If a family is unable to take care of their kids, should they continue to have kids?

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It’s come to the point where “poverty” is such an atrocity that the poor are considered unworthy of reproduction… But even in the church?:eek:

… Once upon a time, long ago, Americans actually had to “grow” food. They even “killed” their own food, without the help of government, CPS, or NFP.
 
It’s come to the point where “poverty” is such an atrocity that the poor are considered unworthy of reproduction… But even in the church?:eek:

… Once upon a time, long ago, Americans actually had to “grow” food. They even “killed” their own food, without the help of government, CPS, or NFP.
This is EXACTLY what I am trying to say.
 
I am for social justice too and support welfare and government assistance for the poor and other disenfranchised.

You appear to have misunderstood what the poster said and meant. He/she was referring to a very large family where the parents and the children appear to need more than charity. The parents obviously did not get the help and advice they needed in the past.

The poster was not being racist so why bring in race?

Not referring to this family or any family in particular but:
  1. Should a priest marry a couple who are mentally incapable of taking care of their children? A priest would not marry a couple who do not want children but its not just about having children;
  2. Should anyone have more kids than they are able to feed, house, clothe, educate? The Church specifies the need to educate children;
  3. Catholics are not about the quiverfull movement, having has many children as possible;
  4. If a couple knows there are serious reasons not to have more children like poverty, there is NFP;
  5. While we can’t tell a person not to marry or how many children they should have, children should be protected and thus we have child welfare services.
  1. It is my understanding that a couple who is mentally unable to fulfil a marital obligation would not be married. Remember we are going on the diagnosis of the OP that they may be mentally retarded.
  2. Yes, people can have more kids than they can’t feed. If you believe the opposite you are condemning third world Catholics to a moral sin that the Church has never in her history done. Now, the need to “Educate” children probably means in the faith. Can a couple use poverty as a justification to not have children. Yes. But do they have to? No.
  3. What does the quiverfull movement have to do with anything? What Catholics are not about is telling a family it is morally wrong to create life. Well, faithful Catholics anyway.
  4. Yes. Which people are so fond of pointing out on these boards that it is between a husband and wife if NFP should be employed. That swings both ways. You cannot judge if the husband and wife have different criteria than you do about serious reasons.
    Not only that but NFP is not a requirement. It never has been, even when it did not exist. Unless the Church has changed it’s entire theology on life issues because someone learned to read a thermometer.
  5. Finally. one we can absolutely agree on. Number 5 is true and Catholic in every way. and really has nothing to do with a husband and wife procreating.
I brought in race because if you read the other posts by the poster, they were quite strongly worded and opinionated. And when the poster accuses others of hating the poor. Republicans etc. then I wonder how far the hypocrisy goes. The poster says in this thread that a couple is morally wrong for having more children. Basically saying the poor and disenfranchised cannot have the basic human right of reproduction. I was wondering if that extended into a belief that would encompass racism or if the hypocrisy would only extend so far.🤷 It is off subject a little, but it was used to demonstrate an error in logic of someone who claims to be a supporter of the underprivileged and puts a high priority on how we treat the poor and what programs are available.
If we examine Margaret Sangers beliefs they were somewhat similar to what I am trying to say. I’m sorry to say it and it may make you uncomfortable, but when discussing poverty in the US or many other countries, race is an issue. It always has been even in the Roman Empire circa 0
 
It’s come to the point where “poverty” is such an atrocity that the poor are considered unworthy of reproduction… But even in the church?:eek:

… Once upon a time, long ago, Americans actually had to “grow” food. They even “killed” their own food, without the help of government, CPS, or NFP.
sigh…this is exactly it. Why has the idea of alleviating poverty come to mean the ridding the population of poor children. I don’t think our Church teaches us to prevent others from embracing life, but rather teaches us to help those in need. I always took the teaching requiring me to educate, clothe and care for my children as a requirement that obliges me to fulfill those duties…not to avoid those duties by limiting my family size. I’ve refrained from eating many times to make sure my kids were able to eat. I’d much rather be hungry that to be without my kids. My kids are just beginning to realize how dire our financial circumstances were a few years ago. We took care of them as we were obligated to do. I thank those who supported us. We are now in the position to help others. Thank you for the reminder to help others.
 
