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Templum
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Hi,
I am a proud church member. I have come a long way for my faith. I guess that’s why I’m proud. I try to not divide the church. I work hard at keeping peace with all the different personalities and customs in my church. That said, this includes the peace I try to keep with my priest. I need to get some help from you. How do we deal with the clergy in the situation below?
Situation:
Sometimes, I write to the priest and he replies acknowledging my request. Then time flies and he forgets to do something. For example, I ask him to contribute some ideas for something and he accepts to do it. However, he forgets to do it. This happens often. I have to remind him either by phone or in person. He tells me that he’s very busy, but accepts to help out with something anyhow. When I forget something, I usually work hard at improving it so not to bother everyone. I find it childish to have to remind him of things that he agreed to. It’s insulting sometimes. Sometimes, there’s no common sense. I feel like giving up and I’m starting to take this personally. He will do other things in a charitable way, but when it comes to remembering things, he’s very absent-minded. I need to find another way to communicate with this person. I told him and he agreed to this, that if I don’t get his e-mail reply by a certain day, I will call his office to relay the message verbally. He accepted this. However, even sometimes I do this and weeks go by and he forgets to do something. I have to contact him at his office again. It took 3 or maybe 4 times to get him to reply to a message I sent. I had to write to him, call him, call him again and leave a message with his secretary. I gave him time to respond, but he forgot so easily. He’s in his mid 60’s, so that might explain it.
How can I help this person remember things that concern church projects and stuff? Do priests have hectic jobs to that point? I’m a teacher and know that when one works with others, one has to be professional and socially aware of the communication skills that one needs to work harmoniously with the others. Priests sometimes give off the impression that they’re not connected to the world and thus, give the impression that they want nothing to do with us.
Therefore, again, how can I help my priest remember things that he agrees to and things that concern projects where I’m implicated? I want to improve this relationship because it’s upsetting and insulting. People would start thinking that there are other problems in this person’s life and they would probably take another direction.
Anyhow, can you help me find a smoother way of doing things, so that I too can rest and not have to “run” after this priest in order to get something done when he accepts to help?
I don’t want to divide the church or cause any quarrel, but rather find a better way of dealing with the clergy. They don’t much pratical experience those people.
Thanks,
Templum
I am a proud church member. I have come a long way for my faith. I guess that’s why I’m proud. I try to not divide the church. I work hard at keeping peace with all the different personalities and customs in my church. That said, this includes the peace I try to keep with my priest. I need to get some help from you. How do we deal with the clergy in the situation below?
Situation:
Sometimes, I write to the priest and he replies acknowledging my request. Then time flies and he forgets to do something. For example, I ask him to contribute some ideas for something and he accepts to do it. However, he forgets to do it. This happens often. I have to remind him either by phone or in person. He tells me that he’s very busy, but accepts to help out with something anyhow. When I forget something, I usually work hard at improving it so not to bother everyone. I find it childish to have to remind him of things that he agreed to. It’s insulting sometimes. Sometimes, there’s no common sense. I feel like giving up and I’m starting to take this personally. He will do other things in a charitable way, but when it comes to remembering things, he’s very absent-minded. I need to find another way to communicate with this person. I told him and he agreed to this, that if I don’t get his e-mail reply by a certain day, I will call his office to relay the message verbally. He accepted this. However, even sometimes I do this and weeks go by and he forgets to do something. I have to contact him at his office again. It took 3 or maybe 4 times to get him to reply to a message I sent. I had to write to him, call him, call him again and leave a message with his secretary. I gave him time to respond, but he forgot so easily. He’s in his mid 60’s, so that might explain it.
How can I help this person remember things that concern church projects and stuff? Do priests have hectic jobs to that point? I’m a teacher and know that when one works with others, one has to be professional and socially aware of the communication skills that one needs to work harmoniously with the others. Priests sometimes give off the impression that they’re not connected to the world and thus, give the impression that they want nothing to do with us.
Therefore, again, how can I help my priest remember things that he agrees to and things that concern projects where I’m implicated? I want to improve this relationship because it’s upsetting and insulting. People would start thinking that there are other problems in this person’s life and they would probably take another direction.
Anyhow, can you help me find a smoother way of doing things, so that I too can rest and not have to “run” after this priest in order to get something done when he accepts to help?
I don’t want to divide the church or cause any quarrel, but rather find a better way of dealing with the clergy. They don’t much pratical experience those people.
Thanks,
Templum
