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ccmmss
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My physician husband of 30 years recently confessed that he has been sleeping with his nurse for years and years. I am utterly devastated. Don’t know where to turn.
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MaryT777
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I am so sorry to hear of such. Perhaps talking to your priest about this would help?
Mary.
Mary.
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pensmama87
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I’m so sorry.
Please be assured of my prayers.
Please be assured of my prayers.
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mountainrose
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Praying for you.
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tawny
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Praying for you & your marriage.
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ineeda
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I am so sorry for emotional pain that you are in now. I would talk to your priest, and/or a Catholic counselor. Prayers for your marriage.
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Blue_Goose
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I see this is your first post here and you reached out to us for guidance and support.
First, let me say, I am sorry for the devastating psychological and physical pain you feel at the betrayal.
At this stage the most important thing is for you to get help for yourself. I suggest that you immediately make an appointment with your parish priest, tell him what has happened, and then ask for a referral to a good Christian psychologist. I recommend that you initially go alone. When it comes time to introduce your husband into the discussions the priest and or counselor will tell you.
Prepare a brief chronological biography that includes your marriage (the good, the bad, and the ugly). Make two copies. You will talk off of one copy and give the other to the priest and or counselor. Each time you go for a session make notes beforehand (including questions) . Bring an extra copy with you. Be brutally honest in what you discuss. The truth will set you free.
Expect your initial discussions to be emotional and not very productive. That will change over time.
Peace be with you. I will include you in my prayer list.
First, let me say, I am sorry for the devastating psychological and physical pain you feel at the betrayal.
At this stage the most important thing is for you to get help for yourself. I suggest that you immediately make an appointment with your parish priest, tell him what has happened, and then ask for a referral to a good Christian psychologist. I recommend that you initially go alone. When it comes time to introduce your husband into the discussions the priest and or counselor will tell you.
Prepare a brief chronological biography that includes your marriage (the good, the bad, and the ugly). Make two copies. You will talk off of one copy and give the other to the priest and or counselor. Each time you go for a session make notes beforehand (including questions) . Bring an extra copy with you. Be brutally honest in what you discuss. The truth will set you free.
Expect your initial discussions to be emotional and not very productive. That will change over time.
Peace be with you. I will include you in my prayer list.
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hazcompat
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Where to turn is easy (Jesus). I am so sorry for your everlasting pain. No matter where this goes, you will bear in your essence, an irreparable scar. There is a place that grace might take you. I believe that professional advice and spiritual guidance are essential to your personal well being. Life goes on, the sun rises and sets, regardless of your desires. You have an obligation ,as the temple of the Holy Spirit, to ascertain real biological implications (STDs) of your situation. I can only pray for your well being. So, So Sorry!
Peace
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phil_at_dayboro
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I certainly sympathies with you, can you tell us,or just me privately if you wish,
Why did he tell you ? Regrets ? Guilty conscience? Separation ? Did you catch him out ?
In the workplace , people working in close Quarters, natural attractions occur , it starts with
Being polite , then getting close by discussing issues ,then trust etc ,
A person must be strong in such situations, I work with ladies, and natural attractions occur ,
But we have never allowed ourselves to become to friendly,we don’t even hug at Christmas , but we are the best of friends, we have deep conversations about every topic under the sun,
Why did he tell you ? Regrets ? Guilty conscience? Separation ? Did you catch him out ?
In the workplace , people working in close Quarters, natural attractions occur , it starts with
Being polite , then getting close by discussing issues ,then trust etc ,
A person must be strong in such situations, I work with ladies, and natural attractions occur ,
But we have never allowed ourselves to become to friendly,we don’t even hug at Christmas , but we are the best of friends, we have deep conversations about every topic under the sun,
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mountee
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May God comfort and strengthen you through this devastating time, your heart must be broken. Please know that we care and we will pray for you.
