Information on same sex attraction?

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I wasn’t sure if I should post this here, but it is related to spirituality.

I am in RCIA and about to be baptized this Easter after two years of RCIA. I have learned a ton and study and read on my own as well. However, I can find very little information about homosexuals in the Church or people who struggle with same sex attraction. I very much understand that homosexual acts are sinful and that the person is to strive for a chaste life. But then what?

I have same sex attraction and feel kind of left hanging. I’m embarrassed to bring it up in RCIA since it hasn’t even been mentioned except that it’s wrong. I’m too embarrassed to ask my sponsor. I’m extremely shy, lol. Like really shy.

I don’t have any attraction to males whatsoever and never have (I’m a girl). Does that mean I remain single my whole life?

If anyone knows of any websites or books that could lead me into better understanding or more direction, I would greatly appreciate it.

Annie
 
Yes, if you are not at all attracted to men then you should remain single and celibate for the rest of your life. You might try the Courage Apostolate’s website for more information on same-sex attraction and the Church:

couragerc.net/

Also, I struggle with same-sex attraction as well but I am predominantly attracted to men. I am also a woman. If you ever want to chat, send me a message. I am celibate and am living a chaste life and intend to do so for the rest of my life. I doubt that I will ever get married.
 
Remember most that God loves you and even being chaste doesn’t mean we walk alone. We are meant to share our burdens with others. I will keep you in my prayers and please keep me in your. I struggle with anger. There are many days I go to bed exhausted from the struggle. I know people say just let it go and I do try that but five minutes later it is back. Like Paul I think this is my thorn in the flesh.
Patti
 
walking_trees said:
Remember most that God loves you and even being chaste doesn’t mean we walk alone. We are meant to share our burdens with others. I will keep you in my prayers and please keep me in your. I struggle with anger. There are many days I go to bed exhausted from the struggle. I know people say just let it go and I do try that but five minutes later it is back. Like Paul I think this is my thorn in the flesh.
Patti
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👍 That is a good post Patti.

As for the anger you could always ask Saint Jerome to pray for you. From what I understand he did have a temper but obviously he overcame it since he is a saint. 🙂
 
PassionofChrist said:
I wasn’t sure if I should post this here, but it is related to spirituality.

I am in RCIA and about to be baptized this Easter after two years of RCIA. I have learned a ton and study and read on my own as well. However, I can find very little information about homosexuals in the Church or people who struggle with same sex attraction. I very much understand that homosexual acts are sinful and that the person is to strive for a chaste life. But then what?

I have same sex attraction and feel kind of left hanging. I’m embarrassed to bring it up in RCIA since it hasn’t even been mentioned except that it’s wrong. I’m too embarrassed to ask my sponsor. I’m extremely shy, lol. Like really shy.

I don’t have any attraction to males whatsoever and never have (I’m a girl). Does that mean I remain single my whole life?

If anyone knows of any websites or books that could lead me into better understanding or more direction, I would greatly appreciate it.

Annie
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This will be helpful to you.

catholicbridge.com/catholic/why_catholics_against_gay_marriage.php
 
Thank you so much for all your replies. The two links are greatly appreciated, I am checking them both out now.

Annie
 
What a blessing that you are in RCIA. May you find the peace that we all seek in living out the Catholic faith. To answer your question, it can be very isolating to be a devout Catholic with same sex attraction, but you may find the most support by confiding in an individual that is a good Catholic and one that you think will be empathetic and listen well. That person could be a priest, a Catholic friend your age, or it could be a lay person who goes to your church whom you meet in RCIA. It’s all right if you’re shy and your RCIA sponsor doesn’t seem like the right person to tell. Pray for an understanding individual in your life, and God will surely hear your prayer.
 
You’ve been given the answer; you are being called to a chaste life.

A common misconception is that it’s a terrifying punishment. It’s far from the truth. Chastity is the biggest gift one can have! See this as a blessing, for God can and will turn your “sin” into success (although, there’s nothing sinful about having urges or desires, only when you act upon them do you break the commandment).

Marriage life or even sexual satisfaction isn’t for everyone. God calls the most special of us to a life of chastity closer to Him. By denying yourself of sex or ‘love’ in another, we are called to experience God’s love for us even more! Nobody can love us like He does, and you’re going to find that out first-hand. A life of chastity is an amazing thing. This may be overstated or cliched, but you really do learn to appreciate the more simple things in life, free from the burden or strain of relationships and evil minds of sex. You see life through a whole new perspective, one that isn’t blinded by sexual ends. It’s kind of ironic that the chaste probably know how to love someone and make a relationship work more than the sexually active person 👍

“Not everyone can accept this teaching, but only those to whom it is given. For there are eunuchs who have been so from birth, and there are eunuchs who have been made eunuchs by others, and there are eunuchs who have made themselves eunuchs for the sake of the kingdom of heaven. Let anyone accept this who can.” (Matthew 19:11-12)

God Bless.
 
chazk - that sounds terrifying, i am horrible at making friends. But i agree it would be a relief to let someone else know who is in the catholic faith. I really should work on that, lol.

Domiy - Thanks for those words and i agree with you. I don’t see chastity as a bad thing, nor do i really see life as a single woman bad, either; i’m prepared for it. I just feel like it should be more addressed in the church, because i certainly feel like i’m the only one (even though i know i’m not). Even the vocation of being single for life isn’t really talked about which i also would love to hear more about. i like the two sites that were linked to.

Annie
 
PassionofChrist said:
I wasn’t sure if I should post this here, but it is related to spirituality.

I am in RCIA and about to be baptized this Easter after two years of RCIA. I have learned a ton and study and read on my own as well. However, I can find very little information about homosexuals in the Church or people who struggle with same sex attraction. I very much understand that homosexual acts are sinful and that the person is to strive for a chaste life. But then what?

I have same sex attraction and feel kind of left hanging. I’m embarrassed to bring it up in RCIA since it hasn’t even been mentioned except that it’s wrong. I’m too embarrassed to ask my sponsor. I’m extremely shy, lol. Like really shy.

I don’t have any attraction to males whatsoever and never have (I’m a girl). Does that mean I remain single my whole life?

If anyone knows of any websites or books that could lead me into better understanding or more direction, I would greatly appreciate it.

Annie
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St_Hilary:
DO NOT ASK YOUR SPONSOR. This is amatter betwen you and your confessor.

Having homesexual tendencies is NOT a sin, but the action is.

You will have to work with a professional.

God love you
 
st hilary - what does that mean i have to work with a professional? It’s not reversible. Plus, I don’t have a confessor as I’m not baptized yet. But what would he do for me if I told I my priest?

Annie
 
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