If your grown child were homosexual, how would you respond?

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Do you think if your own adult child came to you and said he/she were homosexual, that you’d change your outlook at all? How would you respond? I think I’d would probably soften my stance. Would you accept your child’s partner?
 
I would accept my child’s partner as his friend but nothing more. I would still not condone or foster a practice that is unhealthy.
 
Well, I’m sure we all realize that 1 simple line of text won’t fully explain anyone’s postion, but I’d certainly not attend their gay wedding.

I would still love my child, still pray for them and their gay lover. But no, I would not accept their relationship. I’m not sure if I’d have them over at my house cause I’m really not sure how much I should accept their acting as a couple in a place where I can simply say no.

I’m only 24 and am unmarried so this isn’t a issue yet, but I think it’s something I’d want to share with my kids before they are of dating age - that homosexual relationships aren’t okay. That if they have these feelings they are not bad children, but that the feeling they have experienced is not proper.
I’d encourage prayer and probably talking to someone. If they were homosexual, I wouldn’t try teaching them they aren’t; instead I’d encourage them the same as all my other kids: sex is for 1 man and 1 woman in the bonds of marriage.

Note: I will not attend the 2nd marriage of a child who gets divorced either.
 
I would expect to have my home rules followed even if they were adults. No co-habituating in my home, no outward sexuality toward boyfriend/girlfriend, no swearing, cursing, taking the Lords name in vain no matter they were heterosexual or homosexual.
Other then this I have no control of another adults behavior.

Now as to my behavior, I would not stay in the home of any co-habituating couple heterosexual or homosexual. That is what motels are for. I would not attend a marriage ceremony, uniting ceremony or reception for anyone. I would visit, be kind, and respect their house rules as long as they did not make me go against my moral values.

Other then this I can not say. For I have not been confronted with this issue.
 
I would tell them I loved them and that God loved them too.I’d direct them to resources that promote chastity . I’d offer to pay for therapy. I’d support them in every aspect of life except an unchaste relationship just as I’d not support an unchaste heterosexual relationship of one of my children.I’d pray unceasingly.
 
‘You’re gay? Cool! Both of you want to come over for dinner tomorrow?’
 
I would still love my child. I gave birth to her and she is a gift from God–how could I ***not ***love her unconditionally? I figure it’d be her life and if she’s an adult she makes the decisions, not me. I would hope that I’d raise her to be a respectful and decent individual, gay or otherwise.

My husband, on the other hand, says he would have nothing to do with her. That really saddens me to think he could so easily disown her. 😦
 
I picked the last one. I hope to be strong and love him for who he is but to pray hard for the rest of my life that God’s grace be upon him that he would never perform any act of homosexual …but consider his homosexual as a special cross that God has given to him and pick up his cross and walk with Jesus.

For myself, I should be always besides my child to support his cross because his cross is also mine. As I was typing this, the first person in my mind is the Virgin Mary who had been with Jesus until His death.
 
I would love my child no matter what. As long as their partner loved them, I would love their partner.

Kim
 
I’d still love my child and welcome him/her into my home.

It would be harder to accept their gay partner. I’d probably ask that they not cohabit in my home but I’d require that of my heterosexual child that was having premarital sex.

I would quietly pray a lot and hope that God would allow them to accept a celibate livestyle.
 
I would tell them they know how I feel about the issue, but that they are adults and this is their decision to make. I would expect them to be modest around me- no more or less than I expect of heterosexual couples. I would tell them I care about them- and that they are always welcome in my home- together or alone- but they would need to sleep in separate rooms if they wanted to spend the night there.

It would break my heart, and I would pray for them both for the rest of my life.
 
jrnami said:
Do you think if your own adult child came to you and said he/she were homosexual, that you’d change your outlook at all? How would you respond? I think I’d would probably soften my stance. Would you accept your child’s partner?
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Probably with shock at first…then maybe sad…then with love. Always with love. I would not be happy about it, but my husband and I said we would try to explain God’s viewpoint, but then it would be up to them to make the right choice. I don’t think I would allow their partner to stay the night…just like if they are not married, and say dating people of the opp sex, I wouldn’t allow them to stay the night. I would seek to understand, but I would love my child, and their partner. Above all else…we are called to love…in the most difficult of circumstances, even.
 
I am currently celibate gay.

My family had known I was gay since I came out to them in 1986. My Mom’s first response was total upset. She cried and blamed herself; most mothers do. She wasn’t convinced I was gay, and in the midst of tears that first night, suggested I go see a female prostitute. I laughed. She asked “how do you know you’re gay if you’ve never been with a man” (I was still a virgin). I told her, “how did you know you liked men growing up?” We didn’t talk about much after that night, and one week or so later we were watching TV and she was looking at a man on screen and turned to me and asked, “Do you think he’s handsome?” I laughed, and was totally weirded out. I said, “Yes.” Eventually, we would have talks. She had lots of questions. It had gotten to the point I could tell my Mom anything. She never judged me. She was a great listener. She supported me to always follow my dreams and hopes. She would get really mad if she found out a parent had shunned their gay child. This really upset her. She would say how could a parent ignore their child and cast them out. Why would a parent hate their gay child?

