Infertility

[Convert_in_99]

I can understand that, but I don’t think asking those who struggle with infertility to post infertility related threads in “Family Life” (with the “Parenting” sub-forum which discusses pregnancy, childbirth and childrearing just above it) is the best way to go.

I also struggled with this. I have had many periods in my struggle that I had to step off all of CAF for weeks or months at a time in order to avoid seeing all the parenting/pregnancy threads and tickers.

This thread has never been very active. Many people struggling through infertility are ashamed and feel that they will just be laughed act or treated differently if they tell people. They may feel like an outcast, just one little infertile drop in an ocean full of fertile persons. Others are just quiet because it is so personal, after all it deals with the most intimate details of life. It’s a very sensitive topic.

I so know what you are going through. I personally have felt every emotion under the sun in every aspect of my life. We are three years and two months married and trying and still haven’t conceived once. But, even so, I’d personally rather be acknowledged here than get lost in a sea of non related posts elsewhere. If you (or anyone here) would like to a smaller more directed group, directed solely to infertility issues, I’m trying (God willing) to start an support group in the new groups section. It’s called Elizabeth’s Hope and it is JUST for couples struggling with primary or secondary infertility. The link is in my signature. God bless you dear.

 

[yessisan]

So, after so many surgeries and invasive procedures, turns out there is something else wrong with me because I just found out today I lost my 3rd baby :crying:

 

[RobbyS]

So, after so many surgeries and invasive procedures, turns out there is something else wrong with me because I just found out today I lost my 3rd baby :crying:

May God still give you a child. We who have them sometimes for get a child is are a gift, a giftwe do not properly appreciate.

 

[Amber2]

Dear Yessisan

No words can comfort you in this situation, I know. I am so sorry for your loss. I have been praying that you would be able to keep this child.
Thoughts and prayers,
Amber:bighanky:

 

[Convert_in_99]

So, after so many surgeries and invasive procedures, turns out there is something else wrong with me because I just found out today I lost my 3rd baby :crying:

Oh no! :bighanky: Yessisan, I have been thinking of you so much and praying for you. Your words have brought tears to my eyes. I cannot believe all that you have to go through. Your strength is amazing. To remain faithful in the midst of such agony is so precious in God’s eyes. Please don’t loose hope. Know that I am always here for you. You have my email and there’s always PM. I can’t stand to see you hurting so, it hurts my heart too. Praying for you and thinking of you always. :console::hug3:

 

[Willsfirecracke]

So, after so many surgeries and invasive procedures, turns out there is something else wrong with me because I just found out today I lost my 3rd baby :crying:

Aww… Yessi I am so so sorry. I have been praying hard that this one would have been sticky.

I pray that you dont give up hope. God created you to be a mother, and you will be. I will say a special prayer for you and your family tonight that you may overcome these battles.

 

[LittleDeb]

Oh Yessi! I have no words. Praying for you. I am so terribly sorry. :bighanky:

 

[Miserissima]

** (((((((((((Yessisan))))))))))**

 

[Catholic_Wife]

This thread has never been very active. Many people struggling through infertility are ashamed and feel that they will just be laughed act or treated differently if they tell people. They may feel like an outcast, just one little infertile drop in an ocean full of fertile persons. Others are just quiet because it is so personal, after all it deals with the most intimate details of life. It's a very sensitive topic.

One thing I learned last summer when I miscarried is that more people than you would think have dealt with or are currently dealing with infertility and/or pregnancy loss. It seems at least a third of the women in my parish have dealt with one or both of these issues at some point in their lives. It doesn’t help take away my pain or sadness, but it is a small comfort to me to know that there are a lot more “drops in the ocean” than I ever imagined.

 

[huan0316]

Dear Yessisan, I would pray for you. It is heart broken to loss your baby.

I just found we failed the 2nd cycle of clomid treatment. This time it was particularly difficult for us since I got a positive on the P+16 day. But unfortunately I got my period in the afternoon. It turned out to be chemical pregnancy, since my HCH level decreased gradutely instead of increasing. Somehow I feel I lost a baby and I don’t know where God is.

 

[Convert_in_99]

I just wanted to stop in and say that several of this thread’s members are also now posting in the Catholic Answers Group called Elizabeth’s Hope. I have tried to invite most of you, but sadly might have missed someone. If you didn’t get an invite and would like to join, simply follow the Elizabeth’s Hope link, click ‘join group’ and I will approve you for membership as soon as possible. It is a little more active there and it is also more private. Private Message me if you have further questions. God bless you all.

 

[Smarie81]

Hi All,
I’m new here to the forum and I’ve been struggling with infertility for the past 7 years.
I’m looking to find a great Novena for infertility. Any information would be greatly appreciated.

 

[Philothea27]

Smarie81,
I know there are many novenas and other prayers out there. My husband and I are praying one I found on a website dedicated to St. Gerard. We pray it together each night, asking St. Gerard to also pray to God for us. I just changed it from singular pronouns to plural, so we could pray together.

O good St. Gerard, powerful intercessor before God and wonder worker of our day, confidently we call upon you and seek your aid. On Earth you always fulfilled God’s designs, help us now to do the holy will of God. Implore the Master of Life, from Whom all paternity proceeds, to render us fruitful in offspring, that we may raise up children to God in this life, and in the world to come, heirs to the Kingdom of His Glory. Amen.

