Why am I not Roman Catholic? A variety of reasons. While I believe that Catholicism is right in many respects, and one of the few major voices of sanity in the West today, it has gone off track in some areas, in doctrine, but more foremost to my mind now, in pastoral care.
A major turning point for me was several years ago when I, suffering from health problems, received the advice from a Catholic priest friend that I ask a local Catholic priest for anointing. I was at college at the time, and I went to a local parish priest. I asked if he could anoint me, for I had several chronic health problems. He responded, no, I cannot do that. Why, I asked. Because you are not sick (i.e. not dying)! After I briefly explained my health problems in a little more detail, he repeated his rejection, and then asked me to leave his church.
After some research, I understood why he responded as he did… He was an elderly priest whose church was more traditional appearing than most, and he was toting the line that anointing of the sick only is for the moribund. However, I did not feel this was right. I did not think Christ would turn people away so bluntly for healing. Several years later, when I learned that the Eastern Catholic and Orthodox Churches consider anointing as a sacrament (mystery) for all illnesses, physical and spiritual, it made perfect sense to me.
I am grateful to my many Catholic friends, and to the Catholic priests who have helped me. My experience with the Catholic Church as an institution though has not been the best, and I ran into similiar off-putting experiences in the next few years before becoming Orthodox.
There are doctrinal issues as well that led me to Orthodoxy, but I think having just been anointed this past Wednesday, this incident is foremost in my mind at this time.