I want my anxiety and worriness to stop controlling my life

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This is the first time working in years. My anxieties caused me not to work for years. My social anxiety is what I have. I need to know how to deal while working at any place.
 
That may be true, but this still might not be the job to begin with.
 
Thank you for the advice. But right know I need this job. I will apply to other jobs and see what happens. I just need advice on why this guy is acting like that and how to cope and deal with him.
 
I’ve taken a bunch of different anxiety meds. I’m much better with than without. Just sayin’.

A diabetic needs insulin.
 
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This is the first time working in years. My anxieties caused me not to work for years. My social anxiety is what I have. I need to know how to deal while working at any place.
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Well. There’s supplements.

Then you have the release stuff like flexing your arms out in front of you and releasing as you open your hands - like you’re holding dumbbells or planting your feet and pushing into the ground and other techniques like that.

Then you have positive self talk where you talk yourself through attacks and reinforce positive self talk while you ride it out and then using the same kind of imaging to try and prevent those attacks.

Slightly longer term, you have engaging your coworkers in a way that builds familiarity (like hanging out outside of work) so you wear away your fight/flight response to those people.

But above all, if you have a physiological issue that causes serious anxiety that’s so bad it’s kept you from working for years, then there is a very likely possibility that you actually need medication.

Next time you schedule a visit, pick someone who is a licensed psychiatrist rather than a psychologist.
 
I found out today at work why my coworker does these things. He teases everybody regardless who they are. He is an attention seeker. A big time flirt, I mean he literally is silly little boy. I talk to him and he said he was sorry for doing those things to me. He said because I wasn’t really friendly with him and I was friendly with the other male junior associates that he jokes around with, he didn’t understand why I was treating him differently. I told him why because he was rude towards me. And the other male junior associates were more friendly with and helpful. I actually feel bunch better and relieved my anxiety went away. I think it’s just best to talk to people instead of keeping your feelings inside. Thank you for all your advice. God Bless You.
 
That’s so neat! And funny, because I was just about to post to you to make friends with him! Glad it turned out well for you! Good work hanging on! God bless you!
 
Hello, I just want to say something about what I found out at work and ask how to handle my coworkers. I realize that these coworkers are bullies and they boss us around. They don’t say anything nice. I don’t trust anybody now at work I am paranoid that the managers and associate are siding with these bullies like what happened to me in high school. All those memories are coming back to me. The teachers and principals always sided with the bullies and made me feel like I was the one with the problem. They never smile, the are sacrastic, the just say mean things like they are joking, and are very rude. The tone of voice sounds agigtated and unfriendly. They call people names instead of their real names. I mean they are white, and white looking Latinos. The way they boss us around like we are their slaves in a plantation. That is how it feels. The white guy that hangs around them is so unfriendly, doesn’t talk to anyone and Nevers says hi. He looks at me with disgust because I am clearly mix race. He doesn’t talk to any of the black guys, or the mix race workers. I know I am not a threat to them, but how do I handle them without losing my job.
 
Don’t try to handle people. Just do your job the best that you can and be nice. You don’t have to like them, be friends with them, or get along with them necessarily. You just have to do your work and do nothing that can come back at you. Do not confide in anyone there about how you feel about others.
 
Thank you for the advice. But I already told the shift manager because he was saying a lot of people were complaining about being disrespected by their coworkers and if any one else had the same issues. I just told him that some coworkers do boss me around acting like their are my boss and I am their employee. But I did tell the other coworkers who were complaining about them too. I mean I have seen them boss them around. I will take your advice and just ignore them and just concentrate on my job. Thank you. God Bless You.
 
Telling your boss or shift manager is fine. Even complaining along with the others was okay. But now that it’s been aired as a problem, let it be. Either your boss or manager will fix it, or they won’t. There is nothing to be gained by discussing it with others further. Best wishes for the future.
 
Not working for many years has caused me social anxiety problems but also I have an overbearing mother who doesn’t want me to be independent. I need to learn how to drive I have my permit the drivers school gives you six hours on the wheel training and you can go to the DMV to get your license. My aunt said I can borrow her car for work. My mother complains that I can’t drive and the word can’t is what is stopping me from driving. I know I can learn to drive but to drive alone by myself is what scares me because of my mother not supportive but is the negative attitude and words that have affected me my whole life. I need to start driving to work.earlier because they are changing my hours to an hour early. The bus are not working during those hours.can I ask anyone how long it took you to get a driver’s license. Any positive will help me. Thank you and God Bless
 
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