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I’m not normal in general & No, i don’t trust my parents with this.
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Whom can you trust? A priest? If so, please go to one and tell him it’s urgent. If not a priest then a mental health counselor, but make sure it’s one who respects Church teaching.
Please do what you need to do to feel stable and regain your faith in God. It may take time. Sounds like your mind is active and maybe tends to think so hard that you think yourself into a corner. I don’t know. A priest or counselor could help you with this, though.
Try not to get obsessed about a person and/or relationship at your age, especially one who you know isn’t going to be able to be what you want. God wants us to have a solid relationship with Him to mature (sometimes a lifelong process!) enough to be a good spouse. It’s not advisable to get too emotionally attached so young, and never to be obsessed with someone.
Also, hope you don’t mind, but I looked at your profile and saw you’re into gaming - I wonder if maybe you need to put it aside for awhile and re-establish contact with the real world. Gaming may not be healthy given the state of mind you’re in?
I’ll pray for you. Please go talk to somebody, OK?
Please do what you need to do to feel stable and regain your faith in God. It may take time. Sounds like your mind is active and maybe tends to think so hard that you think yourself into a corner. I don’t know. A priest or counselor could help you with this, though.
Try not to get obsessed about a person and/or relationship at your age, especially one who you know isn’t going to be able to be what you want. God wants us to have a solid relationship with Him to mature (sometimes a lifelong process!) enough to be a good spouse. It’s not advisable to get too emotionally attached so young, and never to be obsessed with someone.
Also, hope you don’t mind, but I looked at your profile and saw you’re into gaming - I wonder if maybe you need to put it aside for awhile and re-establish contact with the real world. Gaming may not be healthy given the state of mind you’re in?
I’ll pray for you. Please go talk to somebody, OK?
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styrgwillidar
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I believe you are clinically depressed. Note, that is a physiological condition involving a chemical imbalance and the inability to entertain positive thoughts- everything is negative. In fact, the portion of the brain where positive emotions/thoughts are processed has actually been shown to shrink in depressives. Self hatred is also a symptom of depression. While prayer will help, God blessed man with the ability to discover how things work- a psychologist can help with this.
For most people, happiness is a choice. We choose to be happy with what God has given us vice dwelling on the negative. You can’t choose that right now if you are clinically depressed which is why you need medical help along with prayer. (Talking to others, medication, and exercise have all been shown to induce the same kinds of physical chemical effects on the brain to counter depression). Hence, if you are generally a loner you need a wider circle of friends and/or a therapist.
Please research depression so you can better understand if you are struggling with it, a good place to start is:
www.depressionfallout.org
I will be praying for you. Perhaps God’s plan involved my giving you this hard-learned information so you can take steps to start helping yourself.
ETA: another link with info on physiological basis for depression
psycheducation.org/mechanism/12Conclusion.htm
For most people, happiness is a choice. We choose to be happy with what God has given us vice dwelling on the negative. You can’t choose that right now if you are clinically depressed which is why you need medical help along with prayer. (Talking to others, medication, and exercise have all been shown to induce the same kinds of physical chemical effects on the brain to counter depression). Hence, if you are generally a loner you need a wider circle of friends and/or a therapist.
Please research depression so you can better understand if you are struggling with it, a good place to start is:
www.depressionfallout.org
I will be praying for you. Perhaps God’s plan involved my giving you this hard-learned information so you can take steps to start helping yourself.
ETA: another link with info on physiological basis for depression
psycheducation.org/mechanism/12Conclusion.htm
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kildare
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Atheist lesbian? Why dont we call this girl what she is?
A female human being, as worthy of love as anyone else.
Dont become an atheist. Thats just stupid and a pathway to nihilism anyway. Every atheist I’ve ever met is a sad miserable case, and I live in Europe so I’ve met quite a few.
Anyway find this woman, convert her to christianity and marry her if she agrees, and have children!
If she doesnt love you back and maintains her position (which we know is self-destructive) then try to convert her to a celibate life. If she is not even interested in that then you know " stop feeding perls" to swine. Who knows you may be a Tobias lurching unknowing on a destined path to save and meet your own Sarah, who you dont even know.
A female human being, as worthy of love as anyone else.
Dont become an atheist. Thats just stupid and a pathway to nihilism anyway. Every atheist I’ve ever met is a sad miserable case, and I live in Europe so I’ve met quite a few.