I met a guy back in 1987 and fell in love and we moved in together. My family fell in love with him too. We were super respectful of each others families and never did anything to embarass anyone. My sisters adored him. My Mom called him her second son. He was loved by everyone. Eight years later I found out he was a closet sex addict. Had cheated on me 100’s of times. The honest person I loved didn’t exist afterall. It ended. I was completely crushed and rarely dated from 1995 onward. I decided to close the chapter of my active gay lifestyle 5 years ago and have been celibate ever since. Sometime before my Mom died back in 1999 she told me “you’re going to settle down and find peace by yourself. I don’t think you’ll ever date again”. I argued she was wrong. Four years after she died I decide to become celibate. I’m still gay, but I have no desire to deal with men anymore. Been there done that, and I always got hurt. I know at this point that the love I’m looking for can’t be found in any other man on this planet, so now I try my best to love God instead.

If your kid is gay, love them. You don’t have to support or accept their homosexual lifestyle, but the least you can do is love them. Hopefully they will find out homosexuality is a lie on their own. God doesn’t hate homosexuals, he hates their homosexual sin. He knows I’m gay, but I’m doing my best to behave, and he’s very close to me now…as any parent should be to their gay child.
 
archangel63 said:
I am currently celibate gay.

My family had known I was gay since I came out to them in 1986. My Mom’s first response was total upset. She cried and blamed herself; most mothers do. She wasn’t convinced I was gay, and in the midst of tears that first night, suggested I go see a female prostitute. I laughed. She asked “how do you know you’re gay if you’ve never been with a man” (I was still a virgin). I told her, “how did you know you liked men growing up?” We didn’t talk about much after that night, and one week or so later we were watching TV and she was looking at a man on screen and turned to me and asked, “Do you think he’s handsome?” I laughed, and was totally weirded out. I said, “Yes.” Eventually, we would have talks. She had lots of questions. It had gotten to the point I could tell my Mom anything. She never judged me. She was a great listener. She supported me to always follow my dreams and hopes. She would get really mad if she found out a parent had shunned their gay child. This really upset her. She would say how could a parent ignore their child and cast them out. Why would a parent hate their gay child?

I met a guy back in 1987 and fell in love and we moved in together. My family fell in love with him too. We were super respectful of each others families and never did anything to embarass anyone. My sisters adored him. My Mom called him her second son. He was loved by everyone. Eight years later I found out he was a closet sex addict. Had cheated on me 100’s of times. The honest person I loved didn’t exist afterall. It ended. I was completely crushed and rarely dated from 1995 onward. I decided to close the chapter of my active gay lifestyle 5 years ago and have been celibate ever since. Sometime before my Mom died back in 1999 she told me “you’re going to settle down and find peace by yourself. I don’t think you’ll ever date again”. I argued she was wrong. Four years after she died I decide to become celibate. I’m still gay, but I have no desire to deal with men anymore. Been there done that, and I always got hurt. I know at this point that the love I’m looking for can’t be found in any other man on this planet, so now I try my best to love God instead.

If your kid is gay, love them. You don’t have to support or accept their homosexual lifestyle, but the least you can do is love them. Hopefully they will find out homosexuality is a lie on their own. God doesn’t hate homosexuals, he hates their homosexual sin. He knows I’m gay, but I’m doing my best to behave, and he’s very close to me now…as any parent should be to their gay child.
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That is very beautiful.
 
water said:
Yes, love them is the right thing to do …but are you supporting the act of homosexual which is condemned?
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By loving your own child…you are not automatically condoning or supporting the act of homosexuality. But, God loved me through my sins of the past…we are taught by Him to do the same, no?🙂
 
Would be shocked at first, hurt, angry, feelings of “did I cause them to be gay or something?”, question my parenting, then start to maybe tolerate the idea that they’re gay. I’d certainly have to know if it’s something they are just "choosing’ to do because it’s the “in thing” for their group of friends or they can’t find a boyfriend/girlfriend that is really taking their breath away. (My best friend “turned” gay after about four years of dating ****** men and she insists it “just happened”)

But I would not allow them to behave in a manner that a married couple would (than again, my heterosexual, unmarried children would have to behave in the same manner). No PDA, so sitting next to each other with their arms around each other, legs crossed over each other, etc. They want to do that, then they can get a hotel room.

I would also then pray for the both of them for as long as they lived. I would think I’d always be hurt but I wouldn’t shun my child. They’d certainly know I don’t accept it though.
 
whatevergirl said:
By loving your own child…you are not automatically condoning or supporting the act of homosexuality. But, God loved me through my sins of the past…we are taught by Him to do the same, no?🙂
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Of course, we have to love them - but loving them is one thing and supporting their homosexual act is another matter.
 
water said:
Of course, we have to love them - but loving them is one thing and supporting their homosexual act is another matter.
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true…the two really have nothing to do with one another. I think that some parents feel the pull to accept it, because they don’t want to lose the relationship with their kids. It would be a hard thing to go through…no easy answers, probably.
 
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