I need some good advice

[molly4048]

I met this boy about a year ago through my roommate. The relationship was good considering we live 5 hours from each other. Well it ended after a few months due to a few reasons. The main one was that my parents do not approve of him. They don’t approve of him because…well, no one is going to be good enough to please my dad, and my mom wants me to get a nice boyfriend near me. She thinks dating someone so far away will hold me back from having a fun college experience. He and I are always in contact, and I care about him a lot. I don’t know if I should give it another try or not. I find that it makes me guilty to disappoint my parents, but shouldn’t they understand that I’m not interested in anyone else? I just don’t know what to do. Any advice?

 

[SilenceISgolden]

I met this boy about a year ago through my roommate. The relationship was good considering we live 5 hours from each other. Well it ended after a few months due to a few reasons. The main one was that my parents do not approve of him. They don’t approve of him because…well, no one is going to be good enough to please my dad, and my mom wants me to get a nice boyfriend near me. She thinks dating someone so far away will hold me back from having a fun college experience. He and I are always in contact, and I care about him a lot. I don’t know if I should give it another try or not. I find that it makes me guilty to disappoint my parents, but shouldn’t they understand that I’m not interested in anyone else? I just don’t know what to do. Any advice?

If you are young enough that your parents rule your dating life, then chances are you shouldn’t be dating! The purpose of dating is for you to find your future spouse and maybe they just think you aren’t ready for that at this point in your life.

 

[texaspanda]

The OP stated she was in college. Definately old enough to date.

Have you told your parents that you aren’t interested in anyone else? Do they truely know of your feelings?

 

[AlexaD]

It seems like you have parents that care about you and your best interests, and that not a bad thing when you look at the whole picture. I think you need to have a heart to heart with your parents to find out their concerns. Maybe they want you to focus more on college and your studies right now and not be in a long distance relationship, because LDRs take a lot of work. Maybe they have some reservations about the relationship in general and don’t want you to be locked into something right now. But nothing will get solved if you don’t talk it out and hear and try to understand their points of view. If your dad is the protective type, he may just need to get to know your guy a little better, and that might be difficult right now with the distance between the two of you. When it all comes down to it, you are in college and have to make your own choices. If you want to give the relationship another shot, you should. It’s the only way to find out if he is the boy for you in your life right now. Good luck!

 

[Phemie]

My daughter was 1500 miles away from the guy she loved all through university and for 2 years after that. They got married in 2006. It didn’t stop her fun university experience, it just meant she didn’t date anyone. That left her free to do lots of fun things without having to worry about finding ‘dates’.