Infidelity in dreams

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I am a married woman and love my family. I love my husband of 6 years. We have money issues which can be burdensome but for the most part I am happy, The only thing is that I have had numerous dreams of a man (usually a celebrity of some sort, sports figure) giving me affection. In my dream I enjoy the excitement and carefree feelings of when I first met my husband, but it is with someone other than him. The feelings of contentment in my dream are so real that I wake up wanting to go back to that dream. I don’t like feeling this way because I love my husband and he is a good man. He does so much and compliments me, gives me affection, writes me love notes, our sex life is great and he is very attractive. So, why must I have these crazy dreams? I feel like I am being unfaithful to him even though it is my subconscious. I don’t know if it is an escape from reality? He gets more freedom away from home. I am a stay-at-home mom of 2 and am limited to free time. My day starts at 6 am and is non-stop of child rearing, house cleaning, bill paying etc. and doesn’t end til 9pm or 1 am at times. I am exhausted at the end of the day. My husband leaves early to go workout at the gym and in the evenings he will run some errands for himself. He wakes up at 2 am works his first job then at 8 am he goes to his 2nd job. By the time he gets home he is tired too, but still finds time to do enjoyable things for himself. After his errands he is usually home by 6:30 and is tired himself and goes to bed. We don’t see much of him during the week. I feel lonely and deprived of the fun things in life at times so is this why I am dreaming them? I am so frustrated because we both work so hard but don’t seem to get anywhere financially,but the two jobs are necessary to make ends meet. i even work from home. Don’t know if I got off the subject of my dream, but as I write these feelings come up.
 
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I am a married woman and love my family. I love my husband of 6 years. We have money issues which can be burdensome but for the most part I am happy, The only thing is that I have had numerous dreams of a man (usually a celebrity of some sort, sports figure) giving me affection. In my dream I enjoy the excitement and carefree feelings of when I first met my husband, but it is with someone other than him. The feelings of contentment in my dream are so real that I wake up wanting to go back to that dream. I don’t like feeling this way because I love my husband and he is a good man. He does so much and compliments me, gives me affection, writes me love notes, our sex life is great and he is very attractive. So, why must I have these crazy dreams? I feel like I am being unfaithful to him even though it is my subconscious. I don’t know if it is an escape from reality? He gets more freedom away from home. I am a stay-at-home mom of 2 and am limited to free time. My day starts at 6 am and is non-stop of child rearing, house cleaning, bill paying etc. and doesn’t end til 9pm or 1 am at times. I am exhausted at the end of the day. My husband leaves early to go workout at the gym and in the evenings he will run some errands for himself. He wakes up at 2 am works his first job then at 8 am he goes to his 2nd job. By the time he gets home he is tired too, but still finds time to do enjoyable things for himself. After his errands he is usually home by 6:30 and is tired himself and goes to bed. We don’t see much of him during the week. I feel lonely and deprived of the fun things in life at times so is this why I am dreaming them? I am so frustrated because we both work so hard but don’t seem to get anywhere financially,but the two jobs are necessary to make ends meet. i even work from home. Don’t know if I got off the subject of my dream, but as I write these feelings come up.
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I suggest you spend more time together. If he goes to the gym, go with him. Get a babysitter or maybe there is one there.
Something is odd. He is spending too much time away fro you. I hate saying this out loud…but you have a wonderful marriage and it should stay that way.
It seems to me your subconscious is warning you of something. And, it’s not about you…it’s about him. He sounds like a great guy, worth keeping and minding…if you know what I mean…keep track of cell and hours paid/worked…

I wasn’t going to say anything. But the hunch I got reading your post was too strong. And, he does seem like a guy you want to keep, no matter what! Just, we are all human and some more weak than others. Now, it could be just a warning…not necessarily something already going on!

I’ll keep you and your family in my prayers. God Bless you all!
 
doubt you would be culpable for “sub-conscious” thoughts. Sin usually requires conscious thought. You have to know what your doing or about to do is wrong and with free will you choose to do it anyway… IMHO of course… I certainly wish you Peace:thumbsup:
 
He works his 2 am-6am job here at our home office. He is a graphic designer.He has had this business for about 7 years and has always worked those hours. I get copied on all of the business emails and have kept track of his projects. He actually wants me more involved so it is not all on him. He has never been one to go out to bars or have a girls night like I do. I don’t want to be naive in my thinking though. I try to read between the lines but don’t know.
 
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He works his 2 am-6am job here at our home office. He is a graphic designer.He has had this business for about 7 years and has always worked those hours. I get copied on all of the business emails and have kept track of his projects. He actually wants me more involved so it is not all on him. He has never been one to go out to bars or have a girls night like I do. I don’t want to be naive in my thinking though. I try to read between the lines but don’t know.
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Do you have girls’ night out? Why? I’m not judging, I just have never understood those. Nor do I understand the boys’ night out either. I understand sports during the day, maybe…

Please, don’t take me wrong. He sounds like a great guy…which is precisely my point…those are not very common;)

I honestly got a strong “feeling” when I read your post. It was hard for me to reply. Didn’t know how you would take it. Pray, and then pray some more. God discloses little by little, when we can “handle” it. [IF there is some “danger”] If you are minding all the emailing & cell phone bills, then keep doing it…👍

Dreams or not, it would be wise to mind your marriage, and to spend more time w/your wonderful, good-looking hubby! The gym part too!
 
Well, I won’t get into the other aspects of your marriage. You asked about dreams. I think we all have had a dream or two that sort of makes you want to visit that dream again. Some may be very sexual but for the most part, the ones like you describe involve more feelings than physical intimacy.

you are not responsible for your dreams however, what you think about after you wake up is your resposibility! After a nice dream like that, yes, you think about it for a few minutes or whatnot, but realize that it’s just a dream. Let it go and get back to real life, which is quite busy from what you say.

you must find some little way to find some time for yourself and definitely follow the advice of the other posters here and try to find some more time with your husband…
 
our “girls” night out is an early dinner after our weight watchers meeting. it is a chance for me to actually get out of the house and take a break from cooking dinner, bathing the kids, and to have someone wait on me for a moment. my husband takes over for a couple of hours and it is nice. My husband and i also have “date night” which is essential. I just don’t understand these feelings in my dreams and why i am having them.
 
anabelleraine said:
our “girls” night out is an early dinner after our weight watchers meeting. it is a chance for me to actually get out of the house and take a break from cooking dinner, bathing the kids, and to have someone wait on me for a moment. my husband takes over for a couple of hours and it is nice. My husband and i also have “date night” which is essential. I just don’t understand these feelings in my dreams and why i am having them.
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The best thing is the pray, asking God to reveal their meaning to you…it is obvious that you know there is a meaning…whatever that is…and I think that’s the reason for the repetition…within is the answer 😉
 
The important thing to remember is that dreams mean nothing. You don’t have any control of them so you shouldn’t worry about it. I am sure they’ll go away.
 
CatholicKing08 said:
The important thing to remember is that dreams mean nothing. You don’t have any control of them so you shouldn’t worry about it. I am sure they’ll go away.
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It depends…sometimes they do. I have some that do, but only the ones that repeat themselves…the other ones aren’t. I don’t remember my dreams unless they mean something. And, when I wake up, I KNOW they meant something, even if I can’t see the meaning right away. Sometimes it takes time to decipher them. That is biblical…remember Joseph interpreting dreams, his and others’?
 
Yeah I go by Sirach 34, which says that dreams are nothing unless they have divine inspiration. I believe dreams uninspired by God are just random workings of the unconscious mind.
 
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