Now the complaints…
There needs to be a reaching out for those who go to the OF Mass. It is quite a transition and uncomfortable for those who have grown up and absorbed so much or so little. I can compare it to me coming back to the Catholic Church after spending time wandering through non-catholic faiths, statues of Mary were a shock to me. In the same way the centrality of Christ and the explicit seriousness is a shock. It can scare you.
We are dealing with two different Masses. One that is, as you said, Christ centered and serious, and another which is anything but. The shock is understandable, but it will wear off very quickly and you will grow to love the Old Mass. I can tell that by what you wrote in your post - you will grow to like it pretty quickly.
There needs to be handy guides to help follow along, I brought my family and had to help them use 4 different missals and spent some of the time trying to keep them understanding where we were. It was easier for me and very tough on them. If you attend a parish with the EF Mass seek to have booklets available in the front for newcomers.
The “handy guide” is a good idea. Angelus Press is reprinting an old explanation of the Mass from before the council. It was written for Protestants who were attending the Catholic Mass, so that they could know what is taking place. I haven’t read it, but I’ve heard it is very good. A Priest I know who will begin saying the Old Mass later this month is planning to purchase these and leave them in the back of the Church for his parishioners.
It is also a good idea to get a missal. The missals have the Latin on one side and the English on the other. They also have pictures to help you follow along.
Traditional Catholics who are used to being criticized, looked down upon, and rejected need to come out of their protective shells. It will be difficult but the seige mentality is strong. Learn to invite and open up.
Notice that you are still blaming the Traditionalist. You are the one who is uncomfortable at a Mass that you descbribe as being a little too Catholic (too Christ centered), and you are, in a sense, blaming the Traditoinalists for this. It seems like you are saying “if they would just be more open, I wouldn’t feel this way”.
I understand why you would want the people to be more welcoming to you, but you have to keep in mind that those who attend the Old Mass are used to being quiet in Church. Therefore, it is unlikely that anyone will talk to you in Church, or on the way to the car. If you stay after for coffee, I’m sure you will make some friends.
Regarding your kids having a difficult time understanding what is happening: You can turn this into a real positive. What you can do is purchase some good books on the old Mass, learn about it yourself, and teach your kids. This will enable all of you, as a family, to get a good education on the Holy Sacrifice of the Mass, of which absolutely nothing on earth is greater.
Another suggestion is to listen to the sermons at
www.audiosancto.com They are some of the best sermons you will hear. The sermons are recorded each Sunday at the FSSP Church in Kansas and put online. If you log onto the website, you can probably find sermons on the Old Mass, which are very educational.