I stink at chastity!

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I keep falling and getting back up falling and getting back up. I have been struggling since adolescence. I have prayed and prayed. I keep going to confession but fall after only a few days. When I am in a state of grace I feel so close to God, and then I feel lonely suddenly one day and I fall again. I love God deeply but I still fail Him often. I am trying to schedule a confession for Friday after some prayer. I know with God all things are possible, but I need some serious miracles. Yet, I fear asking for miraculous intercession will.bring terrifying Divine Justice. If Job was innocent… I have been through terrible trauma in my life alreasy, much of it deserved from my awful past, some not deserved and very very painful. I shrink at the thought of more woes! I become more fearful each time I fail in this area He will have had enough and let me get hit by a car and be damned. I have few friends and have daus when the loneliness is agonizing. I have little money and cant afford hobbies to keep distracted with healthy leisure. I have no cable and my family is mot available. My time not at work is spent in almost perpetual solitude. So what comforts me? Unchastity. I cannot really fast often as my matabalism is extremely fast and I have to eat regularly just to stay not too much underweight. I am naturally skinny. If I don’t eat I can lose four pounds a day. My poor Confessor has to see me every single week it seems. I confessed monday and I felt great. Now I have to confess again. Please pray for me. Any words of encouragement be appreciated. Thank you in advance. I love God and my heart breaks that I break His heart.
 
My confessor also sees me every week, though not for the same reasons. Really, once a week is not unusually frequent so don’t worry about it. 🙂 Priests are happy to have penitents who are diligent about regular confession. Even if you are confessing the same sins every week, what’s the alternative—new sins? :eek:

Remembering you in my daily prayers, at Mass in around two hours, and at Adoration in three. God bless!
 
I go once a week sometimes more to confession and I have the same problem but I am getting better I am being chaste longer and longer between confessions , I remove temptations and I sleep with a rosary wrapped around my hand

anytime thoughts come into mind I say a prayer sometimes in Latin if I really want to get my mind for I know if I dwell of these thoughts for a second longer the temptation becomes that much stronger

and I remind myself that at Fatima it was revealed that most people are in hell by sins of the flesh which usually takes my mind off tempting thoughts

Pray and confess as often as you can , it will get easier as time goes on

this is a battle that is not won over night
 
Hey,

Its ok that you feel that way, its normal. Remember something, it is not God that condemns, it is you that condemns yourself. Ease on yourself and do not be hard. Those who struggle and suffer in their battles are being made stronger, this is God’s way of working in your life. The Holy Spirit has reached you and made you aware of your need for mercy. There is no sin that God can’t forgive, and Jesus said even if your brother sins against you seven times, as long as he repents each time he should be forgiven. The more you battle the more you will give your full heart to God and slowly as you mature it will get better, in the mean time, strive to fight against it and not fall into it again. The Rosary is powerful and keep it close to you, as well as the Divine Mercy Chaplet, read St. Faustina’s Diary, and pray, the Lord is always there when you pray even when you don’t feel it, I can attest to that.
 
Hi:)
I guess you are going through a tough moment. I will pray for you.
I wonder if this will be able to help you but please go on Youtube and watch a video
called “Romance without Regrets”. It’s about chastity and how you can maintain it.
It’s not just a boring lecture. It is one of the most valuable videos I’ve seen.
It will help you staying away from temptation. :yup:
I found this video very useful because it strengthened my commitment for chastity.
Please keep praying and I hope you can overcome it soon!
God bless:wave:
 
Don’t be too hard on yourself about this. Chastity, for most people, is the HARDEST of all the virtues to cultivate. This is because lust is the distortion of something natural and beautiful.

Relax more, pray and reflect on this. Look inside yourself and if you’re objective enough (and yes, you can be objective about yourself) than you are sure to find all the answers you are looking for. The key is to stay open. Keep things objective and in perspective. Of, course, also, allow yourself to be humbled by God and those whom you meet. In other words, when you KNOW someone is right, acknowledge it…**everything is connected **so I hope you’ve been bearing with me here.

Oh, and detox with green coffee extract if you are NOT allergic to caffeine and you can afford it (or manage to afford it in some honest way.)
 
