Im in quite the dilemma

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So, I recently talked to one of my parents about this struggle which may be caused by scrupulousity. it was partly caused by my concern that I couldn’t follow the Ten Commandments unless I am directly told by a priest/confessor/etc- someone who knows enough to “diagnose” me as a scrupulous person. This is what I assume…so because I dont have a priest that can tell me this directly or in person yet (yes i am planning on getting a confessor or director) as a “normal” Catholic right now, i cannot act with a doubtful conscience or against it. So, because i have a doubtful conscience which is not assured by the research and advice Ive gotten, I cannot do much throughout my day because I doubt the acts I do. SO, my mother had told me to follow the commandments (for the scrupulous), until we could find a director. But, as much as I want to obey…i cannot act with a doubtful conscience! should I still obey my parent and assume that I am scrupulous (priests have suggested it or that I am acting like it, and I think for sure I am, and my mother told me directly that I am) OR not act on a doubtful conscience which in the mean time, will make my life much more difficult and cause me to disobey on other areas because I cant act on doubt.
 
Go with what your mother asked you to.
Take a look at this one and follow it, I guess it´s somewhat alike what she was referring to: Ten Commandments for the Scrupulous
Make sure to follow the advice of your confessor.
 
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I´m somewhat scrupulous myself so I know how it´s.
I hope you get good advice so that your scruples might come to an end.

God bless you!
 
Listen to your mother and speak to a Priest ASAP.

I would also recommend you seek out some counselling/therapy for your anxiety.
 
At first blush, your thoughts and subsequent doubts seem recurrent and/or intrusive. Doubt directs your thoughts. Since God did not make the commandments impossible to follow, and since He knows what you are made of, it seems that your thinking about sin may be disordered.

What about the virtues? Have you thought about them at all? We should not focus on sin, but on striving toward the virtues, knowing that we are sinful creatures. We should not worry and fret over hell, but occupy ourselves with putting the virtues into play and struggling heavenward. Do you see the difference; the contrast?

The preoccupation with sin is not healthy and may help in finding a solution. All of this “may” point to anxiety disorder rather than mere scrupulosity. A doctor would be the place to begin if that was the case.
 
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Assuming you are underage, then you must obey your parent. God has placed them over you in authority. If you are scrupulous as you say, then obey your mother until you have a priest/spiritual director. Then obey him and not your scrupulous conscience. Good priests will give you trustworthy advice, and they are also responsibile for you soul before God - regarding the spiritual guidance they give you. Then learn the Faith and form your conscience according to the teachings of the Church.
 
@po18guy Yes I do understand what you mean and I recognize that I have been very preoccupied with sin. I know that’s not healthy and is not what God asks of us. My worry overtook me. Thank you
 
Worry is a symptom. Look for the cause. You are well advised to ask Saint Padre Pio for his intercession, as he famously taught us:
“Pray, hope and don’t worry.”
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Avoiding sin brings you back to neither good nor bad - pagans do as well. Practicing the virtues sets you firmly on the “good” side and struggling after Christ.
 
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Given your posting history, you would be well advised to stop asking these questions here and to seek the assistance of a priest and a counselor for your scrupulosity. And others would be well advised to stop responding, as it isn’t helping. It’s only driving the need for reassurance in the OP.

You are in my prayers.

-Fr ACEGC
 
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