I'm really okay! An update

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Friends, it has been a long time since my last post. And a very long time since the post before that. I’ve been off the forums with my nose to the grindstone, doing what needed to be done. As an update I would like to communicate that we are moving forward with the divorce. We had a custody hearing for our children, where my husband openly admitted to all of the abuse. Every physical threat, every hit, every shove. He admitted to the fact that he rages in front of me and the children. And yet, he blamed me throughout the entire thing and cried about how he was forced to this by my “toxicity”. He literally said at one point that I had “chosen” to fall down the stairs after he “bumped” me in order to make HIM feel bad. Sigh.

Either way, they saw through it all. I was given sole physical custody of the kids. He has parenting time under certain stipulations that he seeks medical help, lives with his parents, maintains employment, and so on.

Many of you likely don’t even remember me or my story and that is so okay. But I just wanted to say that a year ago when I was really bearing my soul here, I couldn’t imagine myself moving in this direction. And it was through support and prayers of good men and women here that I was able to finally release myself and my kids from this.

So in short, I’m doing well folks! I am still in therapy, and I am still discovering the lingering affects of being abused. I have been promoted at work into a full-time position where I am the director of religious education. My parish continues to love and support me, even though my husband went through and tried to slander my name. He kept telling them that he wanted them to know “what kind of woman” works for their church.

Someday, this will be over. I hope it will be soon. But I’ve got my eyes focused now. I have a direction now. We’re going to be okay. 🙂
 
I’m really glad to hear from you!

Also glad that you are staying strong through all these troubles, and that you have some supports to lean on! God bless you. :console:
 
Ophelia23 said:
Friends, it has been a long time since my last post. And a very long time since the post before that. I’ve been off the forums with my nose to the grindstone, doing what needed to be done. As an update I would like to communicate that we are moving forward with the divorce. We had a custody hearing for our children, where my husband openly admitted to all of the abuse. Every physical threat, every hit, every shove. He admitted to the fact that he rages in front of me and the children. And yet, he blamed me throughout the entire thing and cried about how he was forced to this by my “toxicity”. He literally said at one point that I had “chosen” to fall down the stairs after he “bumped” me in order to make HIM feel bad. Sigh.

Either way, they saw through it all. I was given sole physical custody of the kids. He has parenting time under certain stipulations that he seeks medical help, lives with his parents, maintains employment, and so on.

Many of you likely don’t even remember me or my story and that is so okay. But I just wanted to say that a year ago when I was really bearing my soul here, I couldn’t imagine myself moving in this direction. And it was through support and prayers of good men and women here that I was able to finally release myself and my kids from this.

So in short, I’m doing well folks! I am still in therapy, and I am still discovering the lingering affects of being abused. I have been promoted at work into a full-time position where I am the director of religious education. My parish continues to love and support me, even though my husband went through and tried to slander my name. He kept telling them that he wanted them to know “what kind of woman” works for their church.

Someday, this will be over. I hope it will be soon. But I’ve got my eyes focused now. I have a direction now. We’re going to be okay. 🙂
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No tragedy is ever wonderful. But your update was the best possible thing I could have read today. Thank you. And God bless you!
 
Ophelia23 said:
Friends, it has been a long time since my last post. And a very long time since the post before that. I’ve been off the forums with my nose to the grindstone, doing what needed to be done. As an update I would like to communicate that we are moving forward with the divorce. We had a custody hearing for our children, where my husband openly admitted to all of the abuse. Every physical threat, every hit, every shove. He admitted to the fact that he rages in front of me and the children. And yet, he blamed me throughout the entire thing and cried about how he was forced to this by my “toxicity”. He literally said at one point that I had “chosen” to fall down the stairs after he “bumped” me in order to make HIM feel bad. Sigh.

Either way, they saw through it all. I was given sole physical custody of the kids. He has parenting time under certain stipulations that he seeks medical help, lives with his parents, maintains employment, and so on.

Many of you likely don’t even remember me or my story and that is so okay. But I just wanted to say that a year ago when I was really bearing my soul here, I couldn’t imagine myself moving in this direction. And it was through support and prayers of good men and women here that I was able to finally release myself and my kids from this.

So in short, I’m doing well folks! I am still in therapy, and I am still discovering the lingering affects of being abused. I have been promoted at work into a full-time position where I am the director of religious education. My parish continues to love and support me, even though my husband went through and tried to slander my name. He kept telling them that he wanted them to know “what kind of woman” works for their church.

Someday, this will be over. I hope it will be soon. But I’ve got my eyes focused now. I have a direction now. We’re going to be okay. 🙂
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Good for you! Hang in there, the future is full of love and promise for you and your children. :flowers:
 
I am so glad for the update.

I know that this is not easy for you and I am happy to hear that you are doing as well as possible under the circumstances.

Praying for you & your family.
 
Good to hear from you, thanks for the update. Continued prayers for your intentions.
 
Ophelia23 said:
Friends, it has been a long time since my last post. And a very long time since the post before that. I’ve been off the forums with my nose to the grindstone, doing what needed to be done. As an update I would like to communicate that we are moving forward with the divorce. We had a custody hearing for our children, where my husband openly admitted to all of the abuse. Every physical threat, every hit, every shove. He admitted to the fact that he rages in front of me and the children. And yet, he blamed me throughout the entire thing and cried about how he was forced to this by my “toxicity”. He literally said at one point that I had “chosen” to fall down the stairs after he “bumped” me in order to make HIM feel bad. Sigh.

Either way, they saw through it all. I was given sole physical custody of the kids. He has parenting time under certain stipulations that he seeks medical help, lives with his parents, maintains employment, and so on.

