I'm having a really hard time at work and I just need some advice

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So I work at a family owned restaurant. There are tons of things I am tasked with which requires a lot of multitasking. I’m good at multitasking but I feel like there’s just so much I have to take on that I make mistakes a lot. It’s like I’m set up for failure because they put so much on us. I’m basically hosting, serving, bussing, taking phone orders and all that all at once and it’s starting to make me feel stressed out & neurotic. I feel like my superiors expect me to never make mistakes but like, I’m only human and doing my best. I’ve prayed and I’m trying my best but, I feel like it’s just never enough. I’m currently job hunting but with not much luck. I don’t want to just quit, especially unless I have something lined up but it’s almost unbearable. Also, the ppl that own the company are too cheap to hire an extra person, so we all wind up working sometimes 11 days straight before having an off day. I just need advice, and prayers. Ty all & God bless.
 
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Are your supervisors getting on you terribly for it? If they aren’t, it’s possible that they know how stressful it is. A GOOD supervisor will give you the support you need because they want you to be successful. You could try going to them directly and letting them know that you may need a few things taken off your plate until you can settle in and get a rhythm going. Like playing a sport or an instrument, or even READING, fluency comes with practice.

If they are harassing you over the mistakes, and don’t give you support, then job hunting is probably your best bet.
 
So a few pieces of random advice. I’ll pray for you 🧐.
  1. Does your family restaurant have bar. If so, find a man who sits at the bar alone, who is nice and sincere, who is a regular, and who tips well and orders expensive items. Start up a conversation with him if you need a break. It doesn’t matter if you are a man or a woman, he likely is just bored and would be grateful if somebody talked to him. Likely everybody will be happy that you are making the regular happy. Who knows…you may be talking to me…
  2. Do you know anybody who has quit the job to work elsewhere. If so, contact them and see if the restaurant they are working at is hiring.
  3. Honestly, these restaurant “industry” people are something else. Is there a bar or restaurant where they hang out in your town? If so, go there, have a couple of drinks, meet other “industry” employees, and see if the restaurant they are working at is hiring.
  4. Whatever you do don’t pout…not that you are doing this. Instead Smile!..a fake smile…yes…but it will keep the owners off your back.
Hope this helps!
 
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No advice. Just saying I feel ya. I work the fitting room at a half-price department store. Customers treat this place with less dignity than Walmart and many don’t speak a word of English. In fact, this place fits every Walmart stereotype without actually being Walmart. My boss only seems to notice me when I screw up. Prayers for you.
 
I feel really bad for you. It’s like you’re screaming inside but nobody who should, in your workplace, or elsewhere, is hearing you … the story of far too many people in our world.

Jesus said that the laborer is worthy of his hire, and in His parable about the laborers in the field, he showed compassion. He’s on your side of the problem, and on yours, redbetta, regarding the bosses’ treatment of the workers.

Praying that your voice is heard soon, or that you will be able to find good work elsewhere without damaging family ties. You need to look after yourself. You’re the only ‘you’ that you have.
 
11 days straight sounds like an issue possibly with the state Bureau of Labor.
 
Hang in there while you continue to look. Restaurants are tough to work at, especially ones where you’re wearing lots of hats. I could tell you the mistakes I’ve made in the several restaurants I’ve worked at, and they’re hilarious looking back at them but were mortifying at the time. My first gig, I couldn’t pour a beer right - just finished bartending school and I could mix anything in the bar but a beer utterly confounded me. Three weeks later, I’m making $450 a week in tips because I got into the flow. Same thing at an Italian restaurant where I constantly brought the wrong orders (hey, it’s pasta, it looks alike!), but after a few weeks I got into a flow.

Here’s a thought: look at your day, look at the areas where you made a mistake and could learn. Ask the owners to show you differences in dishes if you make mistakes in that. Ask about how to place customers across the restaurant so that servers can pick them up faster. And don’t be afraid to ask for help at moments you need it - “talk the walk” and call out if you get double- or triple-sat and need someone to take a drink order or sell an appetizer. Return the favor with other servers.

Every job takes weeks or months to learn well. And if something better comes in the mean-time, there’s your sign.
 
If you truly feel that you are being overworked, be honest with them and let them know. If they can’t accept that and work with you, then they are not worth working for in the first place.

You will be more respected for speaking up, if done correctly and legitimately.
 
You actually get less done if multitask (at least in my opinion).
People think that if you do much at the same time a lot will be done but it is false.
It just doesn’t work!
Someone should educate the people giving you too much work.
I hope you are not seen as a slave i.e. a person who could just be replaced by another if je/she died. At least that’s what they say about slavery.
If theu find you valuable then tell them your strenghs. I am not sure if this could be done alone. I would never dare doing it by myself.
 
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Thanks. BTW, love your sailboat. I’ve been wanting to say that for a while. It exudes a fanciful yet lonely feeling similar to that of the I Spy books.
 
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So I work at a family owned restaurant…It’s like I’m set up for failure because they put so much on us. I’m basically hosting, serving, bussing, taking phone orders and all that all at once and it’s starting to make me feel stressed out & neurotic…I don’t want to just quit, especially unless I have something lined up but it’s almost unbearable. …I just need advice, and prayers…
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Prayers first…I am certainly offering them.
Advice?

Quit. But only if you are stressed to the breaking point; the job is not worth it, even if you don’t have something else lined up yet. Your mental and physical health is more important than even dire financial concerns.

Stay until you find something better, only if you are merely unhappy, but can tolerate the situation without affecting your mental and physical health, and the financial security it offers.

Peace!
 
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Praying you find a better job. From what you describe it sounds awful. And if the bosses are cheap and won’t expand it might never change. 🙏
 
In our area, a seasoned, professional restaurant worker can choose what job they want.

Gain experience and use that experience. You might try joining some local “foodies” or “restaurant review” facebook groups.
 
This seems to be the trend today. Pay employees as little as possible. Demand long hours. Disrespectful treatment.
These conditions are the things that prompt people to unionize.
 
I think you just need a weekend off to get yourself on track. You should talk to the authorities to get you limited work and take atleast one day off within a week to keep yourself up.
 
One important thing for anyone, a staffer, a volunteer, etc is to know how to answer a request from the boss.

“Susan, get out there and bus tables 7 and 10”.

Susan replies: “Of course, do you want me to seat the guests at the front at the open tables before or after I bus the other tables?”

The boss may not realize that you are in the middle of another task, and it is good to ask for them to set the priorities.
 
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