Hello,
I liked how someone (a catholic) explained something related, so I will try to put what I understood:
Love is of God for God is love, like scripture states. Now, God is the Beginning and the End, the Alpha and Omega, this is what catholics believe. God is the creator, God is what’s good, as God is love, therefore if we are made in His image and created by Him, we come from goodness and love.
So from this sense, man can love and do good, for the essence of our being has it. We can “give good things to our kids”, we have compassion, a bad man for example, can be good to the people that has his back. So, the problem comes when there is no connection through our will, by our decision, between what is true love (the love of God) and what we think is love. There could be things that are similar, but we will have key things that will not be the same, therefore the line that it will make us follow, is not going to be the same (referring to the understandings of what is love and how to act it fully).
For example, in Catholicism, Jesus is our teacher and master, and showed us the way of the cross (and self denial) as the way of love. Love is for goodness, as love does no harm, as scripture states. But love (His way of love) is also for our sanctification, purification, so that’s why the way to follow love, is not in a definition from man but from the One that created all.
The formula for Catholics and most Christians to love and to do goodness is to follow the commandments, love God first, love others as yourself and love like Jesus loves (very important distinction). Only by following the first one, to love God first, and loving like Jesus loves, we will follow the rule of self denial and to carry the cross, as we understand that love gets you out of yourself, and is the opposite of egoism. So, we understand that the way to save our life is by following God, and that we shouldn’t look to win the world, for this will bring our demise, as we can’t have two masters. Love and goodness are kind of synonyms when talking about Gods way.
The problem is that to keep loving (true love) and doing goodness (true goodness) we need Him in us, for He is the spark of life, as He is life. That’s why He is truth the way and life. But as we got free will we can say no to God. If you couldn’t say no to God you would not have free will (in a sense). Even if God knows He is your best option as His goodness and His love is divine and no man can get there alone (no one can get to His way (holiness, perfection), by their own strength, only by His Spirit), only through Him by Him. And He will not impose on you, but He will warn you, that your way will not end in eternal life, and that your way will probably be able to “disappoint” others (as you put your pleasures as north) and state that, that is goodness. The problem gets more complicated when we believe than in our flashes of goodness and flashes of love, we are doing goodness and loving (because maybe that is not enough). (Gods way is not just about morality, it is also about humility (acknowledging we are not pure), about loving with all our strength our God, and following the way, Jesus Christ, through the Holy Spirit in us). We get to God by having God in us, by accepting Him with our decision, our free will, in other words choosing His way against our way. (This is part of the self denial and our carrying the cross, because of Him, for Him)
It is another problem that we (believers) can be bad examples of some teachings (but that’s why we don’t “follow” each other, we follow God through His Church), because our way always wants to be first, our hearts sometimes are bricks and we can lose ourselves, and choose “detours”)
So as we wrote before, this understanding about doing good and being able to lay our lives for others, is in our being, to some extent (from the beginning), the difference is what is the basic principle and who is The Beginning and the End for each one, which will make all the difference in our line of thought and understandings.
So, we are all able to do “good”, and we know that we want “goodness”, but to another sense, this depends on what we believe and motivates us (as this will define what is good and love). Love is divine only if it is of God, therefore, love to a non-believer or a believer of something else, will not be the same understanding as the Catholic understanding.
Continuing some understandings of the Catholic faith, we believe that goodness (and love) comes from accepting and acting the will of the Father, and only by this humility (accepting God as true justice, true goodness, and true love), we will not look for our benefits as our north, therefore we are willing to move our own “I”, for the will of God, which is pure, righteous, and good. So goodness will never or should never reside in our benefits, our pleasures, in what our own “I” wants and desires, but on truly what is truly good and righteous, for it includes love, as it is of God. And again, this will be defined on how willing we are to follow self denial and to carry the cross (the way of Christ), which will bring certain sufferings, but one that believes in eternal life and divinity, cannot act any other way, because His north is God, so they are willing to suffer because of Him (for His way is the only true good and loving way).