The example you brought up is not correct. To have a good conversation whith friends is definitely in the “good” category. But it would be also good to pass the event, stay at home and dig into a good book. Why would either one of these be “morally” obligatory?
To clarify this, it needs to be said (again): goodness exists in God, and not in man. So when man chooses a moral good, he is taking an objective moral principle and subjectifying it.
If we are comparing two actions with one another, it becomes the responsibility of the moral observer to decide which one is conducive to goodness for the observer; here, we must look at the individual. Let’s say the content of the conversation would be about the wholesomeness of respect and love for your fellow man, and let’s say the book was on the dignity of the sexes as persons, not as objects. Let’s say the man is a philanderer: for him, it would be infinitely better to read that book.
Morality is no longer actions; it is in the heart. It transforms the way we perceive existence, and brings us closer to the God who loves us all.
Right… so there is no dusk, no dawn, only daylight and dark night. There are no shades of grey, there are no colors. Only black and white, only “good” and “evil”. I do not agree.
Another example: I see a homeless person, and give him a dollar. Is it a “good” act, or an “evil” act? I would say good. However, I could give him 10 dollars. Would that be a “better” act? If there are grades of “goodness”, both are “good”, maybe not the same degree. There are grades in actions, not just one action which is “good” and everything else is “evil”. According to your analysis, IF I could give 10 bucks, but only give one, then I committed an “evil” act. Do you see why I consider your stance irrational?
Not really; I just see your stance as increasingly lazy. Your analysis is only partially correct: it is better to give him $10, but this does not make the act of only giving him $1 evil. You’re stingy, but not evil; you’re less than perfect, which is expected for each of us.
The thing here is that looking also at the circumstances of the person who is committing an act; and it’s useful to take an example from Scripture.
He sat down opposite the treasury and observed how the crowd put money into the treasury. Many rich people put in large sums. A poor widow also came and put in two small coins worth a few cents. Calling his disciples to himself, he said to them, “Amen, I say to you, this poor widow put in more than all the other contributors to the treasury. For they have all contributed from their surplus wealth, but she, from her poverty, has contributed all she had, her whole livelihood.”
The Gospel of St. Mark, 12:41-44
The thing to see here is that the wealthy were not doing something bad; no, what we see here is that this woman did something
better. This is morality: we are called to do continually better for ourselves and for our fellow man. The man who tosses $5 in the collection plate every Sunday, while remaining an unrepentant is worse off than the sinner who repents, and tries for the rest of his days to be a better person.
The repentant man is beginning to see things as they are; the unrepentant man still walks on in darkness.
A sunset is just a sunset on its own. Yet to the rational human observer, it imprints on his heart the goodness of creation; it fosters a comprehensive way of looking at all of existence in the way it is really to be seen.
See the sunset as a “neutral” event, and its beauty is gone; appreciate it for one second, and you see that it is anything but neutral.