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hi. my preist told me that if you are having trouble controling your self in certain ways, its not a mortal sin if you slip up and do something. well, i cant really post about it anymore, but it has to do with stuff that i watch on the computer. im not sure what to do. well, heres what happens: i start to get tempted, and know what it could lead to. i try to stop with impure thoughts, but they just get out of control. then it gets worse, i know that what i am doing is wrong, but i cant really stop. i realize that it could go against god…its not that i dont care what god thinks…i just cant think for myself at all! my thoughts just wont go through. its like… i have to do it. i just cant stop. when its done i feel so bad…and i dont even know why i did it. it seems so stupid. but when it was happening, it was like there were no other options-no way to stop.

i realize you guys arent theologians…but any advice would be nice. thanks guys.
 
Since you know how to access these things - DON’T!!!

The most effective weapon against impurity is the rosary; trust me.
 
A computer isn’t necessary for life. If you truely struggle that much with sin on a computer, get rid of your computer.

-Tim
 
im 14 and obviously live with my parents. beleive me that wouldnt go smoothly. my mom doesnt even no. i dont tell her because i know she wouldnt take me seriously.
 
Why not try blocking those sites? Put them in the block list and close your eyes and type some random long password that you’ll never remember?
 
homewardbound said:
Why not try blocking those sites? Put them in the block list and close your eyes and type some random long password that you’ll never remember?
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ive tried that, my computer is old, and i cant block just those sites.
 
coleraine said:
hi. my preist told me that if you are having trouble controling your self in certain ways, its not a mortal sin if you slip up and do something. well, i cant really post about it anymore, but it has to do with stuff that i watch on the computer. im not sure what to do. well, heres what happens: i start to get tempted, and know what it could lead to. i try to stop with impure thoughts, but they just get out of control. then it gets worse, i know that what i am doing is wrong, but i cant really stop. i realize that it could go against god…its not that i dont care what god thinks…i just cant think for myself at all! my thoughts just wont go through. its like… i have to do it. i just cant stop. when its done i feel so bad…and i dont even know why i did it. it seems so stupid. but when it was happening, it was like there were no other options-no way to stop.

i realize you guys arent theologians…but any advice would be nice. thanks guys.
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Sell your computer and give the money to the poor, is what Christ I suspect would tell you.
 
Chesster said:
The most effective weapon against impurity is the rosary; trust me.
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In addition to the Rosary, I would also recommend the Divine Mercy Chaplet. They are both great weapons against sin. I pray the Rosary on the way to work and pray the Divine Mercy Chaplet on the way home.
Pray them faithfully and try to avoid those occasions that lead you to sin. When you feel tempted, make the Sign of the Cross, pray the Our Father, the Hail Mary, the Glory Be, and the O My Jesus, as you walk away from the temptation. If you work very hard to overcome this, God will give you the grace to defeat it.

Good luck,

Stillkickin
 
If you don’t sell the computer put a picture of the Blessed Mother on your desktop and hang a religious metal on your computer. Its not to comfortable to do these things with the Blessed Mother watching. And besides that she sure makes those people look like the devil compared to Her. they are following the devil and thats why you put Mary next to them they don’t look so good.

You can do this with Mary’s help.
 
Coleraine,

I suspect that you don’t truely want to quit if you keep that computer in your house.

-Tim
 
Timmy_Z said:
Coleraine,

I suspect that you don’t truely want to quit if you keep that computer in your house.

-Tim
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its not up to me what i keep in my house. its up to my mom. she wouldnt let me get rid of it, never. i need it for school…hmm…why? BECAUSE IM 14! if i were an adult, and i could go to church every weekend, instead of every other weekend, this wouldnt be a problem! i go to church by myself, with no one else! no one the i live with shares my beliefs!! and dont you ever, ever tell me when i dont want to quit!!! i wouldnt be going to confession every opportunity i get if i didnt want to quit. unless you want to give advice, or info on the topic that i posted about in the first place, you can stop posting on here.
 
coleraine said:
its not up to me what i keep in my house. its up to my mom. she wouldnt let me get rid of it, never. i need it for school…hmm…why? BECAUSE IM 14! if i were an adult, and i could go to church every weekend, instead of every other weekend, this wouldnt be a problem! i go to church by myself, with no one else! no one the i live with shares my beliefs!! and dont you ever, ever tell me when i dont want to quit!!! i wouldnt be going to confession every opportunity i get if i didnt want to quit. unless you want to give advice, or info on the topic that i posted about in the first place, you can stop posting on here.
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Ok, you can’t sell the computer. Since it’s your mom’s I hope that it is out in an open area of the house. You can start by deciding not to use the computer unless other people are around.
 
