If God gives me an opportunity, should I take it?

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I’m a new student at this high school and so is this girl. I usually don’t think much about me liking or dating anyone because its usually based on physical attraction so I push it aside.

I have only talked to this girl a few times in the past month we’ve been to school and I have to say she’s not the most attractive, but her personality and everything is just on key. She loves communty service and helping others in general and is a devout Catholic which are all something I have never seen at my old school. She also is smart, mature, funny, and Idk, just quirky in a good way.

I know we have free will and we must choose a path but I don’t see how bit taking this path would be a bad idea. Also, I dont have much experience talking to girls, especially those I like, how would God expect me to pull through this? Girls make friends easily from what I see and she’s basically always with her new freidns so how in the world does God expect me to approach this. Should I just forget about all of this? Is it really worth it. Does God want me to do this. I mean, do high school relationships even last? Like, please God, tell me what to do. Thats always going through my mind.
 
Even though I’m nearly 60, I find that meeting new people is a challenge. I think you should go easy with this situation. Just be yourself and see what happens.

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I’ll try, I just dont know how to be myself around people such as this girl.
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Let me correct what I said earlier because “be yourself” isn’t all that helpful.

Here’s the best suggestion I can make. Based on my journalism background, I’ve found that asking open-ended, non-intrusive questions is a good way to get to know someone. I don’t ask “yes-no” questions.

If you know the girl is in the orchestra, ask her what instrument she plays. Ask her what she likes best about being a musician.

If she’s on the basketball team, ask her how she got interested in sports.

You get the point.

Be genuinely interested in what she says.
Wow, never thought it about it that way. That actually makes things seem a whole lot easier and overall a good tactic for not getting in awkward situations. Thanks for that, God bless you!
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I pray you find good friends.
 
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I’m actually a transfer student myself and have a hard time making friends. God always has a way of things and it is indeed up to us to what decision we take. I suggest you think it over, analyze all the outcomes and effects, make your decision and know the Lord is always with you:)

God bless!
 
I’ll try, I just dont know how to be myself around people such as this girl
 
My bad, I just made that quick assumption based on how many friends she has mad over the course of among at this new school. I’ve only made like a few friends lol.

I personally think I am mature. I really only planned on dating until college and my grades have always been really good. I have had a decent amount of friends and I found ways to balance both school and social life. I also persue hobbies if mine. And even though I did mention this girl wasn’t the most attractive physically, what makes her the most attractive girl is who she is as a person. She is mature, knows what she wants in life, is a hard worker, loves God, loves helping others. She is set apart from every single girl I have met.

I agree that I shouldn’t make such a big fuss, but what I dont understand is what God wants me to do. I could just be friends with her, but I dont know how to be just friends with a girl such as this one. Maybe your right, Im overthinking. Idkk, this has got me confused lol. Anyway Thabk You for the response!
 
Why not get involved with some of the community service things she does? You will get to spend time with her, and talk to her while doing good for other people.
 
He does love me and everyone, and everything, I pove God lol. Anyway thank you so much for the reply!
 
She lives in a diffrent district and im not sure if my parents are willing drive me up there for a girl they have busy schedules:(
 
Well, my point is that it isn’t just for a girl, it’s for community service.
 
Well, that’s why I already participate in community service in my area. I partake in community service on weekends and have a roll as assistant teacher to the second grade Catholic youth group during Thursdays and Tuesdays. This is also another reason why my parents won’t drive me 15 miles just for something I can already do near me
 
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Wow, never thought it about it that way. That actually makes things seem a whole lot easier and overall a good tactic for not getting in awkward situations. Thanks for that, God bless you!
 
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