I went to Mass on Halloween night while my parents were out. Mom’s now evicting me

[heidi_storage]

Also look up your rights as a tenant, especially in the middle of a pandemic. Although it is ultimately probably good for you to move out, you may have the right to stay longer or require written notice of eviction–something to bear in mind if you find yourself unable to secure housing by the time your 30 days are up.

 

[oldgraymare2]

I don’t know. I’m autistic, and I need help.

I would begin by talking to your local parish priest/pastor of your church.

He would know of the local social outreach services in your area that you would be able to go to for help.

Some of the agencies that I can think of are:

The St. Vincent De Paul Society
Catholic Charities/The United Way
The Salvation Army

 

[sorrowful1]

So sorry to hear about your situation. You shall be in my prayers. I try to keep everyone who has posted here for different intentions, in my daily rosary prayers (although, I do not post them here).

But it certainly sounds strange that your mother is evicting you as if you’ve committed a very heinous crime unforgivable to the entire humanity!!!

May God bring peaceful settlement between you and your mother. Amen.

 

[Legend]

While I question your mother’s sincerity in her intention to ‘evict’ you (eviction is a legal move…has she consulted law enforcement and housing authorities? Does she have a lawyer working for her?) she may be taking advantage of your disability to frighten you, get you to volunteer to pay rent, or in some way trying to take advantage of your situation.

If this is the case, you’d definitely be better off moving out. Once you do begin paying regular rent…well, it’s probably best to be paying it to an official landlord, not a parent who may change her mind at any time.

Do you have any siblings living outside the home? If yes, I’d speak to them. Of the conditions under which they left, their relationship with your mom now? Anything that they are willing to answer! Also, you may ask to stay with them…temporarily…if you truly can’t find a place within a month.

What you did wasn’t a major offense, for most people. Is there often vandalism on Halloween nights? If so, the police are most likely taking steps to prevent it.

There are also laws that protect you. I think you must be notified a certain number of days, before she can change the locks, and there must be a couple of days afterward, when you are allowed in…under police escort, if she insists…to get your things. And if the ownership of anything is disputed, she may have to provide proof that something isn’t yours.

In short, it’s a messy process. Call the police, try to have a consult with a lawyer…many give free, one-time or first consults, over the phone…call your local housing authority. Find out just what your rights are!

Legally, you are a person who has lived in the house with your mother’s consent. She can evict you, but must follow the law, in the process. If you are seen doing these things, my guess is that your mom may get mad, but then, respect you. It would probably be best if she let you stay until after the pandemic.

I know this was probably not easy to read, as I didn’t do any research, myself. But, I do know that evictees have rights. You’re in the unusual situation of having let your love of God get in the way of keeping a promise. Remember, God knows everyone’s heart. Whatever happens, I wish the best for you.

God Bless!!!

 

[LiveSkype]

Actually, the last time I tried to do this whole “independent living” situation was back in mid-2016, when I was 19. I initially went to a non-accredited post-secondary residential facility that would mostly teach me things like life skills. Curriculum-wise, it was only eighteen months worth of material that was stretched out over two years, and I started falling apart about a year in (I wasn’t eating/was underweight, I was skipping classes, my unit was messy, etc.)
During that time, in March 2017, my family decided to sell their house move down to Myrtle Beach. Six months later, on my 21st birthday, I leave the program, and I end up moving down there with them, but I stay in a small apartment-like condo nearby. I have a mentor who checks in on me to make sure I’m on-track, but I end up falling apart again, with the same issues coming up (not eating, messy apartment), so my parents sell the condo and I move back in with them.
In early-to-mid 2019, my family decides to move back to CT. I knew was bound to happen beforehand, as I knew that moving down to Myrtle Beach was a bad idea, but I have to let my parents make their own mistakes.

 

[Legend]

It may not feel like it now, but it sounds as if you may have begun to learn how to live on your own.

I just wish you could wait for some stability for the pandemic situation. But think…you did live on your own, and learned some things. You can start by contacting the same people/groups/organizations before.

Again, God Bless you in your efforts!