In-Laws and Honor thy Father and Mother

[Ron_in_minden]

Hi Friends,
I’d like your opinion on whether the “Honor thy father and mother commandment” applies to in-laws. I feel it does, but the anti-Catholic sputum that comes out of my Father-in-laws mouth,( mostly regarding the Pope, one world gov’t, worshipping, one world religion and basically all the items on an Evangelicals top 10 list) is really testing me and that belief. In the past I have called him on it, but have stopped as of late because of the Commandment. Am I, as a Catholic, neglecting my duty to defend the faith against my Father-in-law just for the sake of peace in the family? I’m starting to think now that I have to disregard that Commandment. Thanks Ron.

 

[Allegra]

You can’t disregard a commandment. I’m not sure that putting up with abuse from your FIL is a requirement of that commandment though. Couldn’t you just say, I feel very disrespected by the way you attack my faith and I would prefer that you talk about something else?

 

[shreek]

Ron, this all depends in my opinion on how they treat you.

Im sure if my father was an abusive alcoholic who beat my mother there is no way I would honour and respect him loooooool.

So yes honour him, if he deserves it

 

[atheistgirl]

Hi Friends,
I’d like your opinion on whether the “Honor thy father and mother commandment” applies to in-laws. I feel it does, but the anti-Catholic sputum that comes out of my Father-in-laws mouth,( mostly regarding the Pope, one world gov’t, worshipping, one world religion and basically all the items on an Evangelicals top 10 list) is really testing me and that belief. In the past I have called him on it, but have stopped as of late because of the Commandment. Am I, as a Catholic, neglecting my duty to defend the faith against my Father-in-law just for the sake of peace in the family? I’m starting to think now that I have to disregard that Commandment. Thanks Ron.

Tell him to shut up.

Tell him when he’s in your home to respect it, and your family.

Sarah x

 

[aicirt]

Hi Friends,
I’d like your opinion on whether the “Honor thy father and mother commandment” applies to in-laws. I feel it does, but the anti-Catholic sputum that comes out of my Father-in-laws mouth,( mostly regarding the Pope, one world gov’t, worshipping, one world religion and basically all the items on an Evangelicals top 10 list) is really testing me and that belief. In the past I have called him on it, but have stopped as of late because of the Commandment. Am I, as a Catholic, neglecting my duty to defend the faith against my Father-in-law just for the sake of peace in the family? I’m starting to think now that I have to disregard that Commandment. Thanks Ron.

Sounds as if he’s got more than one chestnut roasting in the fire. How often must you be in his company? Avoid him as much as possible. Putting yourself in a situation where you know you might get angry isn’t good. Do you think he’d listen to anything you have to say? Pray for patience. If he becomes totally obnoxious in your home, tell him you will not tolerate it and tell him to leave and he isn’t welcome back until he can control his tongue.

 

[JM3]

vatican.va/archive/ENG0015/__P7U.HTM

CCC 2214 The divine fatherhood is the source of human fatherhood;16 this is the foundation of the honor owed to parents. the respect of children, whether minors or adults, for their father and mother17 is nourished by the natural affection born of the bond uniting them. It is required by God’s commandment.18

CCC 2216 Filial respect is shown by true docility and obedience…

CCC 2217…Obedience toward parents ceases with the emancipation of the children; not so respect, which is always owed to them. This respect has its roots in the fear of God, one of the gifts of the Holy Spirit.

CCC 2219 Filial respect promotes harmony in all of family life…

CCC 2223 Parents have the first responsibility for the education of their children…

CCC 2227 Children in turn contribute to the growth in holiness of their parents.36 Each and everyone should be generous and tireless in forgiving one another for offenses, quarrels, injustices, and neglect. Mutual affection suggests this. the charity of Christ demands it.37

If you have children, they are your first concern. If not, then correct him with respect and charity.