Memorare
REMEMBER, O most gracious Virgin Mary, that never was it known that anyone who fled to thy protection, implored thy help, or sought thy intercession was left unaided. Inspired with this confidence, I fly to thee, O Virgin of virgins, my Mother; to thee do I come; before thee I stand, sinful and sorrowful. O Mother of the Word Incarnate, despise not my petitions, but in thy mercy hear and answer me. Amen.
Memorare
REMEMBER, O most gracious Virgin Mary, that never was it known that anyone who fled to thy protection, implored thy help, or sought thy intercession was left unaided. Inspired with this confidence, I fly to thee, O Virgin of virgins, my Mother; to thee do I come; before thee I stand, sinful and sorrowful. O Mother of the Word Incarnate, despise not my petitions, but in thy mercy hear and answer me. Amen.
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wild_thing
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Please be assured of my prayers for you as you heal from this devastating news. I would heed the advice of the posters above and seek some support. God bless.
Prayer for Infidelity
Heavenly Father,
We come to you because there is a pain in ccmmss’s heart that runs so deep only you can repair it.
Lord, we trust in the goodness of you, but the goodness of people is not as reliable. Lord, I ask that you give ccmmss the courage and wisdom to listen to your still small voice and protect her emotions as she obeys what you tell her.
Lord, this will be the hardest task for ccmmss to do, but she is able because she is not relying on herself this time. She will completely rely on you for her strength. Please fill her with all the love that she needs to make the decisions that are healthiest for her and the family.
Bless this child of God with the right people to surround and protect her with the proper support. Give her the courage to reach out for prayer and sound counseling.
Ground ccmmss in the truth of your word, and show her how precious she is in your sight. Build ccmmss’s self-worth in what you have to say about her.
Lord, ccmmss desires to serve and honor you.
We ask that as she submits to your will and that You will reward her will inner strength and peace quickly as this situation is heartbreaking and confusing. You are not the author of confusion so speak wisdom, understanding and strength to her…
In Jesus precious name, give ccmmss a double-fold increase in faith, trust and love for you and keep holding her hand as she walks down your path.
Gently turn her heart toward you, Lord and as she seeks your face, heal that heart so that ccmmss will never be the same again. In Jesus’ name, we thank you for all that you are doing in the spiritual realm, for we go by faith not by sight.
Amen.
St. Catherine of Genoa, pray for us!
Prayer for Infidelity
Heavenly Father,
We come to you because there is a pain in ccmmss’s heart that runs so deep only you can repair it.
Lord, we trust in the goodness of you, but the goodness of people is not as reliable. Lord, I ask that you give ccmmss the courage and wisdom to listen to your still small voice and protect her emotions as she obeys what you tell her.
Lord, this will be the hardest task for ccmmss to do, but she is able because she is not relying on herself this time. She will completely rely on you for her strength. Please fill her with all the love that she needs to make the decisions that are healthiest for her and the family.
Bless this child of God with the right people to surround and protect her with the proper support. Give her the courage to reach out for prayer and sound counseling.
Ground ccmmss in the truth of your word, and show her how precious she is in your sight. Build ccmmss’s self-worth in what you have to say about her.
Lord, ccmmss desires to serve and honor you.
We ask that as she submits to your will and that You will reward her will inner strength and peace quickly as this situation is heartbreaking and confusing. You are not the author of confusion so speak wisdom, understanding and strength to her…
In Jesus precious name, give ccmmss a double-fold increase in faith, trust and love for you and keep holding her hand as she walks down your path.
Gently turn her heart toward you, Lord and as she seeks your face, heal that heart so that ccmmss will never be the same again. In Jesus’ name, we thank you for all that you are doing in the spiritual realm, for we go by faith not by sight.
Amen.
St. Catherine of Genoa, pray for us!
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MS_SURVEYOR
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***Hail Mary,
Full of Grace,
The Lord is with thee.
Blessed art thou among women,
and blessed is the fruit
of thy womb,
Jesus.
Holy Mary,
Mother of God,
pray for us sinners now,
and at the hour of our death
Amen.
