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I think my priest is getting a little tired of me confessing the same sin. I really like this priest, but my question is, can he tell me “I will not forgive you, becuase i don’t believe you are trying”. I have been kinda reluctant to go to confession because I feel like he is tired of hearing it.

Advice anyone?
 
Have you expressed concerns to the priest that you keep committing the same sin? Perhaps he could give you some additional counsel in the confessional. If you are concerned about it, then you are obviously sorry for it, so I doubt he can refuse absolution.

I have a similar problem and I asked my confessor about it. He pointed out that there are times when I commit this particular sin less often and there are times when I slip more often than I should. His advice was to focus on the times where I committed this sin less often and offer it up to God the times when I didn’t. Then he absolved me yet again.

I wouldn’t worry too much.
 
What you need is a spiritual director, more than just a confessor. You meet with a spritual director about once a month & discuss your spiritual progress. The spiritual director will then give you suggestions, spiritual exercises, advice, etc (each has a unique style & technique.)

Sometimes your spiritual director is also your confessor. Perhaps this priest would be a good person for you to ask to guide you. If not, start searching & praying for a spiritual director to be revealed to you. Observe people who seem to have a spirituality that you admire & with whom you feel comfortable. Be careful, though, because a good spiritual director is not the one who makes you feel good about yourself all of the time. Spiritual directors usually end up helping us to see things in ourselves that need to be improved & that can be an uncomfortable but worthwhile process.

May God bless you!
 
Please don’t ask us on this forum to second guess your confessor. This is not a topic for public discussion. What happens in the confessional stays in the confessional. You either take the guidance of the priest or you reject it. Make up your mind, but don’t ask us to justify your decision. he is giving you spiritual direction. If you reject it, you need to ask yourself why, not to shop around for a priest who tells you what you want to hear.
 
Keep going to confession. A part of being a human being is committing the same sins over and over, again. The priest already knows he is going to keep hearing the same sins. We are the ones who get tired of confessing the same sins.
 
while all the posts are, no doubt, helpful hey do not answer the question romanryan asks:
but my question is, can he tell me “I will not forgive you, becuase i don’t believe you are trying”. I have been kinda reluctant to go to confession because I feel like he is tired of hearing it.
also, i don’t think he’s asking us to predict his confessor’s course of action:
Please don’t ask us on this forum to second guess your confessor. This is not a topic for public discussion. What happens in the confessional stays in the confessional. You either take the guidance of the priest or you reject it. Make up your mind, but don’t ask us to justify your decision. he is giving you spiritual direction. If you reject it, you need to ask yourself why, not to shop around for a priest who tells you what you want to hear.
i think he’s just asking a theoretical question but with great consequences

romanryan, the answer is yes
your priest “can” refuse you absolution
(whosoever’s sin you forgive, they are forgiven; whosoever’s you retain, they are retained- gospel of john)
i say this coz this has happened to me
if the priest truly believes that you are not sincere in your contrition
in my case, subconsciously, confession became a dumping ground for me whee i went before recieving communion and then promptly returned to sin after mass

however, priests , in general, are probably very hesitant to do this because of two reasons-
1)they may be wrong and the person may have real contrition
2)the person who is refused absolution may walk away and never return to the church thus giving up on god and himself completely

as far as you are concerned
I have been kinda reluctant to go to confession because I feel like he is tired of hearing it.
never forget that it is a sacrament, and it is your duty to be go regularly to confession and be perfectly honest.
also, talk to your priest/ spiritual director about your weakness in that particular area and ha will surely help you
 
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