benefit to you, if you are not already doing it, is frequent Confession. Many people recommend monthly confession - like me, you may sometimes feel the need to go to confession more frequently; indeed, sometimes you can feel like a broken record listing the same sins time after time. What you need to accept is that we all fall sometimes in different ways, but you have one of the central requirements for making a good confession - a sincere purpose of amendment & a desire to turn from your sinful ways. Let your confession be plain and entire - this will be a great help for the priest in giving useful and relevant advice to you.

So, don’t lose heart - you certainly can get through your difficulties… you are, after all a Saint Wannabe

Thank you for the kind words and advice, and believe it or not, you actually brought a smile too my face. Thanks again.

 

[jimcav]

It’s very tough to give help on a forum like this, so my only advice right now is to seek God’s help!

Go to Church and talk to Jesus on the Cross. Tell Him your problems, but ask for nothing right away, just a place to rest your weary soul for awhile. You need time to focus and calm yourself. He can give you that. Relax yourself in the shade of His Holy Cross. Look at Him on the Cross and unite your suffering with His. Nobody suffered like Christ did, so nobody understands suffering like He does either. He loves us greatly and when He became man, He came to understand all of our weakness’s and frailties. Whatever your problems are, He has certainly seen them before.

So please, go to Jesus. Just relax with Him. He wants us to come to Him when we’re in pain. He has all the time in the world for us…

From St. Paul of the Cross -

"Have you ever noticed rocks in the sea, beaten by the tempest? A furious wave dashes against the rock, another and yet another does likewise, yet the rock is unmoved. But look at it after the storm has subsided, and you will see that the flood has but served to wash and purify it of the defilement it had contracted during the calm.
From now on I wish you to be as a rock. A wave dashes against you? Silence! It assails you ten, a hundred, a thousand times? Silence! Say, at most, in the midst of the storm, "My Father,
my Father, I am all Thine! 0 dear, o sweet will of God, I adore Thee !"

 

[InLight247]

You have received many good advices.
Attending Mass, Eucharistic Adoration, Rosary, mental prayers, frequent confession, Bible reading, seeking priestly and professional help…, they will all help you get out of the valley.

I prayed for you and will continue to remember you in front of the Lord. God bless!

 

[Sirach2]

Probably the most important resolution of all would be to avoid the near occasions of sin, as we promise when we say the Act of Contrition. Each of us knows what puts us in harms way, if we recognize repeat patterns of sinning, and the only cure is to beg God’s grace to make us strong in avoiding the causes of our falling. For alcoholism, you know the rules - total abstinence for these 24 hours, no bars, no “little sips”, avoiding buddies who invite you to have just a short one.

If its a problem with impurity, you alone know what triggers your relapses, and these “occasions” must be fully avoided, resolutely! No porn, no Playboy magazines, no x-rated videos, rejecting thoughts of illilcit sexual pleasures, etc.

Think about how brief is the moment of pleasure, which brings hours of regret and strengthening of the bad habit. Is it really worth it to suffer remorse and offend God who loves you so much? Reflect on the tremendous goodness of God towards you with so many favors and blessings we cannot even recognize them all. Love will cast out these desires to gratify self, so maybe you could pray for an abundance of love and gratitude to God as you become strengthened in your resolve to be Saint Wannabe! I have faith in you!

 

[Saint_wannabe]

Probably the most important resolution of all would be to avoid the near occasions of sin, as we promise when we say the Act of Contrition. Each of us knows what puts us in harms way, if we recognize repeat patterns of sinning, and the only cure is to beg God’s grace to make us strong in avoiding the causes of our falling. For alcoholism, you know the rules - total abstinence for these 24 hours, no bars, no “little sips”, avoiding buddies who invite you to have just a short one.

If its a problem with impurity, you alone know what triggers your relapses, and these “occasions” must be fully avoided, resolutely! No porn, no Playboy magazines, no x-rated videos, rejecting thoughts of illilcit sexual pleasures, etc.

Think about how brief is the moment of pleasure, which brings hours of regret and strengthening of the bad habit. Is it really worth it to suffer remorse and offend God who loves you so much? Reflect on the tremendous goodness of God towards you with so many favors and blessings we cannot even recognize them all. Love will cast out these desires to gratify self, so maybe you could pray for an abundance of love and gratitude to God as you become strengthened in your resolve to be Saint Wannabe! I have faith in you!

Among many things that I was in deep thought about yesterday, you just touched on one of them in this post. I think its time to surround myself with a new set of friends, or at the very least, get away from the ones that tend to drag me down. I’m not blaming anyone else for all of my problems, but it seems that when I hang out with a certain crowd, I tend to gravitate towards the things they do. I have also figured out that alcohol needs to be completely out of my life.

I’m not a social drinker, and I’m not very good at just having a couple of drinks and then stopping. I would say that 90% of the time, when I start drinking, I don’t stop until I’m drunk. When I’m drunk, I want to do drugs and impure thoughts and a wandering eye are usually following closely behind. I know that I need to recommit myself to daily prayer, reading Scripture, Eucharistic Adoration and get back to going too Mass as much as humanly possible. Thank you all for your kind words and advice, and it means allot to me, to know that I can come on here & discuss my problems with my fellow Catholic Brothers and Sisters. God bless you all.

 

[puzzleannie]

You name it, and I need help with it. At this point I could really use some words of encouragement, and I could definitely (please) use some prayers. I could also use some advise on where I could go to start getting some help.

we are praying for you, bingo, there is also a specific thread here for prayer intentions.
If you need spiritual and pastoral counsel, go to your priest.
If you need psychological, legal or medical help, go to a professional in that area. If you need help finding someone call CAtholic Charities or your diocesan Family Life office and ask for referrals.

If you are asking for general spiritual guidance the best advice is regular Mass participation and reception of the sacraments, daily prayer and reading sacred scripture, and imitation of the saints, particularly in actively serving God’s Church and His poor.

Among many things that I was in deep thought about yesterday, you just touched on one of them in this post. I think its time to surround myself with a new set of friends, or at the very least, get away from the ones that tend to drag me down. I’m not blaming anyone else for all of my problems, but it seems that when I hang out with a certain crowd, I tend to gravitate towards the things they do. I have also figured out that alcohol needs to be completely out of my life…

you are absolutely correct on this, and show great maturity in realizing it. This one action alone will be life changing. As a member of a family full of alcoholics IMO AA is essential to your future health and well being.