If the world hates you, you probably deserve it

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I also have “social anxiety”. Very hard to be around other people!
 
I have learnt to put on an extrovert mask of sorts. Well it didn’t work that well in teaching, because I was absolutely frazzled by the end of the day.
But if I am in a good mood, I can take an interest in other people and I’m reasonably good company. This is where alcohol “helped” me until I started drinking too often.
 
Yes. Alcohol never helps. The “saving grace” for me is that I never liked the taste of alcohol.
 
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PetraG said:
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phil19034:
The world hated Jesus, He didn’t deserve it. And a big chunk of the world still hates Jesus.
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So yes, I disagree with the statement “If the world hates you, you probably deserve it.” I think a better statement would be, “if the world hates you, take a hard look in the mirror.”

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I think this is a great line, and great advice for anyone.

For the OP. I also think it’s important to honest, which can be tough, but opinions can vary widely too. I’ve had a few teachers everyone hated, but for a few select students they were just the right medicine and spoke to them. I had an economics teacher that everyone hated in high school, but I really liked his class. He was maybe a little “dry” but the subject matter wasn’t the most colorful either. I actually learned quite a bit, and he was pretty fair if I recall, which some students didn’t like. I guess where I’m going is you might have had some students who really liked and appreciated you or your approach and they weren’t as vocal about it.
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What interests me is why was the question asked about it being so important to be loved in this world by others. Should this be the main priority?

I’m very sorry you’ve had an experience of being hated. No one should experience hatred.
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Honestly this is a bit what I thought when I first read the post as well. I’m not saying one way or the other, only you can look into your heart and see what’s most important. I have had social anxiety myself on quite a few occasions as you referenced above, it can be really tricky sometimes. But make sure Jesus is who your following, not worldly things like money, praise, pats on the back, approval etc. The post above about not putting your faith On the shifting sands of approval is one of the best I’ve read on here in a long time. Great advice!
 
I advise some of you to read Thomas Merton’s perspective on this. The False Self and the True Self. We cant ignore our ego’s need for validation completely. That would be unrealistic. Especially in the first half of our lives. Success and reputation help us survive. If we have a family and kids too, we cant afford to too much of a failure. Ideally yes, we only focus on spiritual matters and focus on God and the next life. But we cant ignore this life totally either. We cant all become saints like John of the Cross. This topic would also fit in with Jung’s idea of individuation.
 
And focusing on the goal of being liked is a self-centered one.
 
Yes. as my Christian faith deepens I care less what others think of me. Only worship the God of Israel. Not the God of other people.
 
The “Litany of Humility” is a great prayer, because it basically is an imitation of how Jesus lived. He didn’t seek to be like, loved, or in any way exalted by others. Carrying out His mission to achieve favorability by others wasn’t His goal.
 
People with social anxiety tend to have a people pleaser gene. It’s like we give all our power away to others. That’s how I’ve let other people control me in the past.
 
I temporarily will humor someone until the controversy stops, and then do what I think my conscience says.
 
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