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I’m feeling really guilty about a joke I said today. My family and I were having a conversation about a friend who had visited. This friend, can be very trying at times, in that no matter how happy you are with your situation with life, he tells you other options that you should be doing and goes into lengthy details about it. At one point I said ‘He probably has discussions with God and tells Him what to do’. I got looks from my family that told me I should not have made that comment, and actually I felt before I said it that it was not appropriate but I thought since I was only kidding that it wasn’t that bad.

Since then, I’ve apologized to God I said “I’m sorry. That wasn’t appropriate, I shouldn’t have said that, I wish I didn’t say that. I’m sorry.”

But it hasn’t made me feel much better.😦
Was that comment I made a sin??
 
I think this falls into the “Ooops, I shouldn’t have said that” category. Most of us have been there and wish we hadn’t said what we did. You probably meant it as a joke and didn’t want to blaspheme God or anything like that and it just came out, I take it? If so, not a transgression, I would think.
 
It was a bit irreverent, but I wouldn’t consider it blasphemous. One of my best friends has a sister who is just like that person you were talking about. It’s always, “You should do blahblahblah,” as if she knows everything and knows better than you about your own business; it’s never a gentle suggestion. :hypno: So I can certainly relate to how easy it would be to say something like you said. Let it go, but if it is really bothering you, you can always make mention of it at your next confession. And maybe pray for that annoying person as your own private penance.
 
I don’t think it’s even irreverent. No more than the guy who once described Michael Jordan as “God in basketball shoes”. Truly I think God has a sense of humor and would even chuckle at what was said.
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Tell what you’ve told to God to your family. That will make you feel better.

And no, if you weren’t intentionally slamming your friend and it was intended in good spirit, file it under “Oops”. We all make mistakes and not all mistakes are sinful.
 
It’s not blasphemy, it’s those things that kind of slip out of your mouth, it is a sin, but you showed your remorse and you asked for forgiveness. You did what’s right.
 
I got looks from my family that told me I should not have made that comment, …
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From what you’ve described about your family’s friend, I’ll wager that your other family members have probably said something similar at least once… maybe not vocally, but in their heads or in private!
(Your sub-conscience thoughts just made it through the “filter” and made it to your vocal cords 😉 )

All of us slip from time to time, and sometimes it works for the good… Maybe he’ll realize that he should think about his comments before just blurting them - now that someone’s told him that they aren’t always wanted/needed/warranted.

No, you didn’t sin. You just stuck your foot in your mouth, and by being remorseful you’ve cleared it.
 
I think the only inappropriateness was in criticizing the family friend to others without a good reason (I’m assuming you didn’t have a good reason). It’s usually best not to say anything if you can’t say something nice.

That being said, I think it’s a pretty funny way of describing a personality that we’ve all had to deal with. I wish I had thought of it when discussing similar problems with my wife about someone I have to deal with regularly. It really gets the point across.

Don’t sweat it anymore.
 
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I’m feeling really guilty about a joke I said today. My family and I were having a conversation about a friend who had visited. This friend, can be very trying at times, in that no matter how happy you are with your situation with life, he tells you other options that you should be doing and goes into lengthy details about it. At one point I said ‘He probably has discussions with God and tells Him what to do’. I got looks from my family that told me I should not have made that comment, and actually I felt before I said it that it was not appropriate but I thought since I was only kidding that it wasn’t that bad.

Since then, I’ve apologized to God I said “I’m sorry. That wasn’t appropriate, I shouldn’t have said that, I wish I didn’t say that. I’m sorry.”

But it hasn’t made me feel much better.😦
Was that comment I made a sin??
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The other posts in this thread say whether or not it is a sin of blasphemy against God. None seem to consider whether or not it was a sin against charity towards your friend. Everyone has imperfections, gossiping about them behind their back does nothing good for them or for you. It can be very hurtful if the friend finds out about the gossip (either this, or something more serious that it may lead to). If they have a problem, take them aside (and don’t wait until you are reacting to something- people get defensive when you do that) and talk to them about what’s going on. They probably don’t even realize they are doing it. They probably think they are being helpful.
 
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