Insight from My Jw, Ex-Catholic Sister

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Today my Catholic mother, who is on Jeff’s site, and I ate lunch with my sister, who begin studying with the witnesses over a year ago. We had a very good, open discussion thanks to the Holy Spirit (I made sure to include it in my petitions during my holy hour this morning) and I brought up some good points, including that having statues in Church is not idol worship. Something my sister brought up, though, is that the JW’s actively promote participation in discussions aimed at learning the faith. She said that they are very friendly when it comes to asking new members what it is they want to know. I had to bite my tongue before I almost said “Well, when you come back to the Church you’ll make a good CCD teacher,” but I also couldn’t help agreeing with her that this is what Catholics ought to do more of. Not being a former JW myself, but being a future priest (God willing), I hope that some ex-JW’s, and some Catholics who feel their parish does this type of thing well, could help me to better understand how we Catholics could be better at having a more interactive setting of Catechesis with those who are already Catholic but are still learning (which should include all of us). Any insights?
 
I am a big fan of the small group setting for both social and spiritual growth and a tightening of community of the faithful.
 
I have to say that my RCIA class was excellent. There was always time at the end of questions and sometimes when I’d think of a question later, I’d drop a note to the Priest in charge and he’d answer at the next class.

I know our parish also has a “stump the Priest” night and all four of our Priests field random questions.

Other than that… I think there are all sorts of resourses available - books - Bible studies (Jeff Cavins has some great material) Catholic radio - this website etc. that if anyone wants to know more about their Catholic faith, they just need to take it upon themselves to learn.

Yes, Jehovah’s Witness are willing to answer all questions a newly interested person might have. But if the answers they give are wrong… where’s the benefit??
 
carol marie:
if anyone wants to know more about their Catholic faith, they just need to take it upon themselves to learn.
Yes, but what about those who do not have the desire to learn about the faith, because they don’t know how great it is? We need someone to first make it easy to learn, so that they don’t have an excuse for ignorance, then set them on the right track. Many Catholics in this country are ignorant of their faith, but many also have somewhat of an excuse (though not a total excuse) as no one is engaging them.
carol marie:
Yes, Jehovah’s Witness are willing to answer all questions a newly interested person might have. But if the answers they give are wrong… where’s the benefit??
Exactly my point. The great thing about the Catholic Church is we can take many things that are being used for bad–such as the media–and use them for good. Don’t get me wrong; I disagree with most of the JW’s methods that I know of, as they too closely resemble brainwashing for my tastes, but this sounds like some aspect that could be adapted, so as not to lose more Catholics to this cult or to other beliefs.
 
Well…

I worked with my priest to get a series of adult formation classes started. We hold these on Sunday morning between the Masses. Many times, my priest will give a homily on what the class is going to be about that morning and encourage people to attend. We also advertise it for a number of weeks in the bulletin.

So, you can take lay people who know their faith and have them help the priest in educating the parish adults in the faith. Make it clear that confirmation is NOT the same as graduation and that adults need to continue their formation.

Also, encourage people to participate in Eucharistic Adoration as this seems to change things in a parish for the better and seems to assist people in realizing they need some more formation as adults.

We usually average about 30 individuals in these classes which last about 4 to 6 Sundays in the Fall and another 4 to 6 Sundays during Lent. (We have had attendance as high as 50.)

I think Father was surprised that that many people attended.

Since doing these classes, I know of at least one family that has converted to the Catholic faith. Others have said that they have become better able to defend the faith. Some in the parish tape the classes and share them with others in the parish who are unable to attend due to sickness or family responsibilities.

Another thing that I have noticed is that when Father gives a homily that contains in it very specific references to what the Church teaches on real world issues such as birth control, abortion, sex outside of marriage, so-called “homosexual marriage”, etc. that the people in our parish respond favorably.

And, that the people in our parish who do not really understand why the Church teaches these things are intrigued by the seeds Father plants in these homilies and some actually show up at the Adult Formation Classes and ask very good questions about these issues. I know of many in our parish who while they accepted the Church’s teachings on these issues had no idea why the Church taught this way but now they are very good at defending the Church’s teachings in these areas.