Anyway find this woman, convert her to christianity and marry her if she agrees, and have children!
If she doesnt love you back and maintains her position (which we know is self-destructive) then try to convert her to a celibate life. If she is not even interested in that then you know " stop feeding perls" to swine. Who knows you may be a Tobias lurching unknowing on a destined path to save and meet your own Sarah, who you dont even know.
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i_need_helpp
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I Don’t know… I’ve prayed everyday before. I just don’t know. And yes, I do play video games and i am in contact with the real world.
She is a beautiful female Human being, Regardless of what she is.
Even if we were best friends in real life, It would be nice because She’s exactly like me. She
understands because she can relate. What should i do.?
I Have… I’ve talked to my priest a lot, I Just don’t know anymore.
My teacher said Going to the country she is is really Cheap, I didn’t say why i wanted to go i
just said i wanted to experience another country / Culture. She’s just been a really good friend. I Would love to go during the summer or spring Break. I Only trust her mostly.
I’m not the very sociable person anyway.
Is there really truly a God? i don’t know anymore.
She is a beautiful female Human being, Regardless of what she is.
Even if we were best friends in real life, It would be nice because She’s exactly like me. She
understands because she can relate. What should i do.?
I Have… I’ve talked to my priest a lot, I Just don’t know anymore.
My teacher said Going to the country she is is really Cheap, I didn’t say why i wanted to go i
just said i wanted to experience another country / Culture. She’s just been a really good friend. I Would love to go during the summer or spring Break. I Only trust her mostly.
I’m not the very sociable person anyway.
Is there really truly a God? i don’t know anymore.
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kildare
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“is there truly a God. I dont know anymore”
Do I really exist? I dont know anymore. bla bla bla
Stop wallowing and get a grip!
Take the plunge of faith and dont look back. Inevitably you will wonder, but you can not know the mysteries of the Universe. Like trusting a doctor you have to take someones word for it. No one better than Christ!
Pray the rosary, and pray to saint Michael as well! Your a war zone buddy!
Dont give up now!
Do I really exist? I dont know anymore. bla bla bla
Stop wallowing and get a grip!
Take the plunge of faith and dont look back. Inevitably you will wonder, but you can not know the mysteries of the Universe. Like trusting a doctor you have to take someones word for it. No one better than Christ!
Pray the rosary, and pray to saint Michael as well! Your a war zone buddy!
Dont give up now!
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Daizies
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I know that things look hopeless right now. It can be hard to see a way out when things look so bleak. I’ve walked through where you are, and I know it isn’t easy.
I know it’s easier said than done, but don’t give up. I know it is hard to hold on to God when it seems like He’s left you - but in reality, God is still there and He loves you so much.
I know it is hard to reach out, but you really do need help. If you trust your priest, tell him. Tell him everything, including wanting to slit your wrists and contemplating suicide, and ask for his help. Or call a crisis line, or see your physician. But whatever you do, please, reach out to someone, and you will find there are people who are ready and willing to help you. And once you have, and the fog begins to lift, you will see that God was always there.
I know it’s easier said than done, but don’t give up. I know it is hard to hold on to God when it seems like He’s left you - but in reality, God is still there and He loves you so much.
The pain doesn’t make you stronger. It only pulls you in deeper into yourself. It gets harder and harder to stop, and the pain grows stronger every time.
I know it is hard to reach out, but you really do need help. If you trust your priest, tell him. Tell him everything, including wanting to slit your wrists and contemplating suicide, and ask for his help. Or call a crisis line, or see your physician. But whatever you do, please, reach out to someone, and you will find there are people who are ready and willing to help you. And once you have, and the fog begins to lift, you will see that God was always there.
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I’m just suggesting balance - maybe weight it a bit more to the “real world” at this time because you seem to have lots of imagination - for what this girl could be to you and whatnot, but is it really possible? So maybe channeling your imagination into other areas of life would provide a sort of “grounding.” I don’t know.
I was wondering if you could elaborate on what you mean by “exactly like me”? - In what way(s) is she like you?
And when you say “she can relate,” what are you referring to? Your emotions? Your home life? Your beliefs? It would help those of us whom you are asking advice of if you could be just a bit more specific.
What were some helpful things the priest did say to you?
