I would again urge you to take a look at everything, no holds barred. Look at where you could move, what you could do to work from home, what DH could do to earn more money, how you could adjust your expectations regarding what you need financially for you to stay home-- leave no rock unturned.
You are looking at it as you have to get a better job to earn enough to stay home later. Maybe you need to adjust where you live or how you live so that you can stay home now.
Or somewhere else you might have more support from family. Or you might find employment more easily. Or you may not need that job at all.
Maybe you like Seattle, but it’s one of the highest costs of living in the country and I’m sure the job market is tough.
Just things to think about.
Actually I did look into work from home opportunities. This is one onstance where my degree is holding me back. My skill set doesn’t mesh for any of these (well, that aren’t scams, anyway). As far as moving, that isn’t a possibility due to my husband’s job. We have looked into places that are cheaper to live, and we can do that but we still need a little more money stashed away before we could even try that. We actually live outside the seattle area (this is kind of a loose term since I don’t want to tell anyone exactly where in washington state I live! LOL), and looking to move to an area with an even lower cost of living so my husband can keep his job. We’ve even found a career that will work perfectly with my health issues so I can get off this disgusting medication as soon as I can. We’ve pushed everything as far forward as we possibly can without taking enormous risks with no guarantee of a payout. But we’re still at least 2-3 years out. We’re gunna push very hard to get that down to a year and a half though…We have the answer, its just that there are too many roadblocks right now.
As for surgical options, I have spoken to doctors about the surgery, but most of them agree that while it may help, it more than likely won’t. The chances of it helping are actually smaller than the chances of such a surgery rendering me totally and irreversibly sterile. I just can’t take that risk. My husband and I want more than anything to have a really big family. We often joke about “making up for lost time” as soon as we get clear of this stuff and punching out a good 6 kids right off the bat
I figure I’m fine with spending a good 10 years preggers!
I got caught up on the reading…I should have posted after i read it all. I’m sorry. And I am sorry I reacted so harshly to the accusations of contracepting. I should have worded things clearer, I guess. As I said earlier, contraception is not the goal. I hate the idea, and even before I was a catholic I hated the idea. That’s why I didn’t seek treatment sooner. My doctors actually said that had I started treatment as soon as I had symptoms, there is a chance the issue would have cleared itself up by now. But because I waited so long and tried to fight through it using exercise and diet, the only thing they know of that guarantees a lifelone fix is pregnancy. Which I intend to so as soon as I get that job which allows me the time off to go off my medication and try for a child.
I just…realy need help from GOOD
CATHOLIC women about finding joy while living childless. Again, I am sorry for overreacting. I just…hurt SO bad from the original situation…
Anyway that is another issue. Having a child is a lot of work too maybe God is sparing you something you think you’re ready for but really aren’t. For now like I said just take it day by day and maybe the rest will come along later.