  1. Yes, people can have more kids than they can’t feed. If you believe the opposite you are condemning third world Catholics to a moral sin that the Church has never in her history done. Now, the need to “Educate” children probably means in the faith. Can a couple use poverty as a justification to not have children. Yes. But do they have to? No.
  2. What does the quiverfull movement have to do with anything? What Catholics are not about is telling a family it is morally wrong to create life. Well, faithful Catholics anyway.
  3. Yes. Which people are so fond of pointing out on these boards that it is between a husband and wife if NFP should be employed. That swings both ways. You cannot judge if the husband and wife have different criteria than you do about serious reasons.
    Not only that but NFP is not a requirement. It never has been, even when it did not exist. Unless the Church has changed it’s entire theology on life issues because someone learned to read a thermometer.
When two fertile people have relations, a child may be the result. God gave men and women the gift of reason. It is a serious sin against prudence to deliberately procreate when you do not have a reasonable expectation of being able to provide the basics of food, shelter, education, spiritual/moral formation of a(nother) child. Reasonable expectation is different from Providentialism which occurs when a person challenges/tempts God to provide for these basic needs by some kind of miracle just because they choose to have intercourse. The couple have rights and the children have rights. Part of responsible parenting means taking the needs of the present and potential future children into mind when contemplating the procreative act. If a person is starving they have no business procreating, and, yes, the Church would teach this to be sinful. If the wife is having a hard time recovering from 3 pregnancies in 4 years, yes, it is gravely sinful to force intercourse when she absolutely doesn’t want it (marital rape can cause life and yes, the Church teaches this to be gravely sinful). God expects thoughtful and loving consideration of life’s circumstances when mutually deciding whether to unite in this wondrous manner.

NFP in its most basic form is informed knowledge of human anatomy and signs of fertility. No thermometer is needed to understand that there is a chance of pregnancy when there is fertility and that the blessing of children is 100% unattainable when one is abstinent. When a couple practices responsible parenting, NFP helps them to make informed decisions as to when they will have the marital embrace either to try for children or to avoid pregnancy. This requires discipline and conversation. One of the reasons people who practice NFP have a smaller divorce rate is because the spouses must learn and practice communication skills and self control. Lack of communication is one of the top triggers for divorce.

The USCCB has a 3 page paper with very good quotes on responsible parenthood and how this requires **prudence **on the part of the spouses: usccb.org/issues-and-action/marriage-and-family/natural-family-planning/catholic-teaching/upload/Responsible-Parenthood.pdf
 
It is a serious sin against prudence to deliberately procreate when you do not have a reasonable expectation of being able to provide the basics of food, shelter, education, spiritual/moral formation of a(nother) child
This jump by you condemns the Church in the poorest places of earth. The place where God and Children are needed the most. The Pope himself, goes out into the streets, not passing out NFP brochures for the poor but ministering to them, sharing their joys and sorrows and helping them. In places where Francis is from, Latin America he married people and baptized children with a smile, with Godly hands. He did not teach about limiting procreation, but welcomed it, in people so poor that you have probably never seen nor smelled what it was like for them.

sigh
Pro life? I guess even that has a monetary value.

The Church is the same today, yesterday and tomorrow. It is the same in America and Somalia. It is the same in all places. In this parish where this family of 16 kids struggling in poverty somehow makes a public appearance at Mass each week and gets judged by not only the OP but now random strangers on the internet. Dictating the morality of a married couple to have sex by only your own biased standards of when it is Holy to create a life. Geesh, no wonder our world is so confused about sex and marriage.🤷

At least this family is educating their children in the faith by attending Mass. Which is more than I can say for the majority of self proclaimed Catholics. Perhaps we should use your criteria for the rich as well.

