I need help.

[Sr_Bernadette]

Hello dear Brothers and Sisters,

i’m sorry, i dont speak good english. I have a huge problem, i’m a 29 years old woman from germany. I fall in love with a man and i’m a nun. When i was a little girl, i dreamed to be a nun and now i’m so happy to because i’m a nun. I work in a catholic kindergarten and i love my work. The children are so nice and they makes me smile. The man i told you, his daughter is in our kindergarten and he took up her every day. He is very charming and he talk too me very nice. One day, he ask me, “are you happy to live as a nun” and i answer yes i’m happy, i love Jesus and i’m very happy to be a bride of Jesus. He makes me compliments, he told me, that i have beautiful eyes and when he told me this, my heart beats very fast. Last week, he was very happy, he comes to took up his daughter and he hugs me. If he hugs me, i get quite embarrassed and i blush. After that i be ashamed of my self, i’m a nun, i can’t have feelings like that. I’m afraid too talk with the Mother Superior about these feelings, perhaps she does not allow me too work in the kindergarten anymore. But i love my work with the childrin and i’m afraid that the Mother Superior things, that i’m a bad nun. I need help, what can i do?

 

[triumphguy]

Talk to your priest, and to talk to Reverend Mother.

That is all you can do.

 

[Mary_Estelle]

Actually you can do more than that. Avoid the hugs. The man may be married. When complimented just say “Thank you.” It also sounds as if the man might be fishing for a fish in shallow waters. Be polite and gracious, but avoid the man as much as possible. He is obvisously flirting. Do speak to a priest and he will advise you from there. Your superior will understand, perhaps take you out circulation/temptatation for a while. Don’t ever think that you are unique in this situation-your not. Young sisters are vulnerable morsels for some men.Think about what life you want to live and get direction. Praying for you.

 

[Lamentation]

(English is my first language - I added very stilted Deutsch just incase something wasn’t clear.)

You must talk with your Mother Superior, even if that means you have a change in occupation. She has been appointed, by God, to help guide you in Religious Life. You have done nothing wrong, but you cannot allow this man to continue - even if the man does not understand the necessary boundaries.

Of course you feel good by his comments and actions - we are all human, after all. But we cannot allow the fleeting feelings to derail us from Jesus the Christ. ​

Sie müssen mit Ihrem Mutter Oberin sprechen, auch wenn das bedeutet, dass Sie eine Veränderung in Beruf haben. Sie hat sich von Gott berufen, um zu helfen, die Sie in Religiöses Leben. Sie haben nichts Unrechtes getan, aber Sie können nicht zulassen, dass dieser Mann auch weiterhin - auch wenn der Mensch nicht die notwendigen Grenzen zu verstehen.

Natürlich können Sie sich wohl fühlen durch seine Kommentare und Handlungen - wir alle Menschen sind, nachdem alle. Aber wir können nicht zulassen, dass die flüchtigen Gefühle, uns von Jesus Christus zu entgleisen.

 

[808Catholic]

Talk to your priest, and to talk to Reverend Mother.

That is all you can do.

Second that! That daughter has a mother who is presumably the wife of that man. Shame on him for being inappropriate with a religious person! If you can’t respect your wife, you’ll never respect someone’s vow of obedience to God. :sad_yes: