I'm a nearly-30-year-old man getting confirmed. What do I wear?

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I don’t want to sound lazy but… if you link a suggestion I’ll probably buy it. My wife and I are being confirmed, receiving first communion and having our marriage convalidated next month. What should I be wearing? I want to be comfortable without being too casual and nice looking without going too overboard. No idea what the cultural norms are.

FWIW I have asked my RCIA instructor but, based on the comments on my last thread, she sometimes gives questionable advice so I’m double checking with you nice folks.
 
I wore a suit and tie. I wore that because everyone else was and I had never owned a suit before and I was excited to get one.
 
Normal church clothes, they put a red robe over top so its doesn’t really matter.
 
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I wore a suit and tie. I wore that because everyone else was and I had never owned a suit before and I was excited to get one.
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Sounds like the way I’m leaning. What about colors. Black or grey for the suit, black or brown shoes, what shirt and tie color we talking? Also, thanks for the reply brother!
 
A robe sounds sick but I don’t know if my parish does that dude. I’ll ask.
 
I think the answer someone gave: “normal church clothes” is a good answer. At least in my area of the country, we are pretty toned down. I’d take the cues from your area. What would you wear to a job interview? to entertain clients at a nice restaurant? That sort of thing.
 
A tux and tails… just kidding. I am a woman but I chose to dress-up but not OTT for my confirmation. I wore a dress and heels. All the men I have seen have worn a suit or at least a nice dress shirt, slacks, and dress shoes. There will most likely be pictures at some point so you want to keep that in mind.
 
Honestly dude, I’ve been in the military my entire adult life so all I’ve got is military uniforms, jeans and t shirts haha.
 
Well, I’m not a dude but a dudette. So buy yourself a nice outfit and you’ll be fine. Frankly, no one cares much as long as you are cleaned up fairly well…but as someone mentioned there may be photos…
 
Unless they have told you that you’ll be wearing robes, which some parishes do and other parishes don’t, I’d err on the side of being more dressy. If you have a nice suit, you can’t go wrong wearing it. If you don’t own a suit, then just wear whatever you would wear for a typical dressy event like someone’s wedding, going to a fancy restaurant, or meeting your CEO at work.

Don’t be alarmed if some people show up looking very casual. The churches don’t tend to push dress codes for adults because there is a concern that some people might not have dressy clothes or be able to afford them. But in general when I’ve seen adult men and women getting confirmed, they were wearing nice suits or dresses.
 
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Are you allowed to wear your dress uniform to church? Why buy a suit you may never wear again? OTOH, a sport jacket and a pair of dress pants would work.
 
No, robes are something some parishes use, around here they are never seen.

Our Diocese has dress code for Confirmation.

If you have a suit and tie, you are good! Black or Grey, you will likely use the black more for funerals, weddings, important interviews, etc.

And ask your wife what SHE wants you to wear. She may have a color scheme in mind

ETA Wear your dress uniform.
 
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I don’t know what rules the military has about wearing uniform when you’re not at work, but if you are a serving member of the US armed forces, I’d suggest wearing whatever permutation of uniform is most appropriate (service uniform, I assume). Failing that, I guess a suit or jacket and tie, but it’s not a fashion show. Don’t go to undue expense for something you’ll only wear once. Also, I don’t know what part of the US you are in. Local norms will vary.
 
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Honestly dude, I’ve been in the military my entire adult life so all I’ve got is military uniforms, jeans and t shirts haha.
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I think you’d be good wearing your military uniform, in fact, I would have a real issue with anyone finding that inappropriate. Any American who enjoys and appreciates the benefits of citizenship in this country should honor your service.
 
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Just church clothes will do. Something bought especially for the event.

I’m a woman, so I bought a new dress for mine.
 
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