I want to confess but am afraid of what the priest will say

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I believe that you realize what has transpired. First, are you absolutely sure that this girl was pregnant? Could you have been scammed? How well did you know her? Was it an extremely large sum of money? Cash? I am only presenting these questions because you MUST first know the truth behind this whole event. You must know if this act of abortion really occurred. Secondly, even if it may not have occurred, you know that your desire to
have this act performed is sinful in itself. I do not know your age or background but you are knowledgeable enough to both understand your actions and present them in this forum. Therefore, I presume that you have a conscience and know Gods Commandments. Every response to you has recommended that you immediately seek help. TAKE this advice from all these good Christians. The longer you wait the less chance that you will seek Gods help. Your soul will exist forever, either in eternal joy, or eternal misery. Finally, if this abortion has occurred, which is very possible, you MUST answer for it. Better do it now than after death. For if you seek absolution, you must act accordingly, see a Priest, follow all of his advice, do what is asked of you, and most importantly, you must be TRULY sorry for your actions, NEVER consider this action again. As you move on, I would recommend that you consider working with others to end abortion and help those facilities that support and protect those brave woman, that have made the decision to have their children. I care, we all care, and God cares, be not afraid. Go now and do what is right in the eyes of YOUR CREATOR. God Bless and keep you…
 
I looked up all the phone numbers of every church in my area, and will call each one tomorrow. I will say that I know they have their normal confession hours on Saturday, but I feel this is a serious matter needing an appointment. The strange thing about this is the mother texted me before asking me how I am and I am the one who now feels horrible and she feels like it was for the best.
 
I would recommend making an appointment with a priest, since you have a lot to confess (fornication, missing Mass, abortion), so you need to have time to sort out your situation with the priest. You should also ask him how to go about getting confirmed.
 
Lormar said:
RRUsso, go meet with a priest ASAP. You need to get this off your chest. Don’t be afraid either. That is a trick of satan to keep you from going. I assure you that you will meet only with mercy, kindness and forgiveness.

God bless you! I have said a prayer for you and all involved.
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Ditto to all that. 👍

“Be not afraid.” (Isaiah 41:10, Mark 5:36, Matthew 14:27)

RRusso,
You obviously feel genuinely sorrowful and remorseful. That therefore makes you a candidate for mercy. It’s waiting for you. 🙂
 
RRusso1982 said:
I would say the first thing to address is the abortion.
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Certainly, but a valid confession requires that the penitent confess all mortal sins that they are aware of having commited, so you should also address the other issues when you meet with the priest.

God bless.
 
RRusso1982 said:
I looked up all the phone numbers of every church in my area, and will call each one tomorrow. I will say that I know they have their normal confession hours on Saturday, but I feel this is a serious matter needing an appointment. The strange thing about this is the mother texted me before asking me how I am and I am the one who now feels horrible and she feels like it was for the best.
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I wonder if she is telling you what she thinks she wants you to hear. She might be denying a serious hurt and if you were to respond saying “I don’t feel that way, I regret that I pushed you to do this and I’m sorry,” she might be able to find healing as well.
 
That’s what I am saying to her and she is saying she thinks it is for the best.
 
RRusso1982 said:
I looked up all the phone numbers of every church in my area, and will call each one tomorrow. I will say that I know they have their normal confession hours on Saturday, but I feel this is a serious matter needing an appointment. The strange thing about this is the mother texted me before asking me how I am and I am the one who now feels horrible and she feels like it was for the best.
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Unfortunately, decisions like these tend to have a lingering effect. Abortion is a terrible thing
 
RRusso1982 said:
That’s what I am saying to her and she is saying she thinks it is for the best.
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isn’t denial one of the first stages of dealing with grief? Direct her to Project Rachel and tell her that since you are the only other person who really understands the total ramifications of this ‘issue’, that you will always be there for her to lean on…2days from now or 20 years from now. IF YOU MAKE THAT PROMISE, KEEP THAT PROMISE!
I will pray for you, the mother of your unborn baby, and your baby (although, I believe in the ultimate Mercy of God…so I believe your baby is happy and snuggling with Jesus!)

I’m sad that you can’t talk and have to text about these things…
 
RRusso1982 said:
I looked up all the phone numbers of every church in my area, and will call each one tomorrow. I will say that I know they have their normal confession hours on Saturday, but I feel this is a serious matter needing an appointment. The strange thing about this is the mother texted me before asking me how I am and I am the one who now feels horrible and she feels like it was for the best.
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Don’t say you FEEL it is a serious matter, say that it IS a serious matter and you need to speak to a priest for longer than just a few minutes in the confessional.

Pray for the mother of your baby. It may hit her later, what she has done.
 