Sounds like there aren’t other people you feel are trustworthy also? Or are you deliberately wanting to be secretive? I’m not trying to grill you, but the idea that only one person is the perfect one to confide in and there are no other possibilities is kind of limiting. You might be setting yourself up for frustration and letdown without realizing it.
There are kind of two lines of thought in your posts - what to do about the girl, and what to do about God. And they are intertwined, but what is the common thread that connects them? Is it despair over the girl making you feel despairing about God? Or something else?
Note to those making rude comments to the OP - have you never felt bad or complained ever in your life, especially as a teenager? :tsktsk: Is dissing him going to help him want to trust an adult who might be able to help him sort through things? Let he who is without sin cast the first stone.
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I’m just suggesting balance - maybe weight it a bit more to the “real world” at this time because you seem to have lots of imagination - for what this girl could be to you and whatnot, but is it really possible? So maybe channeling your imagination into other areas of life would provide a sort of “grounding.” I don’t know.
I was wondering if you could elaborate on what you mean by “exactly like me”? - In what way(s) is she like you?
And when you say “she can relate,” what are you referring to? Your emotions? Your home life? Your beliefs? It would help those of us whom you are asking advice of if you could be just a bit more specific.
What were some helpful things the priest did say to you?
Sounds like there aren’t other people you feel are trustworthy also? Or are you deliberately wanting to be secretive? I’m not trying to grill you, but the idea that only one person is the perfect one to confide in and there are no other possibilities is kind of limiting. You might be setting yourself up for frustration and letdown without realizing it.
There are kind of two lines of thought in your posts - what to do about the girl, and what to do about God. And they are intertwined, but what is the common thread that connects them? Is it despair over the girl making you feel despairing about God? Or something else?
Note to those making rude comments to the OP - have you never felt bad or complained ever in your life, especially as a teenager? :tsktsk: Is dissing him going to help him want to trust an adult who might be able to help him sort through things? Let he who is without sin cast the first stone.
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lovemyboys
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I’m praying for you right now. Everyone goes through these dark times in life (especially in the 20s)-- even saints. The Diary of Saint Faustina might be good for you right now.
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lovemyboys
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"If souls would put themselves completely in my care, I myself would undertake the task of sanctifying them, and I would lavish even greater graces on them. There are souls who thwart My efforts, but I have not given up on them; as often as they turn to Me, I hurry to their aid, sheilding them with My mercy, and I give them the first place in My compassionate Heart.
~ God speaking to St. M. Faustina Kowalska, The Divine Mercy in My Soul Diary, 1682 (59) May 1, 1938.
~ God speaking to St. M. Faustina Kowalska, The Divine Mercy in My Soul Diary, 1682 (59) May 1, 1938.
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lovemyboys
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catholicprogress.com/livingproof.htm
This is the miracle that made Faustina a saint. There are thousands (if not more) stories like this in our church-- read enough of them and your faith WILL come back! We have the miracles to PROVE God exists!!!
This is the miracle that made Faustina a saint. There are thousands (if not more) stories like this in our church-- read enough of them and your faith WILL come back! We have the miracles to PROVE God exists!!!
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i_need_helpp
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We relate by emotions, everything. She’s perfect…
Why does she have to be so far away.?
i have no real life friends, I don’t care.
people think i’m weird, I’m not very sociable.
Why does she have to be so far away.?
i have no real life friends, I don’t care.
people think i’m weird, I’m not very sociable.
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i_need_helpp
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We relate by emotions, Everything.
i have no real life friends, i don’t care.
People think i’m weird, i don’t care anymore.
Why does she have to be so far away?
We have the exact same personality, Everything.
i have no real life friends, i don’t care.
People think i’m weird, i don’t care anymore.
Why does she have to be so far away?
We have the exact same personality, Everything.
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lovemyboys
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Please let this girl go-- if she’s a lesbian, you’re just wasting your time. You’ve GOT to find some more girls. I’m guessing you’re in your 20s-- everyone goes through this stuff. I was depressed for 2 years in my 20s over some distant guy who wasn’t interested in me. Take it from me, you must force yourself to find other girls to make yourself forget about this one. Please feel better!!!
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i_need_helpp
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I’m actually Not in my twenties… & She just said she doesn’t know. I’m in high school.
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i_need_helpp
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What she is… i just wanna be with her.
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Monica4316
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Hi,I’ve Prayed the rosary, Read the catechism Went to mass, Confession, Even thought of joining the priesthood when i graduated high school or College.
