I'm homosexual; where can I turn?

[Martin_de_Porre]

I am,unfortunately, homosexual and have drifted away from the Church as a result. I really need spiritual help and direction regarding this situation and have no where to turn. I’m involved in a 18 year relationship with another man, however, it has become platonic over the past several years. I pray and talk to God constantly and hope he still hears me. I have recently returned to Mass but am fearful that I am committing a sacriledge. Please, tell me what I can do to rid myself of this horrific guilt. Before you or anyone else asks, I have repeatedly tried to “fix” myself…through prayer, fasting, psychiatry and to no avail. I declare to you now, this moment, that I detest being homosexual.

 

[Fr.Vincent_Serpa]

Hi,

First of all, you DO know where to turn. You already have. You speak with the Lord frequently. Now, listen to Him. Spend time (I suggest an hour) daily before the tabernacle. He has deliberately given you this cross. The crosses He gives are actually for our own benefit, though most of us would never have chosen them for ourselves. They give us the opportunity to respond to all that He suffered for us.

All you need to do is go to Confession and live a chaste, devout life. Offer Him all your homosexual tendencies. Make an oblation of them. Allow Him to be your life companion. Your life is replete with meaning. You have the gift of faith that He has deliberately given you. Make the most of it! I suggest that you make use of the materials and ministry of Courage:

couragerc.net/

Fr. Vincent Serpa, O.P.