So, I would say that as a future priest, that one of the things that can really assist in helping our nominally Catholic brothers to become more involved in the faith is for the homilies on Sunday to be direct about what the Church really teaches and to emphasize that all of us need to continue to be formed in the faith even after receiving the Sacrament of Confirmation. Encourage people to attend Adult Formation Classes that will assist them in looking into the faith more deeply.

Another thing is make sure you have a very good and proactive RCIA program. Make a request in the bulletin for people to provide names and contact information of anyone they know who might be interested in attending an RCIA class to learn more about the Catholic Church and invite them to these courses via snail mail. Also, allow Catholics who want to learn more about their faith to attend these classes as well.

Jeff S.
www.catholicxjw.com
 
Yep, JW’s are much better at “love bombing” than Catholic are. We do need to get better at reaching out to new people we see at church.

Maybe bring up with your sister the charities the Church has, as oppossed to the real lack of a charitable organization on the part of the Society.

Good luck and God bless with the potential vocation to the priesthood.
 
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Yerusalyim:
Yep, JW’s are much better at “love bombing” than Catholic are. We do need to get better at reaching out to new people we see at church.

Maybe bring up with your sister the charities the Church has, as oppossed to the real lack of a charitable organization on the part of the Society.

Good luck and God bless with the potential vocation to the priesthood.
Love bombing. . .never heard that one before. 😃

I’m sorry, but can I just ask why it’s a big deal that we aren’t as a whole involved in charities?
I am a JW and I work with the jimmy fund practically every weekend. I use my time to do that and I have a fun time with it too of course. It’s a great cause. But why should that be something that makes Catholics “better”? I dont’ want to get into an angry debate over it. I just want to know your reasoning. We can all do everything we want on an individual basis. Dont’ see why the society needs to organize everyone into one charity. Us going door to door to share religion with people is pretty charitable since it’s us giving of our own time to help people.
 
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Jaded27:
Us going door to door to share religion with people is pretty charitable since it’s us giving of our own time to help people.
I can see where the door to door evangelist would think it is charitable, but to the ones that seriously do not want to be contacted it is far from. Doesn’t charity have to be charity as seen by both parties? If I think giving change to a guy on the street I think is homeless is charity and so I drop 75 cents into his cup I think I am being charitable, but what I really did was put 75 cents into his cup of coffee and ruined it. What I thought was charity was definitely not.

I guess this goes to the Relational vrs. Relative idea.
 
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b_justb:
I can see where the door to door evangelist would think it is charitable, but to the ones that seriously do not want to be contacted it is far from. Doesn’t charity have to be charity as seen by both parties? If I think giving change to a guy on the street I think is homeless is charity and so I drop 75 cents into his cup I think I am being charitable, but what I really did was put 75 cents into his cup of coffee and ruined it. What I thought was charity was definitely not.

I guess this goes to the Relational vrs. Relative idea.
You’re missing my point. I’m not surprised since you seem to only want to argue with me. My point was - WHY is it a big deal that JWs do not have an organized charity we “officially” support? WHY is that a reason given to someone that being Catholic is “better”? THAT was my point. Can anyone answer it please?

(And on a side note of what you’ve mentioned above - good point. I applaud you. Now take it from this angle. JWs believe they are right and that they are helping people by bringing them the good news. Say someone you know is an alcoholic. Now say that a person who cares deeply about that alcoholic puts them into rehab. The alcholic surely does not see it as charitable. They are in fact probably very upset with the person who is helping them. BUT the person IS helping them. The same can be said about JWs. It goes both ways. Hm, I’m quite proud of myself now. 😃 )
 
Pride goeth before a fall.
and to the original poster. Praying for your ordination!! I think the ideas on R.C.I.A. are great, more people in the parish could get involved with that, perhaps, we need to go door to door and ask people back, just a thought. However, personally, I have never had a “nice” JW come to my door, sorry, but for some strange reason, I get the mean one’s, guess they are still in their trial period or something, or perhaps it angers them when someone really understands their faith, I don’t know, but not one has ever impressed me as being Christian, well, one did, once a long time ago. She married a Catholic man though, so…who knows how that all turned out. I love the idea where the Priests all have formation nights too. What a blessing to be in a Parish with 4 Priests. Our Parish is awesome and alive and growing constantly too, seems that there is something going on constantly. (not trying to be mean, just giving my honest thoughts about the JW.)
 
