Infertility

[narayan]

Hi,
Friends when we entering the process , first should be understand What’s matter about it? And then choose particular word of the process. propabaliy it get mistake, So Infertility means…
knowing of me means gathering of both sides.
One who known without seeing any book means . Please reply to me .

Thanks & Regards
nani

 

[kevinsgirl]

I was watching the Discovery Health channel last night and there was a special on triplets and quints.

At one point one of the moms was told “Oh, you must have your hands full with so many kids.” And she replied, “Yes, but I’d rather have my hand full than empty.”

Isn’t that the best comeback? I’m so hoping to use that line someday!

 

[cdesi]

I really wonder about this sperm testing. In a way I am afraid to know. I mean, I don’t think my husband is the problem but I think it would be hard for him to carry it if it was.

Yes, that is true for me as well. After I went through all the testing in the post-coital test the dr said that there were very few sperm. That could mean a number of things, but low sperm count is one of them. It was psychologically much easier for me to be the one “not working right” Plus I’ve got to be a little cagy now when discussing our fertility since I do not want anyone finding out that it may be my husband with the difficulties. I don’t think that would be good for his psychological well-being.

I am 5 dpo right now. Since we found out that the issue may be dh - we tried a couple of new things - timed intercourse much more exactly with the use of an ovulation predictor kit. DH switched to boxers this month. Also, he drank lots of water and took guanefesin for few days before o. It is supposed to have the same effect on semenal fluid as it does on cervical mucus. We will see if it works. I am trying not to be too optimistic.

At my last visit to the RE, I asked him what the treatment for male-related issues would be. He said there is no treatment - only IVF or AI. That is of course not true - which is one of the reasons I won’t be going back there. Among other things, in my net research, I even came across one dr who was giving Clomid to men!!! Anyone ever heard of this? I mean, it’s not all that unreasonable - men have hormonal systems that can be “adjusted” with drugs just as well as we do. Also getting DH’s thyroid checked - he’s always sleepy as long as I’ve known him.

 

[kevinsgirl]

I am 5 dpo right now. Since we found out that the issue may be dh - we tried a couple of new things - timed intercourse much more exactly with the use of an ovulation predictor kit. DH switched to boxers this month. Also, he drank lots of water and took guanefesin for few days before o. It is supposed to have the same effect on semenal fluid as it does on cervical mucus. We will see if it works. I am trying not to be too optimistic.

At my last visit to the RE, I asked him what the treatment for male-related issues would be. He said there is no treatment - only IVF or AI. That is of course not true - which is one of the reasons I won’t be going back there. Among other things, in my net research, I even came across one dr who was giving Clomid to men!!! Anyone ever heard of this? I mean, it’s not all that unreasonable - men have hormonal systems that can be “adjusted” with drugs just as well as we do. Also getting DH’s thyroid checked - he’s always sleepy as long as I’ve known him.

Just wanted to make a couple of suggestions that you and your DH might want to try. If your husband likes hot showers, see if you can get him to take cooler showers. Also, make sure he’s taking a daily vitamin. And have you considered using PreSeed to give his swimmers a head start? Caffeine, smoking, and alcohol are all other factors that can have an adverse effect on sperm.

HTH!

 

[cdesi]

Just wanted to make a couple of suggestions that you and your DH might want to try. If your husband likes hot showers, see if you can get him to take cooler showers. Also, make sure he’s taking a daily vitamin. And have you considered using PreSeed to give his swimmers a head start? Caffeine, smoking, and alcohol are all other factors that can have an adverse effect on sperm.

HTH!

Yes, he’s been taking a daily vitamin from day 1 of our marriage
He doesn’t drink caffine or smoke - one or two beers in the evenings - no more than that. Never tried PreSeed. That is a thought for next month. Lubrication is not a problem for us - but it might be worth a try anyway (can you have too much lubrication?).

 

[kevinsgirl]

Yes, he’s been taking a daily vitamin from day 1 of our marriage
He doesn’t drink caffine or smoke - one or two beers in the evenings - no more than that. Never tried PreSeed. That is a thought for next month. Lubrication is not a problem for us - but it might be worth a try anyway (can you have too much lubrication?).

Pretty sure the more good lubrication you have, the better!

Do you know if the post coital test showed if your cervical mucous was “attacking” his sperm? If that was the case, I’d imagine PreSeed might really help.

I order it from early pregnancy tests on the web. It’s like $16 a box, so I usually order 2 boxes and get free shipping.

 

[narayan]

Hi,Friend

            Thanks for u r compliments. For what purpose u have written like sexual murchers. Their no required such type of words. The written of the words is Nature creative. It's not man creative.      :coffeeread:           But u think " Man purposes, God disposes,"  :hmmm:    If any information for me, please send it.