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I believe that you realize what has transpired. First, are you absolutely sure that this girl was pregnant? Could you have been scammed? How well did you know her? Was it an extremely large sum of money? Cash?
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I am only presenting these questions because you MUST first know the truth behind this whole event. You must know if this act of abortion really occurred. Secondly, even if it may not have occurred, you know that your desire to
have this act performed is sinful in itself. I do not know your age or background but you are knowledgeable enough to both understand your actions and present them in this forum. Therefore, I presume that you have a conscience and know Gods Commandments. Every response to you has recommended that you immediately seek help. TAKE this advice from all these good Christians. The longer you wait the less chance that you will seek Gods help. Your soul will exist forever, either in eternal joy, or eternal misery. Finally, if this abortion has occurred, which is very possible, you MUST answer for it. Better do it now than after death. For if you seek absolution, you must act accordingly, see a Priest, follow all of his advice, do what is asked of you, and most importantly, you must be TRULY sorry for your actions, NEVER consider this action again. As you move on, I would recommend that you consider working with others to end abortion and help those facilities that support and protect those brave woman, that have made the decision to have their children. I care, we all care, and God cares, be not afraid. Go now and do what is right in the eyes of YOUR CREATOR. God Bless and keep you…

This is a really good point, OP, and I have heard of this being done…The woman will say she is pregnant, the man gives her money for an abortion, except that she isn’t pregnant and doesn’t get an abortion, it’s just a scam. I actually hope that is what has happened to you, rather than having your child aborted. Did you pay the abortion provider, or just give her the cash? It sounds as if you didn’t really know her well at all.
 
RRusso1982 said:
That’s what I am saying to her and she is saying she thinks it is for the best.
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RRusso - praying for your good confession, healing and forgiveness. Do not agonize over the confession - just do it. One thing, pray a rosary (or rosaries) for a good confession. Mary will help you.

Ishii
 
I agree with the others- call and make an appointment for confession and pour your heart out to Jesus( via the priest) Do not just confess the abortion but all that is on your heart because our Lord loves you so much He wants to bless you and help you get started on a better path. Be honest and sincere. I have a beautiful prayer of contrition I want to share with you:

Dear Lord, I am really sorry for these sins of mine. I have confidence that you will forgive me, because your mercy is so profound that you never give up on us. I firmly hope and intend to be more faithful to your will and your commandments. But I know I am weak-willed, so please help me with your grace. Amen.

The Lord is waiting eagerly to see you in confession. Don’t worry about priests as they’ve heard it all. In the end we all meet The Lord and must give account for everything so it would be much better going now regardless anything a priest might say! Do Not Delay as many do- call now and please GO.

My love in Christ,
mlz
 
Dear OP,

Welcome back, Prodigal Son!

As other posters have written, please focus our Lord’s mercy as you meet with the priest, not on the priest. You are responding to the Holy Spirit’s prompting to reconcile with Jesus. Give thanks to God that you want to return to Him!

Yes, your Confession might not be easy for you – but God will help you to be humble and honest, if you are open to receiving those gifts. Know that your priest will be celebrating with you as you encounter the Lord in this sacrament.

After you are reconciled, please continue to pray every day for our Lord’s help to continue walking on the path toward Heaven. Seek help from other Catholics to do so. And attend and fully participate in Mass every weekend!
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Guide for Examination of Conscience for Confession:
scborromeo.org/confess.htm

Sacrament of Reconciliation (Penance, Confession):
stevencwelsh.com/faith/Catholic-Faith-Sacraments-Confession-Reconciliation-Penance.php

On the Sacrament of Penance or Reconciliation
ewtn.com/library/bishops/penance.htm
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TheRealJuliane said:
This is a really good point, OP, and I have heard of this being done…The woman will say she is pregnant, the man gives her money for an abortion, except that she isn’t pregnant and doesn’t get an abortion, it’s just a scam. I actually hope that is what has happened to you, rather than having your child aborted. Did you pay the abortion provider, or just give her the cash? It sounds as if you didn’t really know her well at all.
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I believe it really happened. Remember, at first, she wanted to have the baby. Plus, she really doesn’t seem llike the type to scam someone.
 
I looked on all the church websites. Every single one has regular confession hours on Saturday. If I call to make an appointment, I’ll probably have to wait longer. I will go during the regular confession hours and he priest suggests making an appointment, I will certainly do that. At least I will be getting it started on Saturday though.
 
RRusso1982 said:
I looked on all the church websites. Every single one has regular confession hours on Saturday. If I call to make an appointment, I’ll probably have to wait longer. I will go during the regular confession hours and he priest suggests making an appointment, I will certainly do that. At least I will be getting it started on Saturday though.
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No. Make an appointment. And as TheRealJuliane says, say that it is a serious matter. Making the appointment is “getting it started” and if you stress that it’s a serious matter, there is no reason it should take long for a local priest to find the time for you (they have a serious responsibility to do just that).

This matter, and your general faith life, requires more time and discussion than can be afforded in regular confession, with queues and time pressures.
 
RRusso1982 said:
I believe it really happened. Remember, at first, she wanted to have the baby. Plus, she really doesn’t seem like the type to scam someone.
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Well, I think you have to treat it as real, and go and speak to a priest in person about what you’ve done. He will help you from that point. I will pray for you. Have courage.
 
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