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allhers:
Ptide goeth before a fall.
Where did this come from?
B made an example of a homeless person and giving the change. I made an example that fits my beliefs. Are you going to tell me Catholics don’t believe their religion is right? That’s all I was demonstrating. Was that what if going door to door is correct and we are helping people but they don’t know it? It’s the same example. I’m a bit offended by this. I don’t think it was entirely justified.
 
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Jaded27:
I’m not surprised since you seem to only want to argue with me.
Discussion is not argument. I really didn’t think anything I said was heated or posted to incite anger.
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Jaded27:
My point was - WHY is it a big deal that JWs do not have an organized charity we “officially” support? WHY is that a reason given to someone that being Catholic is “better”? THAT was my point. Can anyone answer it please?
I don’t think it’s a big or small deal as to what group has or doesn’t have an officially recognized charity. I think it’s that whole “don’t let your left hand know what your right hand is doing” idea.

Jaded27 said:
(And on a side note of what you’ve mentioned above - good point. I applaud you. Now take it from this angle. JWs believe they are right and that they are helping people by bringing them the good news. Say someone you know is an alcoholic. Now say that a person who cares deeply about that alcoholic puts them into rehab. The alcholic surely does not see it as charitable. They are in fact probably very upset with the person who is helping them. BUT the person IS helping them. The same can be said about JWs. It goes both ways. Hm, I’m quite proud of myself now. 😃 )

JW’s think they are right, I know through study that they are most incorrect. Say a person is not an alcoholic but someone else convinces them they are and due to their convincing ruins their life in the process. Erodes their trust, puts them through all sorts of emotional turmoil that takes years to get through and get over. That is the scenario of the JW’s and their spreading of their version of truth that is in all actuality the farthest thing from truth and perilous not only to the adherents of the JW ideology and to all that they lure into it.
 
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b_justb:
Discussion is not argument. I really didn’t think anything I said was heated or posted to incite anger.
I misinterpreted then. I apologize.
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b_justb:
I don’t think it’s a big or small deal as to what group has or doesn’t have an officially recognized charity. I think it’s that whole “don’t let your left hand know what your right hand is doing” idea.
I’m not sure what this is supposed to mean. Some dig at how the society uses it’s donated funds or something? Sorry, confused. Further explanation is required, thanks.
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b_justb:
JW’s think they are right, I know through study that they are most incorrect. Say a person is not an alcoholic but someone else convinces them they are and due to their convincing ruins their life in the process. Erodes their trust, puts them through all sorts of emotional turmoil that takes years to get through and get over. That is the scenario of the JW’s and their spreading of their version of truth that is in all actuality the farthest thing from truth and perilous not only to the adherents of the JW ideology and to all that they lure into it.
Can you explain to me why it’s the “farthest thing from truth” like absolutely EVER? I’ve had Catholic friends all my life and I’ve never once heard THAT from them.

Sorry if being in the JWs caused you turmoil. It hasn’t for me. Going to my meetings refreshes me. I find it calming and peaceful. Much the same way I’m sure you feel in church. Nothing wrong with that.
 
Matthew 25:35-40
Then the king will say to those on his right, ‘Come, you who are blessed by my Father. Inherit the kingdom prepared for you from the foundation of the world. For I was** hungry and you gave me food, I was ****thirsty and you gave me drink, a stranger and you welcomed me, naked and you clothed me, ill and you cared for me, in prison and you visited me.**’ Then the righteous will answer him and say, ‘Lord, when did we see you hungry and feed you, or thirsty and give you drink? When did we see you a stranger and welcome you, or naked and clothe you? When did we see you ill or in prison, and visit you?’ And the king will say to them in reply, ‘Amen, I say to you, whatever you did for one of these least brothers of mine, you did for me.’

