Im struggling to pray with my heart and mind

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Hello, I feel like a fake catholic. I’m not happy with my life when I don’t really have much to be unhappy about. I think I’m selfish and not living the way God wants me to. I’m not a bad person, but sometimes I judge people or jump to conclusions if they do something I don’t agree with. I pray that God will try to change me or my situation. I pray but feel like I’m not being heard. Why should God help me, if he doesn’t like who I am?. I stopped praying the Rosary a long time ago because nothing changed. I lost trust, hope & faith. Now, when I do pray I feel like my heart isn’t in it because I’m worrying, thinking about things, distracted etc so its what I call mechanical praying rather than from my heart.

What can I do? Any advice or opinions will be appreciated. I can elaborate more if needed or if it may help me?. I want to restore trust & hope but when things don’t change I lose hope.

Thank you.
 
First off, you can not do things to make God happy. God is love and God loves you irrespective of your own view about yourself.

You can’t say X number of prayers to change, its not what prayer is about.

You can’t even become good by trying to do good things.

You need to first, surrender yourself to Christ and accept whatever comes into your life as being part of your spiritual journey toward union with Him.

You’re also judging yourself in a way that God doesn’t judge you.

This is the year of Mercy, because God is merciful and knows of our struggles. All we can do is be open to God’s love and mercy and allow his grace to transform us. Grace comes through love and love is the only way to know God, and know your true self.

Stop being anxious about not being good enough. Salvation isn’t about who has the most will power, but God’s mercy.

Jim
 
Thank you for replying. So do we just have to accept whatever comes our way?. I don’t agree with something my neighbour is doing and I find it hard trying to turn a blind eye.
 
Thank you for replying. So do we just have to accept whatever comes our way?. I don’t agree with something my neighbour is doing and I find it hard trying to turn a blind eye.
Be aware of the present moment and live in the now for its the place where God exists. Time has no meaning for God, who is only in the present.

Accept whatever comes into your life as being God’s will and allow those things to flow through and not attach yourself to them.

If they are truly from God, they will become part of your being, if not, they’ll just vanish like a vapor, but always pray for God’s will to be done.

Don’t concern yourself with what your neighbor is doing even when you disagree. You’re not their messiah, only God is. Merely be open to helping them, if that comes into your radar, but always in charity.

We grow when we can detach ourselves from the need to be accepted by others.

Trust me, these are things which I’ve been trying to grow through myself and it takes a lifetime. However, with God’s grace, it will be done.

Jim
 
Jim, thank you for your time in replying to me in detail. I really needed someone elses opinion so I appreciate it very much.

I am here too if you need me.

Thank you,

Martin.
 
+Reading the responses to this thread subject, I was reminded yet again this morning of the deep sweet . . . *ever flowing *. . . life giving river of grace of . . . Benedictine Spirituality . . . of which the Trappists are a part . . . which holy way of life . . . for centuries . . . has practiced deep heart-and-mind communion with our . . . Wonderful Holy God . . . through constant meditation upon Sacred Scripture . . .

For some souls . . . **Sacred :bible1: Scripture ** . . . and the reading of other materials re Christianity and Catholicism . . . are approached from a very human mind-oriented/mental-intellectual approach and mindset . . . however . . . quite frankly . . . for my very simple soul in the Lord . . . graciously blest and immersed by our Lord in both Franciscan and Benedictine Catholic spiritualities . . . contemplative pray:gopray2:er and Lectio Divina (divine reading) . . . have always been my primary approach to growing in the sweet profound depths of the . . . Grace of God . . . and in Catholicism . . . day by day . . .

In these Catholic spiritualities . . . pray:gopray2:er . . . is essentially the **heart ❤️ ** of one’s soul “talking” to its God . . . on the other hand . . . meditation is taught in Sacred :bible1: Scripture and by our Holy Mother Catholic Church as essentially being the heart of one’s soul “listening” to its God . . . the ultimate goal of these actions of the soul being that at the center . . . of the deep interior quiet within the heart of the soul . . . the soul enters into . . . *constant holy . . . two way conversation and communion with its God *. . .

Lectio Divina (divine reading) . . . is perhaps the clearest most well lit holy pathway I know of for the soul to “listen” to its God . . . essentially it is encountering God in the reading of a literary level of holy writings in Christendom believed to be especially blessed and anointed of God . . . first order and always primary of which is God’s . . . **Holy :bible1: Word **. . . Sacred Scripture . . . and which group of writings can also include . . . The Holy Rule of St. Benedict . . . The Catechism of the Catholic Church . . . The Baltimore Catechism . . . the Creeds . . . writings of the Fathers and Saints of the Church, etc., . . . and as such . . . when **prayerfully ** read and meditated upon the . . . **Holy Spirit **. . . Wonderful Counselor of Our God . . . is abundantly available to help regarding the reading, meditating and experiencing the understanding of same . . .