Br.Rich_SFO said:
Ok, you can’t sell the computer. Since it’s your mom’s I hope that it is out in an open area of the house. You can start by deciding not to use the computer unless other people are around.
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yah thats true. ill have to do something. you know, i dont think im in mortal sin right now, my priest told me it usually isnt for kids my age who are struggling with this stuff. even if i knew 100% that i was in a state of grace…id still be scared because…it just seems so bleak. this is the hardest ive ever fought this…but it feels like a losing battle.
 
coleraine said:
yah thats true. ill have to do something. you know, i dont think im in mortal sin right now, my priest told me it usually isnt for kids my age who are struggling with this stuff. even if i knew 100% that i was in a state of grace…id still be scared because…it just seems so bleak. this is the hardest ive ever fought this…but it feels like a losing battle.
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You can make it through this though. I struggled with the same thing as a teen. But I got over it. I realized God was much more important than fulfilling my fleshly desires and I made myself avoid the computer for awhile. Or at least the internet. I played games, read books, called friends, and prayed. Its all about taking control of the temptation and not letting it control you. It is hard, very hard. But you can make it through and this temptation will pass. I believe in you and I hope you can believe in yourself. God loves you and He will help you through this struggle. Take care!
 
If you really don’t choose to do it, it does not meet the qualifications for a mortal sin. You do not have your full consent in your actions.

The best way to overcome this sort of thing is prayer. Pray for the strength to overcome your impulses toward sin. You can’t beat this thing alone. Pray. Pray that your family might take you seriously and realize that this is not just “a phase”, pray that you yourself might overcome your personal problems. When you pray the Act of Contrition, remember the last part- “avoid the near occasions of sin”

And for anyone who doesn’t realize it- almost every school out there assigns homework that has to be typed, and a good deal of research is done online. It is virtually impossible to get all assignments done without a home computer. Selling/throwing away the computer is not an option.
 
You mentioned something about the priest saying it wasn’t sinful. What I suspect he was meaning was it might be more of a venial sin instead of a mortal sin since you have an addiction to it. This doesn’t mean you should not try to stop. What I suspect you are referring to is a very difficult sin to deal with. When you get tempted try going outside, or go for a walk. Do something active/physical. When you do use the computer, only use it for important stuff like school work. Before you get on the computer ask the Blessed Mother for help. Consider saying the second sorrowful mystery before or while on the computer. It is the scourging at the pillar, and the grace you recieve from meditating on that mystery is purity. Hopefully some of these suggestions help. Also you might want to do a virus scan on your computer. Those kinds of websites are notorious for having viruses. Well good luck, and keep praying,
 
don’t worry man, there are plently of teenagers out there that have seen this stuff and usually get the urge to, um, partake in sins of the internet. Follow the advise of everybody here, since they are pretty much right. I do understand that the urge at times surpasses all reason. Its really terrible. Anyways try out,

xxxchurch.com

Don’t panic, its not a porn site! This is a protestant ministry to help those with, umm, certain internet addictions. Anyways, besides the fact that they are protestant, they can come in handy, and it would be a good idea to tell somebody really close to you about your problems so that they keep up check with you. Also, tell your parents to watch out for whenever your internet “mysteriously” vanishes to nothing, because that is never a coincidence 😉 Anyways, God bless! 😃
 
coleraine said:
i have to do it. i just cant stop.
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Would you still feel that you “HAVE to do it” if you knew that afterwards a brick was going to fall of your head and you were to meet your maker and go to hell because you have a mortal sin upon your soul? THAT is the frame of mind that you need to place yourself in to help overcome this temptation.

At the age of 14 you are mostlikely not fully culpable. However, that does not give you free rein to engage in this sin. As long as you make a sincere effort to avoid this sin, I would agree with your priest that it mostlikely more of a venial sin instead of a mortal sin.
 
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