I need some advice! Please read & answer!

[Rebekah45]

I 16 years old & today, at school my friends were racing to the table at lunch, that they like to sit at like usual with another guy that wanted to sit there too, but today he was already sitting there. So my friends decided to sit down with him & while my friends were getting there lunchs, he got mad that we were sitting with him, so he threw my friends’ purses onto another table. My friend got mad when she saw this happen, so she told him forcefully to not throw purses. By then he got so mad, that he swore at my friend & decided to leave by jumping over the booth, we were sitting at, & tried to land in another booth but missed, & nocked the booth over. He fell on his back, he stood up to find the whole lunch room laughing at him, which made him so angry that he screamed in a very raging voice, “E-N-O-U-G-H!!!” I didn’t see what happened after that because I got scared & decided to sit by myself for lunch because I hate conflicts. I told my dad about this, & he said I should pray for him & watch out for him, because if he gets continually made fun of with this type of explosive anger, then he could end up like one of the Columbine kids & shoot people. So what should I do? Please reply because I’m kind of scared. Thanks for reading & replying ahead of time, bye!

 

[Totterman]

Jesus,our Lords,peace be whit You.
I understand Your fear,but I understand also the one everyone wos laughin at,and I understand Your fathers advice. Understanding will not solve the problem,but what if You try to be a friend to this,I guess,guy. From reading what You wrote You both looks pretty lonely,You see,even if you have a thousand friends you can be lonely. When we say friend we mean other people we know,or think we know. To be a friend,and to have a friend or friends is something that takes time,years sometimes and you see who are your true friends when you need them,and thats why I think You should try to be his friend,or mate,in the begining. I understand Your fear as I wrote,but You are not the only who is afraid,he is to,and his/her worst fear came alive when everyone wos laughing. Pray for him/her,trye to be a friend,and remember that we all have one true friend who will be whit us from the very begining to the end,Jesus.
Blessings,Totterman

 

[tbcrawford]

I 16 years old & today, at school my friends were racing to the table at lunch, that they like to sit at like usual with another guy that wanted to sit there too, but today he was already sitting there. So my friends decided to sit down with him & while my friends were getting there lunchs, he got mad that we were sitting with him, so he threw my friends’ purses onto another table. My friend got mad when she saw this happen, so she told him forcefully to not throw purses. By then he got so mad, that he swore at my friend & decided to leave by jumping over the booth, we were sitting at, & tried to land in another booth but missed, & nocked the booth over. He fell on his back, he stood up to find the whole lunch room laughing at him, which made him so angry that he screamed in a very raging voice, “E-N-O-U-G-H!!!” I didn’t see what happened after that because I got scared & decided to sit by myself for lunch because I hate conflicts. I told my dad about this, & he said I should pray for him & watch out for him, because if he gets continually made fun of with this type of explosive anger, then he could end up like one of the Columbine kids & shoot people. So what should I do? Please reply because I’m kind of scared. Thanks for reading & replying ahead of time, bye!

Hi Rebekah I understand your fears and firstly you did the right thing telling your father.Next thing to do is speak to a member of teaching staff in confidence whom you trust (do you have a pastoral care member of staff?),a student counsellor?or a teacher you really trust? Speaking as someone who has worked in the secondary school system here in the UK I would hope a student would approach me about this so we could try to help the male student concerned.Not that we would go tittle tattling that someone had reprted him,no so we could keep an eye maybe find an opportunity to chat with him about any behaviour showing concern for him.Having the opportunity to speak with his parents and assess if all is well at home etc etc.

So i would suggest to you to confide in a member of staff about your concerns & make it clear you are not there to get him into trouble rather you are concerned for his welfare & you were frightened.
Your father is right to say pray for him.Please pray that God will ease his burden of anger & hurt and we will join you in prayer.God bless you Rebekah and we pray all goes well.Let us know.