The holy Benedictine monk Archabbot Douglas R. Nowicki , O.S.B. of the Saint Vincent Archabbey in Latrobe, Pennsylvania here in the United States . . . recommends that we . . . slow down radically . . . when reflecting on inspired material . . . so as to . . . *open up freely *. . . to the treasury of insights contained therein . . . he goes on further to share with beautiful simplicity:

Lectio Divina (divine reading)
Archabbot Douglas R. Nowicki , O.S.B. (Order of St. Benedict)


“It is the **monastic insight **that reading, if it be authentic, cannot be undertaken simply with the eyes and the mind. Rather it must involve the whole person: mind, heart, body and spirit. It is reading not so much for information as for formation, that is, for encounter with the living God in this moment in such a way that one’s heart catches fire and one’s life is transformed … In St. Benedict’s day reading a sacred or spiritual text was practiced not so much for the sake of ‘information,’ but rather in order to be ‘formed’: that is, to be inwardly changed or shaped. …

Thus the aim of lectio divina (divine reading), i.e., pondering the material in a slow, prayerful way, is to dispose ourselves to welcome God’s ever-present grace and His efforts to conquer our hearts and transform us more and more into a holy people . . . ”

. . . all for Jesus+
. . . thank You Dear Blessed Lord+
. . . praise God from Whom all blessings flow+

:harp:
 
Hello, I feel like a fake catholic. I’m not happy with my life when I don’t really have much to be unhappy about. I think I’m selfish and not living the way God wants me to. I’m not a bad person, but sometimes I judge people or jump to conclusions if they do something I don’t agree with. I pray that God will try to change me or my situation. I pray but feel like I’m not being heard. Why should God help me, if he doesn’t like who I am?. I stopped praying the Rosary a long time ago because nothing changed. I lost trust, hope & faith. Now, when I do pray I feel like my heart isn’t in it because I’m worrying, thinking about things, distracted etc so its what I call mechanical praying rather than from my heart.

What can I do? Any advice or opinions will be appreciated. I can elaborate more if needed or if it may help me?. I want to restore trust & hope but when things don’t change I lose hope.

Thank you.
Give it all a break and forget about your spiritual life for awhile. Live your life day by day according to love and you will be responding to Christ’s command. In time, your spiritual life will return.
 
Thank you for replying. So do we just have to accept whatever comes our way?. I don’t agree with something my neighbour is doing and I find it hard trying to turn a blind eye.
Yes, we just have to accept what comes our way. I don’t agree with some of the things my wife does, but I love her and have grown to accept that is the way things are going to be - and believe me my life is a whole lot easier.
 
PSALM 42
1 For the leader. A maskil of the Korahites.
2 As the deer longs for streams of water,
so my soul longs for you, O God.
3 My soul thirsts for God, the living God.
When can I enter and see the face of God?
4 My tears have been my bread day and night,
as they ask me every day, “Where is your God?”
5 Those times I recall
as I pour out my soul,
When I would cross over to the shrine of the Mighty One,
to the house of God,
Amid loud cries of thanksgiving,
with the multitude keeping festival.
6 Why are you downcast, my soul;
why do you groan within me?
Wait for God, for I shall again praise him,
my savior and my God.
7 My soul is downcast within me;
therefore I remember you
From the land of the Jordan and Hermon,
from Mount Mizar,
8 Deep calls to deep
in the roar of your torrents,
and all your waves and breakers
sweep over me.
9 By day may the LORD send his mercy,
and by night may his righteousness be with me!
I will pray to the God of my life,
10 I will say to God, my rock:
“Why do you forget me?
Why must I go about mourning
with the enemy oppressing me?”
11 It shatters my bones, when my adversaries reproach me,
when they say to me every day: “Where is your God?”
12 Why are you downcast, my soul,
why do you groan within me?
Wait for God, for I shall again praise him,
my savior and my God.
 
What works for some , Doesn’t work for others,
Our lifestyles have a profound influence on how we feel &. Cope with a religious life,
What works for me ? I go to the middle of a large field and pray out loud,
I find it incredibly spiritually fulfilling ,I do it just a couple times a year,
It’s like a Booster shot to my Faith,
 
Hello, I feel like a fake catholic. I’m not happy with my life when I don’t really have much to be unhappy about. I think I’m selfish and not living the way God wants me to. I’m not a bad person, but sometimes I judge people or jump to conclusions if they do something I don’t agree with. I pray that God will try to change me or my situation. I pray but feel like I’m not being heard. Why should God help me, if he doesn’t like who I am?. I stopped praying the Rosary a long time ago because nothing changed. I lost trust, hope & faith. Now, when I do pray I feel like my heart isn’t in it because I’m worrying, thinking about things, distracted etc so its what I call mechanical praying rather than from my heart.

What can I do? Any advice or opinions will be appreciated. I can elaborate more if needed or if it may help me?. I want to restore trust & hope but when things don’t change I lose hope.

Thank you.
A righteous man falls seven times a day. No one is perfect. While there is NO EXCUSE for sin ever, we are human. It were so easy to be perfect, most of us would not bother going to church. Patience is a virtue. True conversions do not occur overnight. Bad behavior is not miraculously cured in a minute. KEEP TRYING.
 
Yes, we just have to accept what comes our way. I don’t agree with some of the things my wife does, but I love her and have grown to accept that is the way things are going to be - and believe me my life is a whole lot easier.
True. People are going to do as they please so why worry.
 
“Why should God help me?” He doesn’t owe us anything, but He freely chooses to help us, out of love. No amount of our sins can change who God is, and He is love. I think what I see in your post is that you need to work on trusting Him. Ask Him for that grace and try to make simple acts of trust.

Have you heard of the Divine Mercy devotion? It was given by Our Lord to St Faustina. He gave her a vision and told her to make an image with the words “Jesus I trust in You”. He told her that the more a soul trusts, the more it will receive, and distrust hurts God MORE than our sins.

Imagine a parent and a child. The parent loves the child very much, but the child keeps questioning this. Would this not hurt the parent more than the time the child stole from the cookie jar? 🙂

Here’s more about the devotion… ewtn.com/Devotionals/mercy/

God bless you!
 
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