Everything…
Is there Really A God?
I’ve truly loved God… Prayed the Rosary every night before i went to Sleep, Never stopped Praying. According to the Catechism / Bible, God is the source of True happiness.
Why can’t i feel happiness?
Well, there was one good thing that happened i guess, I Met My best friend but she’s lesbian. I’ve talked to her about everything but there is one thing…
She’s in a different Country.
She’s my dream girl I’ve talked to her about everything that i would never tell anyone else I just Can’t trust the others including my family like her.
She’s an atheist Even when i was a born again Catholic, I’ve never judged her, She’s never judged me.
Why am i doubting the existence of God period? i Wish i could date her, We’re a lot alike… She’s so beautiful to me…
But all i want is true happiness with myself i hate myself, Everything about me i hate.
She said if we met up, We would be Best friends. I’m not very sociable at all but i would be comfortable being with her. i would also be very happy if i could…
I’ve told her stuff that i would never tell my family because she relates to it and never judges me.
Why does she have to be so far away? She’s basically a year older than me
God, Do you exist? I’ve prayed the rosary just to get close to Mary and You.
All i want is happiness within myself…
If i told anyone in my family this, They would judge me.
Please Help, Thank you I Appreciate it.
If there’s anything I learned… it’s only one thing… we should not base our faith on our feelings. If we do not feel faith, if we don’t feel happiness, or peace, etc, when we pray, it does not mean there’s a God. It could be that we’re going through a trial, either self imposed (result of unconfessed sin, doubt, etc), or a cross sent to us by God, or an attack from the enemy. We know God is real from FACTS… from historical facts, from how He came to earth and died for us, for the witness of the martyrs and Saints and all the miracles that have happened, but most of all, because God has given us faith. Faith is a gift. You would never have been able to believe in God if He had not given you faith, and that is a precious gift… be careful not to lose it… but if you feel you have lost it, there’s ALWAYS a way back, with His mercy. Trust Him that He understands how you feel right now… but try to pray and reach out to Him. Don’t base your faith on feelings!!
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Monica4316
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I need helpp…Why? why can’t i feel happiness? That’s all i truly want. she’s helped me a lot… i want Joy, happiness within myself. yet i hate myself. i’m tired of feeling this… she’s helped me a lot.
i’ve just basically i don’t know anymore… i’ve just given up a while ago…
I just wanna be with her… in the summer maybe.
CS Lewis once said something very wise… if we look for comfort (happiness), all we’ll get is wishful thinking, and in the end, despair. If we look for truth, we’ll find it, and happiness also, in the end.
see the truth is that God loves you a billion times (no infinitely more) than your friend does. He died for you, and if you had been the only person on earth, He would have died for you. Who else has proved their love in this way? He understands you better than you understand yourself… definitely better than any human being on earth, no matter how understanding they are. You’ll simply never find anyone on earth who will love you more than God does… so why not try to trust Him and reach out to Him?
remember faith is a choce, it’s not a feeling… here’s a link I wanted to share with you, please read it slowly… try to understand how God sees you.mcpriests.com/03_I_thirst_PrayerEN.htm
God bless you
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But are you being realistic, or letting a romantic infatuation carry you away into a dream world? Would it really, truly last? Would it make you happy for the long term? Can you even answer such a question objectively at your age?We relate by emotions, Everything.
i have no real life friends, i don’t care.
People think i’m weird, i don’t care anymore.
Why does she have to be so far away?
We have the exact same personality, Everything.
She is where she is and you are where you are because that is God’s will at the present time. If you really were meant to be together then God would arrange it. In the meantime, try to lift out of the sadness and develop a well-rounded personality - you will feel better and have more to offer whomever the Lord has in mind for you to love long-term.
Compatibility of personality is a desirable thing, but maybe you want to fuse with this gal and become one person, like a collective mind? Is your individual life so dismal that you don’t feel comfortable being “you”?
Now is a time you won’t get again, to be taking advantage of your youth and single status to explore life, develop interests, think about vocation and mission in life, what kind of work you would like to do in a few years and what classes you should take now to prepare yourself for that.
To have good clean fun and take care of your health and build relationships with family and friends. If family relations are strained, at least try to build some supportive friendships. Maybe even think of getting an animal or volunteering with animals if you aren’t feeling like being around people all the time.
Just tossing out ideas . . . :juggle:
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