I need prayers and advice

[PaulinVA]

Well, you’re in no shape to date when you are still messed up by the last girl you liked.

Continue building your life for the sake of building your life.

The biggest turn off is an overly intense person looking for a relationship NOW.

 

[LotusCarsLtd]

1. Find some guy friends who you can confide in to, face to face.

Done.

1. If your insecure, or think you might be, find or start a hobby your good at, and have that help you.

Working on this now.

1. Pray

Being done now.

1. Make your own choices. Stand by them.

Learning to do this.

1. Pray

Still being done now.

1. If your still insecure and needy, fake happiness and security.

I try doing this but I usually end-up becoming comfortable in an uncomfortable situation and faking isn’t necessary.

1. Be happy. Men and women like hanging out with happy people.

I try.

1. Pray.

Still being done now.

 

[Jay82]

No idea. The first place that I started is with the moratorium. I needed to first admit that I was fundamentally lacking the qualities and attributes needed to form a healthy relationship. Basically, I hit a bottom. Once I admitted that I couldn’t do what I wanted to do, dating was not an option. If a person’s driving skills are inadequate, should he continue driving knowing that he may injure himself or others? That’s how I looked at.

You are probably not at the point that I was at. You probably don’t need what I needed. Notice that up until now my posts were all third person. I don’t even know you and cannot even attempt a guess at what you need. I just threw out some thoughts and my personal experience, in case you or anyone else can relate.

I don’t know you well enough to really say one way or the other, but some general suggestions that I have are:

1. Do things you enjoy and have fun
2. Potentially learn something new (in a group) to take yourself out of your comfort zone (dancing, cooking, a new sport, band, etc)
3. Get out and meet new people, anyone, guys and girls. Just socialize in general, as hard as it may be, just do it. The more you interact with people the easier forming relationships get.
4. I know you want to date, but don’t make that the highest priority in life. Knowing you’ll be fine on your own and happy means a lot. If you get to know a lot of people and have a good core group of friends then you’ll get numerous opportunities to meet girls.

 

[Rascalking]

Done.

Working on this now.

Being done now.

Learning to do this.

Still being done now.

I try doing this but I usually end-up becoming comfortable in an uncomfortable situation and faking isn’t necessary.

I try.

Still being done now.

My friend, if your doing all that, I have full confidence that your going to do just find. Don’t try to rush things-all will come to you in time.

 

[LotusCarsLtd]

My friend, if your doing all that, I have full confidence that your going to do just find. Don’t try to rush things-all will come to you in time.

I do hope I can do it. I try to distract myself and what-not but it can be hard. Again, though, I hope it works out for me.