If someone else's pre-schooler--a child of a relative or friend--asked you if Santa is real,

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how would you answer? With my own kids I would just say that Santa is a saint in heaven, but what do you say if it’s someone else’s child?
 
I would ask-what does your mommy and daddy think? And ask what does the child think and why are they asking?

I would not commit to a yes or no answer–very easy to do with a preschooler.
 
mommy_k said:
I would ask-what does your mommy and daddy think? And ask what does the child think and why are they asking?

I would not commit to a yes or no answer–very easy to do with a preschooler.
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mommy_k said:
I would ask-what does your mommy and daddy think? And ask what does the child think and why are they asking?

I would not commit to a yes or no answer–very easy to do with a preschooler.
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Seconded. If you’re not sure, just redirect the child to their parents, who will know how they wish to answer the question. Though its doubtful that any pre-schooler will remember the answer you gave within about a week. 😉
 
You take the fifth, and then you leave the phone off the hook for two days.
 
One of the happiest times in my life was when I believed in Santa. Kids will get to reality soon enough. Allow them the innocence and joy of Santa in childhood.
 
Why not take.the opportunity to tell.the child about the real Santa Claus - St Nicholas of Myra - while perhaps tactfully avoiding questions about reindeer and elves and so forth? It’s a great teachable moment.
 
ClearWater said:
One of the happiest times in my life was when I believed in Santa. Kids will get to reality soon enough. Allow them the innocence and joy of Santa in childhood.
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Agree.I remember the fist Christmas I realized there wasn’t really a Santa. I was so letdown:(
 
I would refer the child to their parents. This is one of those things where we don’t know what the parents are teaching in their home therefore I wouldn’t want to overstep my boundaries…
“Is santa real?” My response- “that is an excellent question for your mom and dad”
Same thing as if they were to ask me…
“Where do babies come from?” my response - “that is an excellent question for your mom and dad”
 
I’d say yes, he’s real. Santa is such a wonderful part of our culture and I think you can argue that while he isn’t literally real, he’s an embodiment of the holiday spirit of generosity and giving. I see no problem with celebrating both the secular and religious Christmas traditions, and I really can think of no other tactful response, aside from “What do you think?”
 
mommy_k said:
I would ask-what does your mommy and daddy think? And ask what does the child think and why are they asking?

I would not commit to a yes or no answer–very easy to do with a preschooler.
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:thumbsup:Great answer! Everyone handles Santa in the way that is appropriate for his or her family and child.
 
LilyM said:
Why not take.the opportunity to tell.the child about the real Santa Claus - St Nicholas of Myra - while perhaps tactfully avoiding questions about reindeer and elves and so forth? It’s a great teachable moment.
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I wouldn’t make it my business what someone else’s children think. I would simply tell them to ask their parents, who can decide about this themselves.
I was rather surprised to hear one time of a teacher being fired for telling the children in her class that there is no Santa Claus. I presume that the children told their parents what the teacher said, who complained strongly to the school about the teacher taking the childrens’ belief in Santa Claus into her own hands.
I presume by the way that if you tell a child there is no Santa Claus, the child will pass this onto his parents, who may look dimly at what you said.
 
Depends on the maturity of the Child , a 10 year old should be old enough to understand Te truth,
Under 10 , it’s a Magical Experience for them,so don’t be the Spoiler,
Your a Child but only once in your life,Enjoy it,
 
I don’t do Santa with my kids. I can’t bring myself to tell another child what I don’t feel right saying to my own kids. I also wouldn’t dare to disrespect the authority of another parent who might feel exactly the opposite. (not to mention the mess that would result in - wouldn’t want to be in the middle of that).

I would say, “I think your Mommy and Daddy know the answer to that. You should ask them.” and change the topic as fast as I can, but if necessary repeat the idea that this is something to ask the parents, and that I’m not interested in the topic.

I hope that if my kids asked that question to someone else, they would do the same. Throwing it back at the parents is ALWAYS the best choice, regardless of whether the family does or doesn’t do Santa.
 
The only children I know who would talk to me to the point that they’d ask me something like this are ones whose parents I know well enough that I know how they handle Santa. Since all of them do Santa with their kids, it would be an easy question to answer. I’d simply tell them about the Krampus instead. 😃
 
This reminds me of when my neighbor was pregnant and her 9 years old daughter came to my place telling me ‘My mom drank an egg so that a baby would grow in her stomach, why don’t you drink and egg Angie’. It was SO obvious the kids at school told the 9 year old the truth and this little 9 year old desperately wanted respect form an adult to do the same. I just kept saying ‘I don’t know, I never had kids I am not married’ And the 9 year old kept saying ‘You don’t need to be married you just need to drink and egg’

Looking back, I think I should have just told the parents to tell the kid to quit asking me those questions…but that would have been a sticky situation.

I do agree thought to NEVER overstep a parents boundary regardless of whether you agree with the situation or not

Angie
 
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