Hail Mary,
full of grace,
the Lord is with thee.
Blessed art thou among women,
and blessed is the fruit of thy womb,
Jesus.
Holy Mary,
Mother of God,
pray for us sinners now,
and at the hour of our death.
Amen
 
I think you need to know that you are loved by your family, friends, and most of all by God. Probably you know that but subconsciously you think you’re a rot and undeserving of the love. You need to feel and rest in God’s love. He is enough. And if you are truly satisfied in Him, you will not need anything else to satisfy you. And you need to love yourself too because you are a beautiful person, created in the image and likeness of God. You are His beloved. The devil will tell you otherwise though and plant seeds of self-loathing in you. Do not believe in the devil’s lies. You are beautiful and loved.

Also, I suggest you surround yourself with people who share the same faith as you. When you feel tempted, read the Scriptures or pray.
 
You have my sympathy and my prayers. :console:

Try not to torment yourself with the idea that God will lose patience with you. He knew of every sin you would commit long before you even entertained the slightest thought of it; long before you were even conceived! He would not have created you and called you to know Him only to abandon you when you fall… no matter how often that may be! So long as you keep trying; keep striving; keep hoping, He *will *be there to pick you up. So do not give up on yourself; and most importantly, do not give up on His mercy.

I frequently fall into various types of habitual sin, but it comforts me to know that I have not been alone in this. Even St. Paul in Romans 7.14-25 seems frustrated by contrast between the tendencies of his flesh and the desires of his spirit: “For the good that I want, I do not do, but I practice the very evil that I do not want.” Thus, it seems we are in good company when it comes to our struggle against sinfulness!

Like you, I have a troubled past and little social support from fellow believers, so if you ever want to talk, feel free to message me and I’ll give you my email/MSN. I would be pleased to offer whatever encouragement and support that I can.
 
Hail Mary,
full of grace,
the Lord is with thee.
Blessed art thou among women,
and blessed is the fruit of thy womb,
Jesus.
Holy Mary,
Mother of God,
pray for us sinners now,
and at the hour of our death.
Amen.
 
Please pray for me. Any words of encouragement be appreciated. Thank you in advance. I love God and my heart breaks that I break His heart.
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I have other sins which i struggle and i feel the same way as you. Last time, that i went to confession, i told my priest that i was fed up to commit the same sine, what can i do.

He said, (not sure the right words) but that when we don’t pray we feel strong and when we do, we feel vulnerable. Because the light show us our sins and weakness and this is great news when we feel this way. He said, that God do this to show us our weakness and to remember us that we need Jesus always.

So now, i simply say please Jesus don’t leave me alone.

You are truly on the right path, because you keep on trying and keep on going to the confession.

I pray for you.

Dear God, please grant all the necessary graces to your child so he becomes strong through your beloved son. Please remind us to make the right choice always and to give us hope that everything will get so much easier as we know that Jesus is with us. Amen!
 
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Hail Mary, full of grace, the Lord is with thee.
Blessed are you among women, and blessed is the fruit of your womb Jesus.
Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners, now and at the hour of our death.
Amen.

Our Father who art in Heaven, hallowed be thy name.
Thy kingdom come, thy will be done on Earth as it is in Heaven.
Give us this day our daily bread.
And forgive us our trespasses, as we forgive those who trespass against us.
And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil.
Amen.

Glory Be to the Father, and to the Son, and to the Holy Spirit.
As it was in the beginning is now ever shall be world without end
Amen.

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Christopher1290 said:
Hey,

Its ok that you feel that way, its normal. Remember something, it is not God that condemns, it is you that condemns yourself. Ease on yourself and do not be hard. Those who struggle and suffer in their battles are being made stronger, this is God’s way of working in your life. The Holy Spirit has reached you and made you aware of your need for mercy. There is no sin that God can’t forgive, and Jesus said even if your brother sins against you seven times, as long as he repents each time he should be forgiven. The more you battle the more you will give your full heart to God and slowly as you mature it will get better, in the mean time, strive to fight against it and not fall into it again. The Rosary is powerful and keep it close to you, as well as the Divine Mercy Chaplet, read St. Faustina’s Diary, and pray, the Lord is always there when you pray even when you don’t feel it, I can attest to that.
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Amen.
This is very similar to what my Priest told me in confession last week, after my first confession in 10+ years a month ago, and then having to confess some kinds of relapse towards those sins.

Layperson, Christopher and all…you are added to my prayer list. May God give all of us the strength not only to ‘not sin’, but to get back up and confess and do better tomorrow when we do. He forgives!
 
Hail Mary,
full of grace,
the Lord is with thee.
Blessed art thou among women,
and blessed is the fruit of thy womb,
Jesus.
Holy Mary,
Mother of God,
pray for us sinners now,
and at the hour of our death.

Amen
 
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