Jehovah’s Witnesses interpret these words to apply to the Great Crowd, who (according to them) are giving assistance to the remaining ones of the 144,000, Christ’s “brothers” ("…the least of these my brothers", above), primarily in the preaching work. Also, since the remaining 144,000 are in operational control of the WT Society, it means giving financial aid to the WT Society.

Catholics understand this to be a direct command from Jesus to render actual, charitable works, to whomever they can. No need to go into the extent of Catholicism’s visible charitable works; other than to say it is a testimony to how seriously they have taken these words.
 
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Jaded27:
I’m not sure what this is supposed to mean. Some dig at how the society uses its donated funds or something? Sorry, confused. Further explanation is required, thanks.
Let me try. I think that it is wrong for anyone to zap or dig at anyone else, be it person or group of persons, for their charitable works, or seemingly lack thereof. If I dislike the JW’s for whatever reason and I just start ranting that, “They do this and they do that and to top it off they don’t give to or have organized charities” then my rant is clearly without merit. People who prescribe to the teachings of Christ are charitable in one way or another. I have lots of theological debates with many Protestants but we never dig at each others charity. I think that is going over the line.

have to split up my responce due to length …
 
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Jaded27:
Can you explain to me why it’s the “farthest thing from truth” like absolutely EVER? I’ve had Catholic friends all my life and I’ve never once heard THAT from them.
OK. Christianity is a relational belief system based upon Jesus; His teachings and His revelation to mankind. For one to be Christian he must adhere, or actively attempt to be adhering, to those teachings as well as seeking to come to a more fuller understanding of that revelation. From the time of Jesus’ earthly ministry the question has been posed in no better words than by the Master Himself: “Who do you say I am?”

According to my understanding the JW’s answer this question by saying in brief that Jesus was created By God the Father, whom the JW’s insist referring to as only Jehovah and by no other Name. Jesus was the Fathers first creation. At His creation he was Michael the Archangel. There is no incarnation, that is to say a time when God became flesh. Jesus is not Divine. Jesus is not worshiped. JW’s contend that the idea of the Divinity of Christ was invented by the Catholic Church and inserted into the Christian faith at the (First) Council of Nicea in AD 325, and by doing so bastardized Christianity and made it ‘pagan’ in nature.

The reality is that the JW’s cannot be further from the truth on just this single point. If what they say is true, then there would be no mention of the Trinity or the teachings from Christian leaders prior to AD 325 pointing to a Christian belief in the Divinity of Christ. Notice in the quotations below are all pre-AD325.

Ignatius of Antioch was a disciple of the Apostle John and ordained bishop by the Apostle Paul. On his way to his martyrdom he wrote to several Churches and his letters are extant to this day.

“Ignatius, also called Theophorus, to the Church at Ephesus in Asia . . . predestined from eternity for a glory that is lasting and unchanging, united and chosen through true suffering by the will of the Father in Jesus Christ our God” (Letter to the Ephesians 1 [A.D. 110]).

“For our God, Jesus Christ, was conceived by Mary in accord with God’s plan: of the seed of David, it is true, but also of the Holy Spirit” (ibid., 18:2).

“[T]o the Church beloved and enlightened after the love of Jesus Christ, our God, by the will of him that has willed everything which is” (Letter to the Romans 1 [A.D. 110]).

Aristides, Early Church Father: “[Christians] are they who, above every people of the earth, have found the truth, for they acknowledge God, the Creator and maker of all things, in the only-begotten Son and in the Holy Spirit” (Apology 16 [A.D. 140]).

Tatian the Syrian Early Church Father: “We are not playing the fool, you Greeks, nor do we talk nonsense, when we report that God was born in the form of a man” (Address to the Greeks 21 [A.D. 170]).

