otm:
He tried once. Conflicted sexual identity is at the root of a number of suicides. People don’t go commit suicide because no one loves them; they do so because they are so mentally screwed up, and because of depression with despair overtones.
Every person I know of who has committed suicide was loved.
I never wanted to commit suicide but the sexual idenity and ‘finding yourself’ is probably the toughest thing ANY teenager can go through.
In retrospect, I felt like I ‘convinced’ myself that I thought I was homosexua when I was a teen. I felt socially shy, to begin with, and then had quite a number to girls turn me down in high school. I don’t know what your son’s social life was in high school, but kids can be pretty cruel.
Last year, I had a chance to talk to my brother and we probably firgured out why I thought I was gay, when I was younger.
This is what we came up with: Since I am visually impared and this was in the 1960’s, my father probably didn’t know how to deal with a disabled child. AND back then, it was common for the mother to stay home and be with the kids, SO I was more influenced by my mother than my father.
I know I must have broke my father’s heart that he couldn’t teach me sports or having rough play with the neighborhood kids. (One sharp blow to my head would (and can still) cause me to go blind).
With all that, now you can probably see why I thought the way I did.
Kids today are impressionable with what they see on TV and on the Internet…It seems that being ‘gay’ is ‘cool’. We all know it is NOT.
THAT was then and THIS is now.
However your son developed this attraction, is a concern, but just know that it can’t be permament. It wasn’t for me and I am sure this ‘could’ be the same here.