Thanks & Regards

Nani :clapping:

 

[Amber2]

Okay guys
You got me interested in this condom business. Can we just buy a condom, make a whole in it. And then hand the sperm that is left in the condom, to the doctor? Is it that easy?.. I wonder what my doctor would say about suc a circus… I live in a protestant country.
Love Amber
(who is impatient by now)

 

[yessisan]

Okay guys
You got me interested in this condom business. Can we just buy a condom, make a whole in it. And then hand the sperm that is left in the condom, to the doctor? Is it that easy?.. I wonder what my doctor would say about suc a circus… I live in a protestant country.
Love Amber
(who is impatient by now)

You could but I think it’s really hard to just go out and look for a condom w/spermicide. I am interested in finding one too for DH to check his sperm and I really don’t want him to do it the immoral way (he’s not Catholic but I cam and it’d eat me alive).

I hope someone can answer your question so I can also know where to go…

 

[EmptyVessel]

Hi. I really don’t know how to start this post, as we’ve been dealing with infertility ever since we got married almost 15 years ago. I’m now 34, and I’m so sad to think that soon I will no longer have any hope of having a biological child with my DH. I just don’t know why we aren’t blessed with any children and others are. People always tell me it’s up to God’s Will. But why would God want someone to suffer like this? Why would God want to give babies to crack addicts, for example, and not someone like myself? I guess I’ve rambled on enough…Thanks for reading this far…

 

[LittleDeb]

Hi. I really don’t know how to start this post, as we’ve been dealing with infertility ever since we got married almost 15 years ago. I’m now 34, and I’m so sad to think that soon I will no longer have any hope of having a biological child with my DH. I just don’t know why we aren’t blessed with any children and others are. People always tell me it’s up to God’s Will. But why would God want someone to suffer like this? Why would God want to give babies to crack addicts, for example, and not someone like myself? I guess I’ve rambled on enough…Thanks for reading this far…

I am so sorry you are going through this. I have no idea what 15 years feels like. I am deeply sorry for your pain.

But Welcome! Glad to have to have you here. We will support you as much as possible.

 

[cdesi]

Hi. I really don’t know how to start this post, as we’ve been dealing with infertility ever since we got married almost 15 years ago. I’m now 34, and I’m so sad to think that soon I will no longer have any hope of having a biological child with my DH. I just don’t know why we aren’t blessed with any children and others are. People always tell me it’s up to God’s Will. But why would God want someone to suffer like this? Why would God want to give babies to crack addicts, for example, and not someone like myself? I guess I’ve rambled on enough…Thanks for reading this far…

EmptyVessel- I am 33 and although we only got married a year and a half ago I am thinking that we are not going to be able to have children either. The problem is how to make sense of this. Well, this thought comforts me and maybe it will help you (?): Senseless suffering exists – no one can deny that. It’s everywhere in the world. “Senseless” just means it serves a purpose that we don’t understand – and that lack of understanding can add to our sense of suffering. Even though it’s a children’s book, I really like the Chronicles of Narnia. In the sixth book in the series, The Magician’s Nephew, the character that represents Our Lord (the lion named Aslan), is listens to the main character, a child, hurt, suffering and angry as he explains to Aslan how his mother is dying. Aslan listens to him and, even though it is clearly within his power to remove this suffering from this child, he does not. Instead, as he listens, the great lion sheds a tear as he shares in the child’s suffering. Our Lord does not regard our suffering coldy, but suffers compassionately with us. I imagine that this is similar to a situation where a parent watches his child suffer and, although they can’t really explain to them why this is happening, they know that this suffering serves some other purpose and should not be taken away. An example of this could be when a parent watches their young child undergo a difficult medical procedure.

In our particular situation, between us, my husband and I have four brothers who got their wives pregnant before marriage and “had” to get married. My husband and I, on the other hand, waited for our wedding night. The four brothers now have 11 children among them. We have zero. Does this make sense to us? No. But we know that Our Lord weeps with us and we pray that His unknowable purpose is being served.

 

[yessisan]

I’m so sorry for those of you who have so much trouble getting pregnant. I know how bad it feels to not get pregnant, but the bad thing for me is that when I finally get pregnant, I lose them. :crying:

I’m only 27 and I have lost our only 2 children in less than a yr. I had no idea it’d be that hard to have a baby. RIght now we’re dealing with whether we’ll ever be able to have a full term pregnancy… I have endometriosis, so it makes it hard to get pregnant, and once I do get pregnant, it’s hard to stay pregnant.

I’ve lost both babies at 7 wks and 8 wks. They both died then but I miscarried later… well, the second on is still inside me (i’m 13 wks but she died 5 wks ago).

I might have something in my uterus that kills my babies but I’m thinking it’s the toxic chemicals the endometriosis produces that harms the sperm, the eggs and the embryos.

I wonder why those of us who want children so bad have to carry such a terrible cross. I know not being able to get pregnant is hard, but I have experienced both losing and having a hard time with getting pregnant. I am so afraid of pregnancy now though, that I never want to get pregnant again. :crying:

I’m so sorry for those of you who have to post here. It’s nice to know you but I hate the fact that you have this cross too. But don’t give up hope. My uncle and his wife tried to conceive for 18 yrs and never got pregnant until 9 yrs ago and now they have 3 kids. They had given up, even on adoption, but they got pregnant and have 3 litte devils running around their house and destroying everything (literally), but they heve kids. My unlce’s wife was over 40 when she had he 2nd child, she was 38 when she had her first.

