I'm Catholic with a "not-so-Catholic" family. Advice?

[Maggie_the_Catholic]

I have a large family with dozens of first cousins, dozens of second cousins, endless aunts and uncles, and many family friends. They all claim to be Catholic yet, they curse, say hatful angry things, wish harm on others, watch porno(especially my violent brother), wear upside down cross, one cousin has a tatto of the devil on his arm, they drink and don’t go to mass and yet all say they are bound for heaven. My grandmother is very religious and even she struggles with her foul mouth and mean comments. I also am not guiltless, but they think I have my head stuck up my own a-word* because I don’t want to be like them. They are a near occasion of sin for me and it makes it hard for me to change. They call me Jesus freak and that I should be ashamed. They bring me to tears often because of what they say. I want to be different but being around them makes me fall back to bad habits, they even provoke me to do bad habits like curse and hit. I suppose it’s my fault for lack of will, but even if I’m good, they try to rip up my progress by saying that I’ll never change and that I’m going to hell and that no one will ever like me because of this.( I have mild anxiety and therefore it’s hard to make friends and since I still have pride it’s hard resist peer pressure) Any advice for a sinner like me?

 

[Legend]

Are you an adult? Do you have a job? If ‘yes’ move out!

If no, just try and get away from the house, as much as possible. Are you in school? Try joining a club. Learn a sport, a game…go to the library. broaden your interests. Find out what activities your church has, for people your age.

When you have to be with these family members, don’t provoke them! They know how you feel, and, if they know how to poke your buttons, trust me, they will.

Are your parents involved? If they’re unaware of what’s being said and done, let them know. It’s important, however that you be relatively calm. Don’t wait to get into a fight with someone.

You’ve probably heard this before, but these people are annoying you because they know that they can. Don’t react to anything outrageous. They’ll soon get bored, and leave you alone.

 

[Anicette]

It seems that you are a teenager under the roof of your parents, isn’t it?

If it is the case, the better is to wait for your independancy.

And since now, cultivate a personal religious life, with sunday mass, prayer, reading the daily lectures for mass, if you want etc.
You can joined a youth catholic group for freindships and spiritual growing.
Have religious vocations if you can, with camp, or volunteer (charity) work.

Have holy lectures, hobbies, etc!

That’s what I have done myself.

 

[Cruciferi]

They all claim to be Catholic yet, they curse, say hatful angry things, wish harm on others, watch porno(especially my violent brother), wear upside down cross, one cousin has a tatto of the devil on his arm, they drink and don’t go to mass and yet all say they are bound for heaven

These people, assuming that they’ve received the Sacraments, are Catholic. They’re just not very good examples. Also, just so you know, drinking in moderation isn’t sinful.

They call me Jesus freak and that I should be ashamed.

That’s disrespectful and you should be assertive and demand respect. However, don’t preach to them or act condescending. Otherwise, well, you’re gonna get bad reactions.

saying that I’ll never change and that I’m going to hell and that no one will ever like me because of this.( I have mild anxiety

I have no idea how you contribute to these conversations; however, I find it hard to believe that they just walk up to you and tell you that your condemned. Perhaps you shouldn’t be discussing religion with them?

Concerning the anxiety, I hope that you’re receiving treatment.