“Catholics who are rich and do not teach nor follow the teachings of the Church should not be allowed to have sex.” Because they are failing to provide for their children. Somebody get between nancy pelosi and her husband.

Oh man! Now I’ve done it. I will never get that image out of my mind!😃
 
sigh…this is exactly it. Why has the idea of alleviating poverty come to mean the ridding the population of poor children. I don’t think our Church teaches us to prevent others from embracing life, but rather teaches us to help those in need. I always took the teaching requiring me to educate, clothe and care for my children as a requirement that obliges me to fulfill those duties…not to avoid those duties by limiting my family size. I’ve refrained from eating many times to make sure my kids were able to eat. I’d much rather be hungry that to be without my kids. My kids are just beginning to realize how dire our financial circumstances were a few years ago. We took care of them as we were obligated to do. I thank those who supported us. We are now in the position to help others. Thank you for the reminder to help others.
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Revolutionizing our view of the poor will be God’s gift to us through Pope Francis.

I firmly believe this as a Traditionalist, Catholic, Republican, middle class American.
 
This jump by you condemns the Church in the poorest places of earth. The place where God and Children are needed the most.
You are quite mistaken. I do not condemn the Church. Am I against life if I say that marital rape is a mortal sin? Am I against the very poorest of poor if I say it is a moral obligation not to procreate if you can’t feed your family? Again, no. The Church teaches that we are rational beings with the obligation of responsible parenting. Responsible parenting includes the moral obligation to be reasonably sure we can provide food, clothing, shelter, education, formation, etc. to any potential child that could be born from human intercourse. It is **not **shameful to be poor. It is quite shameful to give in to unbridled passions and instincts without regard for the welfare of potential children and family and spouse and society. Did you even read the USCCB document full of quotes from the Popes and Vatican II documents?

By the way, I too am a Catholic. I happen to be a Catholic who is professionally trained in assessing marriages for validity. Would it surprise you to know that the Church considers providing the basics of shelter, food, education, formation, etc. to any children as part of the obligations of marriage, and conversely, that there is an obligation to avoid children if such can’t be provided? I am staunchly pro-life. I am also a sacred virgin, a spouse of the God who designed marriage. One of my duties is to pray for the married.
 
  1. It is my understanding that a couple who is mentally unable to fulfil a marital obligation would not be married. Remember we are going on the diagnosis of the OP that they may be mentally retarded.
  2. Yes, people can have more kids than they can’t feed. If you believe the opposite you are condemning third world Catholics to a moral sin that the Church has never in her history done. Now, the need to “Educate” children probably means in the faith. Can a couple use poverty as a justification to not have children. Yes. But do they have to? No.
  3. What does the quiverfull movement have to do with anything? What Catholics are not about is telling a family it is morally wrong to create life. Well, faithful Catholics anyway.
  4. Yes. Which people are so fond of pointing out on these boards that it is between a husband and wife if NFP should be employed. That swings both ways. You cannot judge if the husband and wife have different criteria than you do about serious reasons.
    Not only that but NFP is not a requirement. It never has been, even when it did not exist. Unless the Church has changed it’s entire theology on life issues because someone learned to read a thermometer.
  5. Finally. one we can absolutely agree on. Number 5 is true and Catholic in every way. and really has nothing to do with a husband and wife procreating.
I brought in race because if you read the other posts by the poster, they were quite strongly worded and opinionated. And when the poster accuses others of hating the poor. Republicans etc. then I wonder how far the hypocrisy goes. The poster says in this thread that a couple is morally wrong for having more children. Basically saying the poor and disenfranchised cannot have the basic human right of reproduction. I was wondering if that extended into a belief that would encompass racism or if the hypocrisy would only extend so far.🤷 It is off subject a little, but it was used to demonstrate an error in logic of someone who claims to be a supporter of the underprivileged and puts a high priority on how we treat the poor and what programs are available.
If we examine Margaret Sangers beliefs they were somewhat similar to what I am trying to say. I’m sorry to say it and it may make you uncomfortable, but when discussing poverty in the US or many other countries, race is an issue. It always has been even in the Roman Empire circa 0
  1. So we agree. I was not referring to this family as I said;
2). I am not condemning anyone. Does everyone in 3rd world countries want lots of children just out of love. No. Some have many because of the high rate of infant mortality, some need many to supplement the family income when older. How do you and who will, tell an angry frustrated, uneducated man to leave her wife alone sometimes to let her rest? Who is teaching poor Catholics in poor countries about NFP when their needs are for basic necessities which we take for granted. No one said anything about morality or sin about this.
I believe it is not just about education of the faith;

