If the Mother is the Heart of the Family, Why Was I Not Missed?

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Why was I not missed after spending four or five hours locked in the chicken coop?
I have always heard that the mother is the heart of the family, especially a stay at home mother with a crew of kids, who also helps with a hobby farm. So tell me, why was I not missed after spending three hours locked in the chicken coop?
You must first understand that even if this was a subconscious belief, I behaved as if I was the most important member of the family. It took a drastic experience to shake me out of my arrogance. I was never meant to be the center of my family; that was and is God’s place, not mine.
Ten years ago on a very cold winter day, I decided to go with my husband to the barn. I bundled up in Michael’s extra set of warm boots and coat. Since I am a size 2 in women’s clothing and he is an X-Large in men’s sizes, I looked quite comical trudging after him to the barn. We divided up the chores and rushed to finish them as quickly as possible because the wind was fierce.My last task was to water , feed and gather eggs from our laying hens. Michael passed in the bucket of water that he had hauled for me and then left me so he could complete his own chores in the large attached barn.
A few minutes later, out of sheer habit ,he silently locked the door to the chicken coop and proceeded to plow through the heavy snow and into our warm house.I was lingering with the chickens, scattering extra corn and grain to help the chickens keep warm. There was no wind in the coup but it was still ice cold. When I attempted to leave, I discovered that the door was securely bolted from the outside.
I yelled for my husband but he was long gone and the house was too far away for him to hear me.The coop is old-fashioned and sturdy, built with thick, rough planks, so I could not figure out how to escape. Soon I began to stamp my feet in a vain attempt to generate a little heat. The chickens were upset, flapping about and squawking because I had intruded into their little haven. However, after the first hour, they ignored me and let me stomp around in my little circle.
As I became even more chilled, I stuck my whole head down into Michael’s huge coat like a turtle hiding in her shell. My breath started to warm up my body. I must have looked like some strange headless man.
It was extremely boring in that coop, so I sang songs, much to the chickens’ displeasure. I did experience one flash of hope when I heard my oldest son drive up in his truck for lunch and then leave again; why he didn’t hear my yelling or wonder why I wasn’t around to make and eat lunch with his dad and him, still puzzles me.
Just as I was starting to despair, Michael flung the door open and asked,

“What on earth are you doing out here?”

I poked my head out from inside his coat and yelled,

“I didn’t choose to hang out with the chickens, you know; you locked me in here!”

Michael had been so absorbed in his work that he really did not noticed that I wasn’t in our home. In fact it was only when he could not find me for a phone call that he realized I was not in the house. Come to think about it, I really was not missed at all! God was forced to use drastic methods before I got the point that He was and is at the center of my familyand my world, not me.
 
I’m not sure but I wish I lived on a farm and had chickens. I have to keep reminding myself the same thing except that I never felt like the heart of anything. I liked your story and I always enjoy when God checks me and puts me in my place.
 
you ENJOY when He puts you in your place?? I never thought about it like that but you are absolutely right because God has a sense of humour
 
Yes I do lol

It’s more so because I just feel so gracious and humbled whenever God speaks to me in a clear and Instant kind of way. It doesn’t always happen, so when it does it brings me affirmation and that brings me joy, even if I don’t necessarily like his answer : )

Especially, because I am constantly praying for my will to be Gods will and for an open heart, mind and eyes. So when he “checks me” I know he’s doing just what I asked. And he’s he has a sense of humor indeed! He’s very clever lol
 
I could not agree more… you have just given me an idea for my next article for my blog…THANKS
 
Hmm…can’t say I enjoy it when God puts me in my place, but I sure like it better once I’m there. it’s all too easy to get sucked into feeling that you are the center of the family universe when there a bunch of little people counting on you for what they need. When my perspective gets skewed enough to believe that I’m actually the one pulling off providing and managing this family of 9, it is incredibly stressful. Not so much when I recall that I am just a daughter crazy enough to listen to her heavenly Father and obey.

Have a great weekend!
 
It really does seem as if everything depends on the mother…that is the trap because underneath all our business, HE has to be the one in charge, in control, the boss. Unfortunately, I often stole God’s place
 
With nine kids, no one person can ever expect to be the center of your attention. “Where is Mom? I dunno… she’s busy around here somewhere, doing something for somebody!”

(I was 7th of 8…my mom was nothing if not a busy woman! :D)
 
It really does seem as if everything depends on the mother…that is the trap because underneath all our business, HE has to be the one in charge, in control, the boss. Unfortunately, I often stole God’s place
In a sense, you do have God’s place…helping him keep the place going while his children go about their business, sometimes oblivious to all he does. That’s good–the one among you who would be the leader of all is to be the servant of all–but it does make one stop and wonder how often the Lord has no company but the chickens. “Behold, I stand at the door and knock…”
 
With nine kids, no one person can ever expect to be the center of your attention. “Where is Mom? I dunno… she’s busy around here somewhere, doing something for somebody!”

(I was 7th of 8…my mom was nothing if not a busy woman! :D)
EasterJoy, I too was 7th of 8 and learned at a VERY early age that if I was the center of attention, I was most likely to be in trouble for something. 😃
To this day (I’m 53 now) I am extremely uncomfortable being the center of attention.

As to the rest of the comments, I also love it when God checks me and puts me in my place. It’s my reminder that He’s watching over me, even if I don’t feel Him. And it makes me feel very special, like I matter. 😊
 
Easterjoy what a wonderful writing name- I love it. I love to hear the opinions of women who came from large families, since I had only one sister
 
Irishrush- great attitde, love how you focus on the positive… and i agree that when god deals with us, it is a almost mind-boggling that we have such an intimate relationship with the Almighty
 
us, how God treats us is mind-boggling… I cannot even fathom it
 
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