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Full of Grace,
The Lord is with thee.
Blessed art thou among women,
and blessed is the fruit
of thy womb,
Jesus.
Holy Mary,
Mother of God,
pray for us sinners now,
and at the hour of our death
Amen.
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bwhite06517
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Oh Jesus, you who said forgive 70 times 7; you who said whoever is without sin could cast the first stone on the woman found in adultery; you who said come to me and I will give you peace; we ask for your healing for this marriage; call this husband to repentance; call out to both of them for reconciliation and communication; bless them and protect them from Satan’s interference.Saint Michael the Archangel,
defend us in battle.
Be our protection against the wickedness and snares of the devil.
May God rebuke him, we humbly pray;
and do Thou, O Prince of the Heavenly Host,
by the Divine Power of God,
cast into hell Satan and all the evil spirits
who roam throughout the world seeking the ruin of souls.
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244Rocket
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Praying hard for you.
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pollylodges
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Saint Michael, the archangel, defend us in battle, be our defense against the wickedness and snares of the devil, may God rebuke him, we humbly pray. And do you, O’ Prince of the Heavenly host, by the power of God thrust into Hell Satan and all the other evil spirits who prowl about the world for the ruin of souls.
Amen.
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Our Father who art in Heaven, hallowed be thy name.
Thy kingdom come, thy will be done on Earth as it is in Heaven.
Give us this day our daily bread.
And forgive us our trespasses, as we forgive those who trespass against us.
And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil.
Amen.
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Hail Mary, full of grace, the Lord is with thee.
Blessed are you among women, and blessed is the fruit of your womb Jesus.
Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners, now and at the hour of our death.
Amen.
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For Help in Trials
Most holy apostle St. Jude, faithful servant and friend of Jesus, the name of the traitor who delivered your beloved Master into the hands of His enemies has caused you to be forgotten by many. But the Church honors and invokes you universally as the patron of hopeless cases–of things despaired of. Pray for me who feels so hopeless. Make use, I implore you, of that particular privilege accorded to you of bringing visible and speedy help where help is almost despaired of. Come to my assistance in this great need, that I may receive the consolations and succor of heaven in all my necessities, tribulations and sufferings, in particular ccmmss, and that I may bless God with you and all the elect throughout eternity. I promise you, O Blessed St. Jude, to be ever mindful of this great favor, and I will never cease to honor you as my special and powerful patron, and to do all in my power to encourage devotion to you. Amen.
Amen.
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Our Father who art in Heaven, hallowed be thy name.
Thy kingdom come, thy will be done on Earth as it is in Heaven.
Give us this day our daily bread.
And forgive us our trespasses, as we forgive those who trespass against us.
And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil.
Amen.
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Hail Mary, full of grace, the Lord is with thee.
Blessed are you among women, and blessed is the fruit of your womb Jesus.
Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners, now and at the hour of our death.
Amen.
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For Help in Trials
Most holy apostle St. Jude, faithful servant and friend of Jesus, the name of the traitor who delivered your beloved Master into the hands of His enemies has caused you to be forgotten by many. But the Church honors and invokes you universally as the patron of hopeless cases–of things despaired of. Pray for me who feels so hopeless. Make use, I implore you, of that particular privilege accorded to you of bringing visible and speedy help where help is almost despaired of. Come to my assistance in this great need, that I may receive the consolations and succor of heaven in all my necessities, tribulations and sufferings, in particular ccmmss, and that I may bless God with you and all the elect throughout eternity. I promise you, O Blessed St. Jude, to be ever mindful of this great favor, and I will never cease to honor you as my special and powerful patron, and to do all in my power to encourage devotion to you. Amen.
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ccmmss
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What great comfort to have the prayers of the righteous ascending on my behalf. I can forgive and work to build a better future with my husband, but he must turn from sin. God will not remove his free will, but please pray with me that He erect a hedge of thorns to guide him (and her) away from sin. My husband knows in heart what is right, we have never stopped going to Mass together. On the night that he confessed to me we went to Perpetual Adoration together to pray. PLEASE pray that he finds the strength to resist her (hopefully) final desperate pleadings for him to leave me. Pray a hedge of thorns that will protect him and turn her away.