However, it is quite another thing to have child after child knowing you can’t feed them sufficiently etc. A child is always a blessing but not all children feel blessed.
  1. It is one thing to have a number of children you know you can take care off, with some sacrifice perhaps. It is a different matter to have child after child after child knowing well that you cannot take good and proper care of them;
  2. Yes, NFP is not demanded. However, with NFP, couples are able to limit the number of children or space them out so they can properly take care of the children they have. That is why the Church permits it;
  3. It does. Procreation comes with responsibility and obligations.
I think you are being personal about the poster.

Would there be so much sympathy and the OP being told not to judge but help the family if it consisted of a single black non-Catholic) mother and her children on welfare?

That aside, poverty should never be dealt with on the basis of race. The fact it is, is wrong.
 
👍👍

Revolutionizing our view of the poor will be God’s gift to us through Pope Francis.

I firmly believe this as a Traditionalist, Catholic, Republican, middle class American.
There are some Republicans who feel free to have a pseudo-Darwinian, every-man-for-himself-and-let-the-devil-take-the-hindmost attitude, but that is not the norm among Republican Catholics I know. There are a few, but they are not the norm and they don’t talk like that in front of their pastors, regardless of their priest’s politics!

Not to change the subject, but there are few people in my immediate acquaintance of any political stripe who feel that the available political parties have a truly satisfactory stance when it comes to societal and governmental attitudes towards the poor. In conversation, everyone feels it is a difficult question that no one knows how to handle very well.
 
  1. So we agree. I was not referring to this family as I said;
2). I am not condemning anyone. Does everyone in 3rd world countries want lots of children just out of love. No. Some have many because of the high rate of infant mortality, some need many to supplement the family income when older. How do you and who will, tell an angry frustrated, uneducated man to leave her wife alone sometimes to let her rest? Who is teaching poor Catholics in poor countries about NFP when their needs are for basic necessities which we take for granted. No one said anything about morality or sin about this.
I believe it is not just about education of the faith;

However, it is quite another thing to have child after child knowing you can’t feed them sufficiently etc. A child is always a blessing but not all children feel blessed.
  1. It is one thing to have a number of children you know you can take care off, with some sacrifice perhaps. It is a different matter to have child after child after child knowing well that you cannot take good and proper care of them;
  2. Yes, NFP is not demanded. However, with NFP, couples are able to limit the number of children or space them out so they can properly take care of the children they have. That is why the Church permits it;
  3. It does. Procreation comes with responsibility and obligations.
I think you are being personal about the poster.

Would there be so much sympathy and the OP being told not to judge but help the family if it consisted of a single black non-Catholic) mother and her children on welfare?

That aside, poverty should never be dealt with on the basis of race. The fact it is, is wrong.
I think my experience with the poor differs from yours. And it is important to realize there are different poverties. And we run the risk of telling quite a few couples to not have children. Even spiritually poor or uneducated ones. We always should help the poor. Educate them and even give them tools like NFP to help their situation. What we cannot do is sit in their marriage bed and tell them what they should do. We cannot impose our own will in place of God’s.