Mother’s Day was very hard this year… especially with the Gospel reading all about fruitful vines. How did anyone else handle the day? Any suggestions? I tried to ignore it this year, though that was kind of impossible at church. Our parish had a petition for mothers who have lost children, which was sensitive. It didn’t cover me, but I appreciated it nonetheless.

 

[GreenGirl]

Thank you for the prayer, Philothea. I, too, have been looking for some.

I’m sorry Mother’s Day was rough for you. It is very, very difficult for me as well. Luckily our current church simply blessed the mothers and then gave a flower to every female. Our last church would have all the mothers stand up and recieve a gift. That tended to sting a bit.

The Gospel reading was tough, too. I was able to take from it that we must be open and willing to be pruned and guided by God’s hands. If we grow as strongly and purposefully as we can then we will always be open to bearing His fruit. So, I am working this week to pray more, love more, and take better care of my body. The rest is up to Him.

 

[Philothea27]

Thank you, GreenGirl, for sharing your spiritual fruit with me and anyone else who reads your message. We have a choice in how to respond to the Gospel reading, don’t we? It is such a temptation for me to respond in an unhealthy self-pitying way, focusing on the negative and identifying only with the wretched barren branches. You showed me a positive, healthy response, one filled with hope and openness. It takes a tremendous amount of strength and fortitude to stay hopeful and open like that. We certainly need the graces of the sacraments!

 

[Convert_in_99]

Thank you, GreenGirl, for sharing your spiritual fruit with me and anyone else who reads your message. We have a choice in how to respond to the Gospel reading, don’t we? It is such a temptation for me to respond in an unhealthy self-pitying way, focusing on the negative and identifying only with the wretched barren branches. You showed me a positive, healthy response, one filled with hope and openness. It takes a tremendous amount of strength and fortitude to stay hopeful and open like that. We certainly need the graces of the sacraments!

I took the gospel like that at first too. :sad_yes: But then I realized that it was a Gospel meant for the fifth Sunday of Easter, not mother’s day. If we came back the next fifth Sunday of Easter it would still be read and might fall on earth day or something like that instead. Also Jesus was talking to ALL his members. It was meant for everyone to be fruitful, most of those persons He included are not even married, children, teens, singles, widows, priests and religious. Priests and Religious aren’t fruitful in a biological way, but their fruit is often the most abundant and precious in God’s eyes. This helped me calm down and put it all in perspective.

 

[Amber2]

Hi everyone,
I just wanted to share with you guys that I finally went to the first meeting with my NaProTechnology doctor.
It turns out I will be starting on Progesterone in a few days already. And when I have been on that for 2 cycles I will also start on Clomid. Does anyone have any positive stories about using these things?
Wow, I am so happy to FINALLY have had a doctor look at me and my chart and to be in good hands. I can hardly wait to get started. I found positive information about progesterone and clomid on the internet so I just hope I will be pregnant someday (sooner rather than later
Love Amber (who is afraid to get her hopes up but cant help it)

 

[yessisan]

Of the 3 cycles I used prometrium when TTC, I got pregnant twice, but you guys know my story: miscarriage because of septate uterus and ectopic maybe because of endometriosis or just plain bad luck. :crying:

 

[gam3rchic]

I got pregnant on my third round of clomid, though it’s a miracle I did. I was on the max dosage of clomid and only had one follicle which isn’t considered a successful cycle. They usually like to see 2-3 follicles so your chances are better. But even with the lonely little follicle I conceived so if it’s meant to be it will happen. Good luck and try not to get your hopes up too much. I would get so excited and then when I didn’t make any follicles or didn’t ovulate I would be devastated. Take it one day at a time, pray the rosary and try to have faith. If it’s meant to be, it will be.

 

[mitziemia]

Hi all…

I’ve not been here in quite a while - asking for prayer - I am tested in two days to see if it’s positive. Please pray - I had to administer the shots in my stomach and then work with the doctors, but thus far everything looked good (i.e. I had two fully mature folicles) and my progesterone level was high last week when the took my blood, therefore it looks like I had a good ovuation cycle.

After all this, the money, the shots (very, very expensive), I will be completely devestated if this didn’t take. Devestated. Please pray.

With regard to Clomid - I had a horrible experience…made me literally crazy - HOWEVER, the University of Michigan (and you can delete the name, moderator if you’d like, but I"m passionate about how I was treated here and worried for anyone else)…basically prescribed six months, no follow up, nothing…it did more harm than good to my uterin lining…I was absolutely crazy in the head…I mean, my husband thought I was bi-polar, my mother thought I needed therapy and my boss thought I was daft…it was only crying in my GP’s office telling her that I was crazy, that she looked at my chart and freaked…I will never go there again…NOTWITHSTANDING…absolutely NO CONCERN for my beliefs…none. Please be careful…find out everything from your doctor and stay in close contact with them - I have my new doctor and she’s wonderful and very sympathetic and very concerned …a great open door policy…tons of hugs go on in her office and long talks thru tears…she listens and loves you through it…she gives you HOPE over and over again…

I love you all with my heart - we are so bonded with this ache we all have…God bless you and I pray that the Lord sees fit to allow our arms to hold those children, either our own, or a beautiful gift to us by someone else…

Love,
Holly