I want to love Mary but I don’t feel it. Anybody else have that problem?

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I want to love Mary but I don’t feel it. Anybody else have that problem?
 
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A very good Catholic I know who recently died had a very strong devotion to Our Lady, but admitted he didn’t feel it.

He said, serenely: “I guess I don’t need a feeling to love Her, otherwise God would give it to me”.
 
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Spirituality evolves. Don’t get stressed about mystical aspects of your relationship with God.

Just say a few Hail Mary’s each day and your devotion well come when it is right.
 
I try to say the Rosary every day. I admit that I feel like I’m “just going through the motions a lot of the time but I figure at least the Blessed Mother who I believe with all my heart is the Queen of Heaven knows I am trying.
 
Just hoping to get credit for trying. I feel like the person who said “I love you. Help me to love you.”
 
Love is a choice. It is love whether or not one has the emotional feelings.
 
Jesus said that to enter Heaven we should be like children. So imagine yourself as a child and Mary walking with you, holding your hand and taking you to Jesus.
 
I agree with others that the feelings are secondary. In fact love is most surely love when there’s no feeling but you still follow through.

Also, it’s not if you have to have a devotion to Mary. The church is full saints, and yeah, she’s probably the biggest, but I’m sure there’s many more relatable out there for you. Personally for me it comes and goes. That’s ok too.
 
Love is an act of the will. It’s saying “yes” to the beloved. In the case of Mary, it’s choosing to act on your desire for a devotion to her. Start having a devotion to her. Don’t worry about feelings. Sometimes there are feelings. Sometimes there aren’t. Love isn’t a feeling. It’s an act of the will.

-Fr ACEGC
 
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I want to love Mary but I don’t feel it. Anybody else have that problem?
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The way the BVM is presented in modern Catholicism is usually with a heavy emphasis on sweetness, kindness, and often motherliness. This appeals very strongly to some, but less to others. For some the modern BVM may even be a little bland. In the middle ages she was sometimes depicted more belligerent and/or regal, and you can still find artwork in that style in some churches. Depictions of Mary in Orthodox churches also feel different from typical Roman Catholic depictions. You’re welcome to find a depiction that appeals to you – as long as its faithful of course – and pray to Her while envisioning Her that way. (But also note that Marian devotion isn’t a requirement.)
 
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I love my husband. My husband loves me.

Some days I do not FEEL loving towards him, I do not feel “in love” with him, honestly some days I do not even like him. He would tell you the same thing about me, I am far from perfect.

I love our son. Lacking some deep psychological problems, parents love their children.

There are days when children can be frustrating, when the parent is elbows deep in vomit and the other kids are running like wild squirrels, when a teen is hateful and mean to their parents, when a parent does not feel all lovey about their kids.

The important thing is that even in the moments when we dislike the people in our lives, we choose to love them. We choose to continue to love, to continue to care, to continue past the dry times.
 
Not really. The marian things were never an issue for me, as I’m very close to my mother. That being said, I kind of understand the aversion to them. Work them out, think about what you feel that way, look at the problem, and fix it.
 
I don’t really have an emotional pull either. I offer rosaries because I have been told they’re a chief way to grow in virtue and because I hope to get a devotion. I hope the BVM honors that.
 
Visiter58,

I know what you mean, but I think there is a reason for it…

The Blessed Mother is said to be very private and reserved, which may be one reason… She points more to Jesus than herself…

Another thing is - based upon my experiences in prayer with her - she is absolutely the most sublime entity (other than the Trinity itself) in existence… I always say - and I do believe - the best Blessings come from Mary’s intercession, but it’s sometimes hard to discern how she is “operating” in the course of a prayer… although, if she wants, she can definitely make her intercession very pronounced…

Generally, however, it seems like it is only after a long time that I can recognize the blessings she brings…
 
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