If someone says. “I don’t think a couple has serious reasons to avoid for a couple who is…” We jump all over them. Telling them that the Church leaves it up to the couple to decide what we are to do. That what may not be an obstacle for you personally COULD be for someone else. To be consistent we must apply that equally the other way. We have no right to tell a married couple to have or not have kids. educated or not, poor or not. I also sense a misunderstanding of the poor in your posts. You seem to assume that they “just do not know any better” And that is a huge mistake. I have seen third world weddings int he Catholic Church. A faith filled people who literally are starving. But yet, that priest and bishop encourage this couple to procreate. Not because they do not know about NFP, not because they just do it because the Church says. But rather because it is what God commands, and it is what our life on earth should be about. Poor and rich, educated and not. God has not only brought up leaders and saints out of dire poverty but He was born into it. In a time where medicine was scarce, technology was for weapons, and life expectancy was low. In a world where people did not read, were persecuted and enslaved. Where other babies were killed because of the prophesy of Him. Yet, God brought forth life. A life that would end in death and suffering.
 
That aside, poverty should never be dealt with on the basis of race. The fact it is, is wrong.
It is a race issue in south and central America. Mexico, Africa, and historically with God’s Chosen people themselves. Poverty is most certainly about race. It always has been. Is it the sole basis? nope. Is it a factor more often than not. Yes. But in America this is taboo. We avoid it as much as possible. We never want to look at the history or reality of how race contributes to poverty.
 
I think my experience with the poor differs from yours. And it is important to realize there are different poverties. And we run the risk of telling quite a few couples to not have children. Even spiritually poor or uneducated ones. We always should help the poor. Educate them and even give them tools like NFP to help their situation. What we cannot do is sit in their marriage bed and tell them what they should do. We cannot impose our own will in place of God’s.

If someone says. “I don’t think a couple has serious reasons to avoid for a couple who is…” We jump all over them. Telling them that the Church leaves it up to the couple to decide what we are to do. That what may not be an obstacle for you personally COULD be for someone else. To be consistent we must apply that equally the other way. We have no right to tell a married couple to have or not have kids. educated or not, poor or not. I also sense a misunderstanding of the poor in your posts. You seem to assume that they “just do not know any better” And that is a huge mistake. I have seen third world weddings int he Catholic Church. A faith filled people who literally are starving. But yet, that priest and bishop encourage this couple to procreate. Not because they do not know about NFP, not because they just do it because the Church says. But rather because it is what God commands, and it is what our life on earth should be about. Poor and rich, educated and not. God has not only brought up leaders and saints out of dire poverty but He was born into it. In a time where medicine was scarce, technology was for weapons, and life expectancy was low. In a world where people did not read, were persecuted and enslaved. Where other babies were killed because of the prophesy of Him. Yet, God brought forth life. A life that would end in death and suffering.
I don’t recall saying They just do not know any better". I am not from the US but I am sure some Americans see issues as I do - Catholics too.

Telling married couples to have children is not the same as telling them to have as many as they possible can, never mind if the wife loses her health and their children starve. That i s not what God commands. Christ was born as God made man. His life and death was about sacrifice for us. God does not set out to make us suffer. Neither are we asked to revel in or be indifferent to suffering.
 
I don’t recall saying They just do not know any better". I am not from the US but I am sure some Americans see issues as I do - Catholics too.

Telling married couples to have children is not the same as telling them to have as many as they possible can, never mind if the wife loses her health and their children starve. That i s not what God commands. Christ was born as God made man. His life and death was about sacrifice for us. God does not set out to make us suffer. Neither are we asked to revel in or be indifferent to suffering.
I think this is the issue: It is one thing to have a conversation with a discerning couple concerning the issue of whether a serious reason to avoid pregnancy exists or not. It is fine to advocate for couples to know their own fertility so that they can decide to refrain from marital relations in an intelligent and self-aware way, should they discern that the need to avoid a pregnancy has arisen. It can be a duty to step in when children are not being given the care they need, sacrificing parental perogatives when the children are objectively suffering neglect or abuse. The source of the abuse pr neglect does not need to be judged in order for the abuse or neglect to be stopped. All fine, so far.