I am awaiting appointments with a Catholic psychologist, and with one of the priests in our diocese. My husband went to confession with him yesterday, and hopefully received good council.
Again, through my tears, I thank you for all of your prayers.
I am awaiting appointments with a Catholic psychologist, and with one of the priests in our diocese. My husband went to confession with him yesterday, and hopefully received good council.
Again, through my tears, I thank you for all of your prayers.
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DoGodsBidding
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Gracious and merciful Father, please come to their assistance.
Our Father, who art in Heaven, hallowed be thy name.
Thy kingdom come, thy will be done, on Earth as it is in Heaven.
Give us this day our daily bread,
and forgive us our trespasses, as we forgive those who trespass against us.
And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil.
Amen.
Hail Mary, full of grace, the Lord is with thee.
Blessed art thou among women, and blessed is the fruit of thy womb Jesus.
Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners, now and at the hour of our death.
Amen.
Glory Be to the Father, and to the Son, and to the Holy Spirit.
As it was in the beginning, is now, and ever shall be, world without end.
Amen.
Our Father, who art in Heaven, hallowed be thy name.
Thy kingdom come, thy will be done, on Earth as it is in Heaven.
Give us this day our daily bread,
and forgive us our trespasses, as we forgive those who trespass against us.
And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil.
Amen.
Hail Mary, full of grace, the Lord is with thee.
Blessed art thou among women, and blessed is the fruit of thy womb Jesus.
Holy Mary, Mother of God, pray for us sinners, now and at the hour of our death.
Amen.
Glory Be to the Father, and to the Son, and to the Holy Spirit.
As it was in the beginning, is now, and ever shall be, world without end.
Amen.
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HollowGhost
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Dear Sister in Christ,
I am recovering from this myself. You will have good days and bad; today was bad hence my being here for the first time in several weeks. My wife of 24 years had an affair on me 2 years back and told me about it 7 months ago. This has been, is, and ever will be the hardest thing I will ever go through. I have been praying the Rosary each day and always include people such as yourself in my prayers.
I will say that I have also experienced some of the best days of my marriage during the ensuing repair process, culminating in my wife becoming Catholic and us renewing our vows as Catholics so it can be done.
I started a thread on this very topic entitled “Please pray for a very devastated man.” Some of the folks on here said some of the most beautiful, helpful things and I still periodically review it just to see how far I have come by the Grace of God.
I will pray for you. Stay in faith. My faith has saved me and I pray the same for you.
Your Brother in Christ,
HollowGhost
**O Mary, conceived without sin,
Co-Redemptrix, willing participant in Jesus’ great work of salvation,
teach us to work with Him for the salvation of our neighbour.
Pray for us who have recourse to Thee!
O Mary, conceived without sin,
Mediatrix of all graces and mother of every soul,
let the graces we receive through your hands
be met with profound gratitude and sincere cooperation.
Pray for us who have recourse to Thee!
O Mary, conceived without sin,
Advocate for the people of God,
from the moment of the Annunciation until the end of time,
lift up our deeply wounded world to God’s merciful love.
Pray for us who have recourse to Thee!
Amen.**
Co-Redemptrix, willing participant in Jesus’ great work of salvation,
teach us to work with Him for the salvation of our neighbour.
Pray for us who have recourse to Thee!
O Mary, conceived without sin,
Mediatrix of all graces and mother of every soul,
let the graces we receive through your hands
be met with profound gratitude and sincere cooperation.
Pray for us who have recourse to Thee!
O Mary, conceived without sin,
Advocate for the people of God,
from the moment of the Annunciation until the end of time,
lift up our deeply wounded world to God’s merciful love.
Pray for us who have recourse to Thee!
Amen.**
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