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JessHav
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Hi everyone,
It’s been almost a year since I’ve visited the forums; mainly because it was too hard to do so after my daughter Carolyn died of Trisomy 18, (and many of my friends on here had their own babies,) I didn’t want to rain on anyone’s parade but I also didn’t want to cry everytime someone asked a baby question.
I’m doing a little better now and a lot has changed! Matt lost his job in July, which had us tailspinned as to what God’s plan was for us, but luckily I got a job teaching in St. Louis and that’s what I’ve been doing for the past 8 months. Coralling 8th graders! However, Matt just recently got a WAY better job in Huntsville Alabama so that’s where we’ll be moving.
The hardest part of the past year was the desire to have more children but not being able to because we were unsure of the future and having insurance issues. (After all the doctor problems and medical bills for Carolyn we are so scared to get pregnant without insurance!) God seemed to agree with us, since we didn’t get pregnant despite not always being “right on” with our NFP, (I think we subconsciously wanted to see if God would step in if we went a few days past Phase I).
Now that we are pretty sure about where we’ll be and Matt has good insurance, we are so excited to try and have another baby. In fact, I feel like I’ve been suppressing the desire so long, (since we knew we couldn’t,) that now I am sooooooo yearning for the chance to try. The only problem is that Matt is in Alabama and I am still in St. Louis because of my job. I will get to move down there in June, but until then, my mother says that I should wait to try for a baby.
WAIT! Like we haven’t waited long enough? I want to scream to her, “I’ve waited long enough, I’ve hurt long enough! I deserve to have another baby RIGHT THIS MINUTE!”
I figure that if God doesn’t want us to, we won’t get pregnant even if we try! But we can’t get pregnant at all, (or at least not 99% of the time according to NFP stats,) if we’re not trying!
I see where she’s coming from in terms of getting settled, getting to know people, etc, but to us, the most important thing now is to continue our family! My husband agrees with me and I think we’ve made our decision to try this month.
Am I crazy? lol. Just wanted your thoughts and support so that I can get back into being “my old self,” and enjoying the forums like I used to.
Thanks so much and happy new year!
Jess
It’s been almost a year since I’ve visited the forums; mainly because it was too hard to do so after my daughter Carolyn died of Trisomy 18, (and many of my friends on here had their own babies,) I didn’t want to rain on anyone’s parade but I also didn’t want to cry everytime someone asked a baby question.
I’m doing a little better now and a lot has changed! Matt lost his job in July, which had us tailspinned as to what God’s plan was for us, but luckily I got a job teaching in St. Louis and that’s what I’ve been doing for the past 8 months. Coralling 8th graders! However, Matt just recently got a WAY better job in Huntsville Alabama so that’s where we’ll be moving.
The hardest part of the past year was the desire to have more children but not being able to because we were unsure of the future and having insurance issues. (After all the doctor problems and medical bills for Carolyn we are so scared to get pregnant without insurance!) God seemed to agree with us, since we didn’t get pregnant despite not always being “right on” with our NFP, (I think we subconsciously wanted to see if God would step in if we went a few days past Phase I).
Now that we are pretty sure about where we’ll be and Matt has good insurance, we are so excited to try and have another baby. In fact, I feel like I’ve been suppressing the desire so long, (since we knew we couldn’t,) that now I am sooooooo yearning for the chance to try. The only problem is that Matt is in Alabama and I am still in St. Louis because of my job. I will get to move down there in June, but until then, my mother says that I should wait to try for a baby.
WAIT! Like we haven’t waited long enough? I want to scream to her, “I’ve waited long enough, I’ve hurt long enough! I deserve to have another baby RIGHT THIS MINUTE!”
I figure that if God doesn’t want us to, we won’t get pregnant even if we try! But we can’t get pregnant at all, (or at least not 99% of the time according to NFP stats,) if we’re not trying!
I see where she’s coming from in terms of getting settled, getting to know people, etc, but to us, the most important thing now is to continue our family! My husband agrees with me and I think we’ve made our decision to try this month.
Am I crazy? lol. Just wanted your thoughts and support so that I can get back into being “my old self,” and enjoying the forums like I used to.
Thanks so much and happy new year!
Jess
Nice to read you again.
) Anyway, I *might *consider waiting in your situation so that hubby could “look after” me if I got bad morning sickness or got really fatigued in early pregnancy. How was your first pregnancy? Did you need much help from him? And how would you feel going to OB appointments alone, hearing the heartbeat for the first time without him, possibly seeing the ultrasound without him, etc.? And if you had a miscarriage, how would you deal with that alone without your husband physically present to give you emotional support? All these would be things I would prayerfully consider with my husband before making the final decision.
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!!! I say if you and dh are on the same page go for it!!! June will be here before you know it and all the better to make the move with a bun in the oven:thumbsup: !!!