It is quite another thing to look at a couple with more children than they can care for and judge their situation from outside. It can be a duty to judge that they are incapable of caring for their children, but judging that they do not have the right to decide when they will have marital relations or that they were sinful in their discernment of when to do so or not do so is another thing altogether. To have respect for the marriage bond means respecting their right to decide when to have marital relations. That is no one’s decision except theirs. Yes, it is possible to sin when making that decision; what is not allowed is to judge from the outside when one does not have the office to do that. (Their confessor, for instance, has the duty to help them to discern what sorts of actions or failures to act in their past were sins or not.)
 
I think this is the issue: It is one thing to have a conversation with a discerning couple concerning the issue of whether a serious reason to avoid pregnancy exists or not. It is fine to advocate for couples to know their own fertility so that they can decide to refrain from marital relations in an intelligent and self-aware way, should they discern that the need to avoid a pregnancy has arisen. It can be a duty to step in when children are not being given the care they need, sacrificing parental perogatives when the children are objectively suffering neglect or abuse. The source of the abuse pr neglect does not need to be judged in order for the abuse or neglect to be stopped. All fine, so far.

It is quite another thing to look at a couple with more children than they can care for and judge their situation from outside. It can be a duty to judge that they are incapable of caring for their children, but judging that they do not have the right to decide when they will have marital relations or that they were sinful in their discernment of when to do so or not do so is another thing altogether. To have respect for the marriage bond means respecting their right to decide when to have marital relations. That is no one’s decision except theirs. Yes, it is possible to sin when making that decision; what is not allowed is to judge from the outside when one does not have the office to do that. (Their confessor, for instance, has the duty to help them to discern what sorts of actions or failures to act in their past were sins or not.)
👍 Yes.

Not only that but a couple’s decision for future children is between them and God. Though it would make me cringe if a couple who had CPS intervene with childcare decided to keep on creating, it is not my place or any of our places to decide that God wills them not to have children. Saying it is sinful to procreate is way out of the realm of what we are called to witness to.
 
👍 Yes.

Not only that but a couple’s decision for future children is between them and God. Though it would make me cringe if a couple who had CPS intervene with childcare decided to keep on creating, it is not my place or any of our places to decide that God wills them not to have children. Saying it is sinful to procreate is way out of the realm of what we are called to witness to.
If I am carpooling and I discover my ride is drunk at the party, you better believe I will judge that drunkeness is a bad state to drive in and would refuse to be driven by such a person. I am not judging their soul and whether they sinned but I am judging that drink and drive don’t mix. Likewise, if CPS is dealing with a family or needs to, then it is not illogical to wonder at continued procreation (Octomom, anyone?). When we say drunkenness is sinful, we are not saying that wine is bad but that wine imbibed in a certain context (to excess or during Communion fast) is bad. When we say the act of procreation is sinful in some circumstances, we are simply stating that intercourse is bad when done under certain circumstances. Procreating IS bad and sinful under different circumstances: fornication, adultery, marital rape, etc. To what degree people doing such actions are sinning is not our business.

Each human action is either virtuous or vicious. Therefore between a married couple, having acts proper to the generation of children is either virtuous or vicious depending on the circumstances. A husband who has full control of his faculties (not drunk or anything) who forces himself on his wife who has a serious medical condition that requires abstinence and who does not agree to do this is sinning. He is sinning because one of the key components for sex to be virtuous is missing: it must be free and a humane act. It is sinful even if something good (a child) results.

People have the responsibility to eat well. This means that to deliberately eat a poor diet or too much food or too little food or to be bulimic or anorexic is sinful because the purpose of food is to provide sufficient nourishment to the body and those actions thwart that purpose. We call those actions sinful. Likewise, people have the responsibility to regulate their sexual appetite even in marriage. It must be regulated for the welfare of the couple, their children, prospective children and society. God created us as rational beings so that we could live well and virtuously. We are not animals governed by instinct.
 
