Ideas for 13th birthday party (girl's)

[Little_Mary]

I guess I’m going to be the wet-blanket here , but it seems to me that the way in which birthdays are celebrated today are more and more a one-upsmanship of who can out-do the fanTAStic party Missy Lou down the street just had. It’s wonderful to have friends over to celebrate - or to have pizza and a movie - or go out to dinner in a “grown-up” place, but a “spa party” only encourages the trouble that girls have with their self-image of not being the most popular or the prettiest. Entering the teen years is hard enough without this signal that it’s only the pretty who count.

Whatever the manner in which the birthday is celebrated, beginning the day with Mass in thanksgiving for her life and her family, would be the best gift she could receive.

Oh look, a wet blanket, let me just throw it in the dryer:

You are assuming that we weren’t going to start the day with a Mass. :tsktsk:

As for the rest of your post, one-up-manship is not the focus for us. I understand the point you are making, but whether I have a spa party or pizza and a movie, it will be a simple, age appropriate, FUN, party for a bunch of 13 year olds.

You need to direct your comments to those families who throw bar mitzvah type bashes (spending thousands of $$) just to keep up with their child’s Jewish friend who really did have a bar mitzvah.

That is not the case here and I doubt you could find a post to that effect. I am only looking for something different (as in - something we’ve never done before - ) There is no harm in that.

Peace

 

[Giannawannabe]

I guess I’m going to be the wet-blanket here , but it seems to me that the way in which birthdays are celebrated today are more and more a one-upsmanship of who can out-do the fanTAStic party Missy Lou down the street just had. It’s wonderful to have friends over to celebrate - or to have pizza and a movie - or go out to dinner in a “grown-up” place, but a “spa party” only encourages the trouble that girls have with their self-image of not being the most popular or the prettiest. Entering the teen years is hard enough without this signal that it’s only the pretty who count.

Whatever the manner in which the birthday is celebrated, beginning the day with Mass in thanksgiving for her life and her family, would be the best gift she could receive.

I see your point here, but I look at it as a bunch of girls playing “dress up”. That’s exactly how the girls at my daughter’s makeover party looked at it, too. None of them actually wear makeup yet, but it was sooooo fun to play with it! I remember doing the same thing as a kid—even younger than 13 years old. I didn’t wear makeup on a daily basis until I was 15/16 years old. To me, it was harmless, good, clean fun. None of the girls thought less or more of each other because they looked “prettier” with the makeup.