I posted this in prayer but,

[notsmart]

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I need moral guidance also here. My priest I go to for this, as a non catholic for now- who is wonderful, I just have not been able to tell him this part yet. I am so afraid he will say I am not moral enough to be a catholic.
It’s better I tell him, and I will. Because he has wonderful spiritual advice and is very orthodox from what I can gather so far.

My moral dillemma, is if I will never even get to be a christian or a catholic. I see this as a huge problem. I think I will never forgive myself now, even though I am trying to see how forgiveness works with Jesus, and the catholic church. I really want to be a catholic, and even though I am new at this whole thing, I have tried and will continue to try to be catholic. But, if I am going to hell anyway, will it be worth it to continue?

I say it is. Because even if I do, I have a chance to raise my daughter as one. God willing.

But, is God going to punish her for my sin at this point? I know he should not? for my husband continuing to be an atheist, but what about my little girl?

Am I over thinking this?

 

[teachccd]

First of all, no one is moral enough to be a Christian, Protestant or Catholic.Christ came to die for us to save us from sin and bring us with Him to eternal life. God does not punish your children for your decisions nor your husband’s.

The God of Christianity only requires us to love. And when we fail to love then we must ask for forgiveness. The Father sent His only Son to die for us. Why? To demonstrate His infinite justice and His infinite mercy. God is love and there is nothing that one can do to change that. We can only change ourselves and either move closer to His essence of love or walk away.

You are overthinking this on one level and on the other I see great discernment. Keep up the questions and prayers. God will light your path in order for you to see the truth. Follow your instincts and move forward with your thoughts. You are almost there…God Bless…teachccd

 

[notsmart]

Is there anything else I can do now, today?
Sorry if I sound so demanding. I just want to know if there is anything since I have no recourse to the sacraments.

 

[Zach_Isaiah]

Hi notsmart,

I am so sorry for your lost. Your child committed no sin and know that God will eventually bring him to Heaven, just as he will you.

Teachccd is right, you are thinking a level too far. A miscarriage is unintentional, unlike abortion, God made you feel a loss so strong, so that you would grow a love for Him and your family that was even stronger.

Based on the meagre knowledge I have on this topic you have committed no sin. The only sin I can see (if there is one) is beating yourself up and allowing evil, dreadful thoughts to control you instead of trusting in God’s love. You said that you “[felt] like God will send [you] to hell”, this is exactly what the devil wants you to feel.

Here are a few suggestions, hope they can help.

1. 2 Nov is All Souls Day, why not go to your parish for Mass and have a prayer intention for your child.
2. You could also consider saying the rosary for your child.
3. Remember the 5 beautiful months you had with your child in your womb? Might I suggest that your wanting to pin a sin to yourself could be your own regret at not being able to fulfill the maternal-love for your child. But he is now experiencing love humans are uncapable of with God; so channel that love into your daughter, husband and God.

Please see this beautiful site, it contains better help that a brute like me can give.
freewebs.com/janeparkinson/

Regards
Zach

 

[TLM08]

We are all struggling to be pleasing to God. We all fall short from time to time. Your love for God and your desire to please Him is all you need to be Catholic. God Bless you!

 

[Tiago_Paolini]

Is there anything else I can do now, today?
Sorry if I sound so demanding. I just want to know if there is anything since I have no recourse to the sacraments.

In addition to the other suggestions, I suggest you look for a priest and make a confession so all the sins that you eventually might be committed will be forgiven by God.

 

[Ruthie]

Hi, Monica, you are getting smarter every day!

Ask if you can have a Mass said for your baby’s soul. I do not think you have to be officially Catholic yet to do that.

I firmly believe that, since God is merciful, and Jesus said, “suffer the little ones to come unto Me,” that your baby is in Heaven right now praying for you.

God bless you,

Ruthie