Many of you likely don’t even remember me or my story and that is so okay. But I just wanted to say that a year ago when I was really bearing my soul here, I couldn’t imagine myself moving in this direction. And it was through support and prayers of good men and women here that I was able to finally release myself and my kids from this.

So in short, I’m doing well folks! I am still in therapy, and I am still discovering the lingering affects of being abused. I have been promoted at work into a full-time position where I am the director of religious education. My parish continues to love and support me, even though my husband went through and tried to slander my name. He kept telling them that he wanted them to know “what kind of woman” works for their church.

Someday, this will be over. I hope it will be soon. But I’ve got my eyes focused now. I have a direction now. We’re going to be okay. 🙂
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Of course I remember you, and as a matter of fact, I had been thinking of you and had been wondering how you and your dear little ones were doing.

I’m so glad to hear that you are working full-time now. Congratulations!

I’m so very sorry to hear about all of the stress regarding your family situation, and please know that I will continue to pray for you and your family, and I pray that everything works out for you.

May God bless you and keep all of you in His loving embrace during this stressful time for you.
 
I am very happy to hear that things are going better for you. God bless you and your children.
 
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No tragedy is ever wonderful. But your update was the best possible thing I could have read today. Thank you. And God bless you!
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Yes, it was the best thing I could have read today too! I’ve been thinking about you, Ophelia, and have been hoping you would come back with an update. God bless you and I will pray for you. :hug3:
 
Ophelia23 said:
Friends, it has been a long time since my last post. And a very long time since the post before that. I’ve been off the forums with my nose to the grindstone, doing what needed to be done. As an update I would like to communicate that we are moving forward with the divorce. We had a custody hearing for our children, where my husband openly admitted to all of the abuse. Every physical threat, every hit, every shove. He admitted to the fact that he rages in front of me and the children. And yet, he blamed me throughout the entire thing and cried about how he was forced to this by my “toxicity”. He literally said at one point that I had “chosen” to fall down the stairs after he “bumped” me in order to make HIM feel bad. Sigh.

Either way, they saw through it all. I was given sole physical custody of the kids. He has parenting time under certain stipulations that he seeks medical help, lives with his parents, maintains employment, and so on.

Many of you likely don’t even remember me or my story and that is so okay. But I just wanted to say that a year ago when I was really bearing my soul here, I couldn’t imagine myself moving in this direction. And it was through support and prayers of good men and women here that I was able to finally release myself and my kids from this.

So in short, I’m doing well folks! I am still in therapy, and I am still discovering the lingering affects of being abused. I have been promoted at work into a full-time position where I am the director of religious education. My parish continues to love and support me, even though my husband went through and tried to slander my name. He kept telling them that he wanted them to know “what kind of woman” works for their church.

Someday, this will be over. I hope it will be soon. But I’ve got my eyes focused now. I have a direction now. We’re going to be okay. 🙂
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Woo-hoo! This is spectacular news.
FWIW, my first husband did the same thing: got ahold of the parent directory and sent a letter to everyone saying I was a “w”. Mental.
Anyway, prayers of thanksgiving going up!!!
God bless you!!!
 
I’m really okay!
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Never thought you were a bad person! 😃 Bad chev, lame pun. 😉

Looks like a lot has happened.

Glad you weren’t shafted by the justice system. I don’t work how it works out in your particular neck of the woods, but courts aren’t normally almost nice to be in. Glad your employers didn’t believe your husband either. Congrats on the promotion too and enough hours to pay for a decent living. Your three little girls have a great, brave mum to be proud of, I hope one day they’ll appreciate that. Nah, I’m sure they already do. 🙂
 
I remember you, and your story. Thank you so much for updating us. Wonderful news

May our good Lord bless you and your kids, and keep all of you close to His heart.
 
:yup: Aw, thank you. I have such good friends. I have good friends at home and good friends online. I’m so blessed. 🙂
 
Ophelia23 said:
Friends, it has been a long time since my last post. And a very long time since the post before that. I’ve been off the forums with my nose to the grindstone, doing what needed to be done. As an update I would like to communicate that we are moving forward with the divorce. We had a custody hearing for our children, where my husband openly admitted to all of the abuse. Every physical threat, every hit, every shove. He admitted to the fact that he rages in front of me and the children. And yet, he blamed me throughout the entire thing and cried about how he was forced to this by my “toxicity”. He literally said at one point that I had “chosen” to fall down the stairs after he “bumped” me in order to make HIM feel bad. Sigh.

Either way, they saw through it all. I was given sole physical custody of the kids. He has parenting time under certain stipulations that he seeks medical help, lives with his parents, maintains employment, and so on.

Many of you likely don’t even remember me or my story and that is so okay. But I just wanted to say that a year ago when I was really bearing my soul here, I couldn’t imagine myself moving in this direction. And it was through support and prayers of good men and women here that I was able to finally release myself and my kids from this.

So in short, I’m doing well folks! I am still in therapy, and I am still discovering the lingering affects of being abused. I have been promoted at work into a full-time position where I am the director of religious education. My parish continues to love and support me, even though my husband went through and tried to slander my name. He kept telling them that he wanted them to know “what kind of woman” works for their church.

Someday, this will be over. I hope it will be soon. But I’ve got my eyes focused now. I have a direction now. We’re going to be okay. 🙂
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I’m so glad to hear you’re OK!
 
Such great news.

I haven’t been here in a long time, either. I remember you well.

Continued prayers for you and the wee ones. Prayers, too, for your soon to be ex. He is in desperate need of our prayer.
 
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