If a person marries, then divorces because of abuse or infidelity, is re-marriage

[Br.Rich_SFO]

Catholic Tom:

wow, I get the teaching, even if I disagree. Actually, I do agree, but I can’t understand (and maybe it’s just me), how a victim of this type of marriage will never be able to find that happiness in another person (including consumating the marriage). Reason tells me, that extreme circumstances should be considered. Am I alone in feeling like this?

That said, I respect the Church Teaching and abide by it.

This is why anyone considering Marriage MUST spend serious time reflecting and preparing to enter Marriage. It is not something to “fall” into. It is not something that should be rushed into. It must not be something that is “required” by family or society. It is a life long commitment one entered into validly when one freely and willingly exchange vows.

The Church says that someone is “wrongly divorced” when they are divorced under civil law and no longer live as husband and wife and are the innocent party who did not seek or initiate the civil process and did nothing to cause the situation resulting in the divorce.

 

[Dan-Man916]

Catholic Tom:

wow, I get the teaching, even if I disagree. Actually, I do agree, but I can’t understand (and maybe it’s just me), how a victim of this type of marriage will never be able to find that happiness in another person (including consumating the marriage). Reason tells me, that extreme circumstances should be considered. Am I alone in feeling like this?

That said, I respect the Church Teaching and abide by it.

Nope, you’re not alone. it is a pretty hard thing to accept, and i think that many people struggle with understanding it.

that is where faith has to come in. We accept it even if we can’t understand it. i can see how it can be very very hard for someone in that situation.