Incorporating faith into a mixed faith marriage

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This is NOT a place for criticizing me (a Catholic) for marrying a Protestant. This is helps and encouragements for bringing faith back into our mixed faith marriage. (Yes it used to be there!) When we married my husband attended mass with me every Sunday and attend church groups together, pray some prayers together, and read scripture together. My husband 2 years ago started attending only his Protestant church, which after seven years of going together to mass took me by surprise, although I guess it shouldn’t have. He was so much more supportive of my faith then, and tried to share it as much as he felt he could (so no communion or Mary or anything crazy like that 😉 ). Now it’s like you do your catholic thing and I will do my Protestant thing. He doesn’t like reading the bible or praying together anymore he always makes it rushed and quick. He really doesn’t have a faith life outside of his Sunday service and grace before meals. I want faith back in our lives and our marriage and I just don’t know how to go about getting it back in there! 😦
 
Does he talk about why he went back to a Protestant church?

Honestly, he might not have room for a faith life given that he works all those crazy hours. (Per your last post).

I’m married to Catholic and mine’s not interested in having a faith life at all.

I can’t push too much because I’m scared of pushing him completely away from faith.

If he’s not ready or willing, then there’s only so much I can do, but pray and round up all my friends to pray for him.
 
After 9 years, your spouse is seemingly trying to establish his place in your family. I sense there may be other things, but another conversation. I love asking this question to all my Protestant brothers and sisters, what do all these signs, these miracles, Lourdes, Fatima, Lanciano, (no private events), why do they only happen in this Church? Is someone trying to tell me something? Of course, there will be no response, but possibly a glimmer of hope?
 
Kal2012 said:
Does he talk about why he went back to a Protestant church?

Honestly, he might not have room for a faith life given that he works all those crazy hours. (Per your last post).
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Right.

He probably barely has time to get a haircut, let alone go to church twice a weekend.
 
Kal2012 said:
Does he talk about why he went back to a Protestant church?
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No.
Honestly, he might not have room for a faith life given that he works all those crazy hours. (Per your last post).
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Xantippe said:
Right.

He probably barely has time to get a haircut, let alone go to church twice a weekend.
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Yes this is true. This has made it worse. This is when our Protestant friendly 😉 prayers and scripture readings stopped.
 
This is a tough situation because I know you talked before about how busy his schedule is with 2 jobs.

My husband and I tackled the entire bible a couple of years ago. We read it in a whole year, little by little every night. They have worksheets that map out how to read a bible over the course of a year and divide up the books by various chapters.

Maybe you could suggest this since it is a little bit at a time and it’s a good way to share your faith together.
 
Convert_in_99 said:
I want faith back in our lives and our marriage and I just don’t know how to go about getting it back in there! 😦
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I think you need to talk about things. Why did he stop going with you? Why does he exclusively want to go to his church? Is he interested in bringing more faith to your marriage?

I think you are asking the wrong people your question.
 
If you want faith back into your marriage / family then tell him. Approach him in a non-threatening manner explaining to him your concern over the lack of both of you sharing your love for God together like you both did in the past.

Then see what he has to say. You got to stop wondering why there is a problem now and boldly confront what you see as a problem (in a pleasant manner). Ask him to pray with you about it.

God bless you and I pray for a reconciliation for the both of you.
 
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