There are some Republicans who feel free to have a pseudo-Darwinian, every-man-for-himself-and-let-the-devil-take-the-hindmost attitude, but that is not the norm among Republican Catholics I know.
I think it’s a pretty big norm amongst Republicans on this website, but I’ve always felt that this site is Republican first and Catholic second. The American Democrats are the ones who want to help the impoverished, such as struggling single mothers. If you want to be pro-life, you have to be pro-life beyond the womb. The GOP most certainly is not, in my opinion.
 
If you don’t think that CPS should intervene in the case of neglected children living in substandard conditions, yet you’re strongly anti-abortion, then how do you reconcile those two views? They don’t add up or make sense. You have to care beyond their birth. Thankfully, it doesn’t seem like people on here work for CPS. Neither do I, but I’d like to think that the workers who would hear about this kind of a case would at least see the need to take a good look at the family. Also, to people saying that it’s none of your business how this family lives and how many children they have? Umm…aren’t Christians supposed to be responsible for their fellow human beings? I think it’s wrong to not step in when someone is in danger.
 
If I am carpooling and I discover my ride is drunk at the party, you better believe I will judge that drunkeness is a bad state to drive in and would refuse to be driven by such a person. I am not judging their soul and whether they sinned but I am judging that drink and drive don’t mix. Likewise, if CPS is dealing with a family or needs to, then it is not illogical to wonder at continued procreation (Octomom, anyone?). When we say drunkenness is sinful, we are not saying that wine is bad but that wine imbibed in a certain context (to excess or during Communion fast) is bad. When we say the act of procreation is sinful in some circumstances, we are simply stating that intercourse is bad when done under certain circumstances. Procreating IS bad and sinful under different circumstances: fornication, adultery, marital rape, etc. To what degree people doing such actions are sinning is not our business.

Each human action is either virtuous or vicious. Therefore between a married couple, having acts proper to the generation of children is either virtuous or vicious depending on the circumstances. A husband who has full control of his faculties (not drunk or anything) who forces himself on his wife who has a serious medical condition that requires abstinence and who does not agree to do this is sinning. He is sinning because one of the key components for sex to be virtuous is missing: it must be free and a humane act. It is sinful even if something good (a child) results.

People have the responsibility to eat well. This means that to deliberately eat a poor diet or too much food or too little food or to be bulimic or anorexic is sinful because the purpose of food is to provide sufficient nourishment to the body and those actions thwart that purpose. We call those actions sinful. Likewise, people have the responsibility to regulate their sexual appetite even in marriage. It must be regulated for the welfare of the couple, their children, prospective children and society. God created us as rational beings so that we could live well and virtuously. We are not animals governed by instinct.
Who makes that decision? You? The state? Should we have forced sterilizations?

Has the Church ever in the history of salvation made the distinction that you make? That it can be sinful to procreate between two Catholic, spouses who freely decide to engage in the marital embrace? Does the Church give one example of this ever happening?

The Church, through 200 + popes thought all time has never said what you are saying about poverty and procreation. And if She has not felt the right to invade that right reserved to a couple, then what on earth gives you the right. How is it that you have come up with a moral sin that the Church herself has not. How are you that powerful?

Believe me, if the Church were to do this, it has had much better opportunities than this family. Like the holocaust, third world poverty, plagues and persecutions. Education, and wealth or lack there of has NEVER been the determining factor of sin.

But point your fingers all you want. But if that is the case then people should stop complaining when someone else thinks YOU should have more kids or not have more kids and judges you without any knowledge of the situation.
 
If you don’t think that CPS should intervene in the case of neglected children living in substandard conditions, yet you’re strongly anti-abortion, then how do you reconcile those two views? They don’t add up or make sense. You have to care beyond their birth. Thankfully, it doesn’t seem like people on here work for CPS. Neither do I, but I’d like to think that the workers who would hear about this kind of a case would at least see the need to take a good look at the family. Also, to people saying that it’s none of your business how this family lives and how many children they have? Umm…aren’t Christians supposed to be responsible for their fellow human beings? I think it’s wrong to not step in when someone is in danger.
Who in the world thinks CPS should not intervene in the case of neglected children? No one is making that argument. I would call CPS myself way before I posted on these boards.
 
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