 

[EmptyVessel]

yessisan - I’m so sorry for your losses. :console: I know what it’s like. We have 37 babies in Heaven. :crying: Two months ago, we lost twins. :crying:

Have you ever had a HSG? That’s an x-ray/dye test to see if your tubes are clear and to see if you have toxic fluids in your fallopian tubes. Sometimes with endo, there’s blockage in the tubes and fluids can accumulate and be toxic to the embryos. In a few weeks, I’m supposed to have that test done.

Know that I am praying for you, and everyone here that desires a child to love.

 

[yessisan]

yessisan - I’m so sorry for your losses. :console: I know what it’s like. We have 37 babies in Heaven. :crying: Two months ago, we lost twins. :crying:

Have you ever had a HSG? That’s an x-ray/dye test to see if your tubes are clear and to see if you have toxic fluids in your fallopian tubes. Sometimes with endo, there’s blockage in the tubes and fluids can accumulate and be toxic to the embryos. In a few weeks, I’m supposed to have that test done.

Know that I am praying for you, and everyone here that desires a child to love.

OMG!!! I complain about 2 losses, I am sooooo sorry about yours!!! :hug1: That’s terrible you have gone thru so many! :crying:

I haven’t had an HSG but that’s the first thing my OB is going to do after I miscarry. I’ve had a million ultrasounds and one has images that possibly mean I have a septate uterus. I had a laparoscopy in April this yr where they discovered I had endo, and the dr had said my uterus was normal (I had no symptoms- they were only going to remove a big cyst they found), but the radiologist that interpreted that one ultrasound I had when I was 5 wks pregnant in this pregnancy said I had a bicornuate uterus, which is impossible according to the laparoscopy, so that’s why the first test is the HSG… I just have to miscarry, stop bleeding and be close to ovulation.

I hope that for you they find what’s causing you to miscarry. If I feel bad and lost hope after 2 losses, I cannot begin to imagine how you must feel. :hug1:

 

[EmptyVessel]

Actually, we do know why for some; and unfortunately, there’s nothing that can be done. All they can do is more tests on me…although I don’t know what else is there to do besides the HSG. I want to have immune testing done, but my doctor doesn’t believe in it.

Each loss is a loss nonetheless. It doesn’t matter if it’s only one or 30… the pain is still too much to bear. And there is not one day that goes by where I don’t think of what might have been. It’s especially hard for me after knowing the sex. :crying:
This last time, we didn’t get to find out about the sex of the babies. But the 2 times before, we did… one girl in July '07 (we named her Isabella two weeks before she went to Heaven) and twin boys in November '07.


Some days, I think I might just die of the heartbreak. But I try to think that our babies are in Heaven playing with my FIL. He’s always wanted to have grandchildren, and now it seems like he’s got plenty of them in Heaven.

The pain ebbs and flows, but I just keep hoping that one day God will bless us with our baby. I have to hang onto that hope, as that’s all I have.

 

[Amber2]

Dear Yessisan and EmptyVessel
Did you read about NaProTectnology. On their web-site I read that they are especially good at helping women who continually lost their pregnancies. They are able to help 80% of couples to have a child.
I am planning to contact their center in England if nothing happens soon.
I am really sorry for your losses.
Amber

 

[yessisan]

Dear Yessisan and EmptyVessel
Did you read about NaProTectnology. On their web-site I read that they are especially good at helping women who continually lost their pregnancies. They are able to help 80% of couples to have a child.
I am planning to contact their center in England if nothing happens soon.
I am really sorry for your losses.
Amber

That’s what I used to get pregnant this second time but the instructor didn’t seemed too concerned when I told them I lost this 2nd baby. She didn’t even offer to see us to continue with our charting so she could send them in to Dr Hilgers.

 

[Amber2]

Dear Yessisan
Oh that is bad I read they were different.
How did you “use” that to get pregnant this time?
Best wishes,
Amber (who prays to be pregnant by November. My husband has his birthday and he wishes for a baby, what a great b-day-present that would be.)

 

[yessisan]

Dear Yessisan
Oh that is bad I read they were different.
How did you “use” that to get pregnant this time?
Best wishes,
Amber (who prays to be pregnant by November. My husband has his birthday and he wishes for a baby, what a great b-day-present that would be.)

They monitored my chart and told me how to do things. I used progesterone and guaifenessin (plain robitussin) to aid the process. We started the first chart half way in my cycle, the 2nd was when we got pregnant.

But don’t be discouraged by how my instructor is dealing with this. I’ve heard wonders about Dr Hilger’s people… maybe I just have to talk to my instructor and see if we can continue with things… she might just be hesitant because she knows we’ve lost one baby prior to this one. But as a fellow Catholic she is being wonderful, sending me cards and emails.