I need to be held accountable

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Hey, guys, I have a hard challenge in front of me; I need to not look at any pornography or commit any sins until Easter. I am going to confession tonight, which will help my will power, but I know the devil will tempt me a hell of a lot before sunday. To me, it is just absolutely terrible to be in the state of sin during easter, but the struggle I face is so hard. I am looking for someone who can hold me accountable; someone who can (for 6 days) email me and essentially ‘check up’ on me each day. Please, If anyone could help me with this I would be greatly indebted; you can message me or I can give you me email address. God bless, John
 
Perhaps it would be best if your accountability partners were male, but I will just suggest to you that you think of HELL. Not only think of it, but read what the saints have to say about it. Think of how if you purposely do something that you KNOW is gravely sinful, that you will be turning your back on God and would go to Hell if you suddenly died. Now maybe this isn’t the best approach for all, but I can tell you from personal experience, fear of Hell can make you straighten up pretty quick, no matter what your sins are! Read about Hell and think of suffering ETERNALLY. NO SECOND CHANCES. You must keep totally busy. Shut down your computer and put it in the closet. If you have certain channels on your tv CALL NOW and CANCEL them. Make sure that any shows you do watch are wholesome and turn the channel right away if any thoughts begin to enter your mind. Exercise to the point of exhaustion. Read scripture. Go to daily Mass and/or Holy Week services. Go to church and sit in front of the Blessed Sacrament. Pray the rosary EVERY DAY. Pray the Chaplet of St. Michael. Do the dishes, vacuum the rug, shovel snow…keep your mind and body busy ALL DAY LONG so that when you go to bed you will be exhausted. And pray the 3 Hail Mary’s every morning and night and then pray, “Oh my Mother, preserve me from mortal sin during this day/night.” YOU CAN DO THIS with God’s help!!!
 
ask Jesus to check up on you, i’ll bet He would even hang out over your right shoulder if you want Him to…and hey, He can even hold you accountable at the same time…that’s like two birds with one cornerstone…

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God Bless
 
Or maybe draw up a list of ways you can make Good use of your time.
 
Ok, suggestion: don’t look at it from the perspective “from now till Easter”.

That is not going to work.

Look at it the way the Lord taught us to: from when you wake up to when you fall asleep.

So this means: from 3:39 PM EST (now) until whenever you go to sleep tonight, is the only thing you should be concerned with today.

Another bad idea is to think back at the “last time” you committed X sin, or have thoughts like “it’s been already x days/weeks/months/years/decades since I’ve committed X sins”. That just makes pride awaken, and lust is often connected to pride - at least, for me it is.

Some incisive strategies that I use in time of strong temptation: every beginning of hour or so, repeat the intro to the divine office: “God, come to my assistance. Lord, make haste to help me.” as you sign yourself. Also, whenever some strong temptation strikes, turn your mind quickly against it in disgust and repeat in your heart (or even with a silent voice) the Confiteor to wipe away all venial sins.

Also, in general it is an excellent practice that when you reach the night, you do one last examination of conscience followed by a Confiteor to obtain remission of all venial sins. Then as you fall asleep, put your spirit in God’s hands and close your eyes, without worrying about, thinking about, or even counting about waking up tomorrow. In short: make the most out of the day, as if you had that one day to serve the Lord.

Your strength against Satan is in your weakness: you must not grow, but become smaller and smaller. The more you realize how utterly weak you are before temptation, the better. The less you count on your will power, disregarding it as utter nothingness in the spiritual warfare, the more sincerely you will imitate the good Lord who said to the Father: “Not what I want, but what You want! Let Your will be done, not mine!”.

I am willing to PM you, but remember: God alone suffices.

Adjutorium nostrum in nomine Domini
qui fecit caelum et terram.
 
When I was struggling to be free of a habitual grave sin against chastity, the fear of Hell wasn’t enough to make me repent.

Rather, what brought me to contrition was the thought that my sins had crucified my loving saviour Jesus Christ, who is innocent and perfect. I felt crushed by guilt, and experienced what the Catechism calls interior repentance. By the end of my struggle, I was fighting back tears at every Mass.

Moving hymns played a large part in bringing me to contrition, and a heartfelt Prayer Before a Crucifix finally gave me the power to repent of that particular sin. My attitude to God has been transformed, and that sin is behind me now. I keep a crucifix in the place where I used to commit it; I read from the Daily Missal at the time when I used to commit it.

Whenever I feel the old urge awakening, a heartfelt Hail Mary is usually enough to suppress it. Otherwise, I bring out the big guns: the moving hymns, Isaiah 53, the Stations of the Cross, or a reflection on the Passion of our Lord.
 
There is the movie “The Passion of the Christ.” I’ve seen it twice, and have the DVD. I got that from my mom when she and my stepdad downsized. My mom said that she couldn’t watch again and seeing what “they” did to him. I reminded her that it was our sins that put him there. If you don’t fear hell, watch that movie and know that each sin just adds to his pain and suffering.
 
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