Melito of Sardis “It is no way necessary in dealing with persons of intelligence to adduce the actions of Christ after his baptism as proof that his soul and his body, his human nature, were like ours, real and not phantasmal. The activities of Christ after his baptism, and especially his miracles, gave indication and assurance to the world of the deity hidden in his flesh. Being God and likewise perfect man, he gave positive indications of his two natures: of his deity, by the miracles during the three years following after his baptism, of his humanity, in the thirty years which came before his baptism, during which, by reason of his condition according to the flesh, he concealed the signs of his deity, although he was the true God existing before the ages” (Fragment in Anastasius of Sinai’s The Guide 13 [A.D. 177]).

Irenaeus Church Historian: "For the Church, although dispersed throughout the whole world even to the ends of the earth, has received from the apostles and from their disciples the faith in one God, Father Almighty, the creator of heaven and earth and sea and all that is in them; and in one Jesus Christ, the Son of God, who became flesh for our salvation; and in the Holy Spirit, who announced through the prophets the dispensations and the comings, and the birth from a Virgin, and the passion, and the resurrection from the dead, and the bodily ascension into heaven of the beloved Christ Jesus our Lord, and his coming from heaven in the glory of the Father to reestablish all things; and the raising up again of all flesh of all humanity, in order that to Jesus Christ our Lord and God and Savior and King, in accord with the approval of the invisible Father, every knee shall bend of those in heaven and on earth and under the earth . . . " (Against Heresies 1:10:1 [A.D. 189]).

“Nevertheless, what cannot be said of anyone else who ever lived, that he is himself in his own right God and Lord . . . may be seen by all who have attained to even a small portion of the truth” (ibid., 3:19:1).

I’ll stop here. As this is way long. I am sure my point is made.
 
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b_justb:
According to my understanding the JW’s answer this question by saying in brief that Jesus was created By God the Father, whom the JW’s insist referring to as only Jehovah and by no other Name.
And what other name do you suggest we use? I’ve never seen Catholics use a name, just “lord” or “god”.
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b_justb:
I’ll stop here. As this is way long. I am sure my point is made.
As for the rest of it I’d have to look all that information up myself though I’m not sure what point is made by some of the quotations as I didn’t see anything to disagree on.
 
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Jaded27:
And what other name do you suggest we use? I’ve never seen Catholics use a name, just “lord” or “god”. .
It’s LORD or Lord or God or GOD, never god; never lord. And I wasn’t disparaging your use of the Name “Jehovah” I was stating what I believe to be the JW position to the best of my knowledge and with brevity. Did I misstate the view, albeit brief and probably incomplete?
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Jaded27:
As for the rest of it I’d have to look all that information up myself though I’m not sure what point is made by some of the quotations as I didn’t see anything to disagree on.
If you don’t disagree with statements of the Early Fathers referring to Jesus as God, then you are out of step with the JW’s.
 
Not for sake of argument, but rather just to hear myself speak. 🙂

On the point of the Watchtower Society’s charity position, I recall being actively told that charity outside of the Watchtower Society was wrong. That if we had money that we were able to give, it was only right that it go to other Jehovah’s Witnesses, and that if we wanted to help non-believers, that we should participate more fully in the worldwide preaching and teaching.

Acts 6:1-7 had me thinking of this this morning when I was reading, so I can’t help but post it now in reply to all of the prior comments regarding charity.
At that time, as the number of disciples continued to grow, the Hellenists complained against the Hebrews because their widows were being neglected in the daily distribution. So the Twelve called together the community of the disciples and said, “It is not right for us to neglect the word of God to serve at table. Brothers, select from among you seven reputable men, filled with the Spirit and wisdom, whom we shall appoint to this task, whereas we shall devote ourselves to prayer and to the ministry of the word.” The proposal was acceptable to the whole community, so they chose Stephen, a man filled with faith and the holy Spirit, also Philip, Prochorus, Nicanor, Timon, Parmenas, and Nicholas of Antioch, a convert to Judaism. They presented these men to the apostles who prayed and laid hands on them. The word of God continued to spread, and the number of the disciples in Jerusalem increased greatly; even a large group of priests were becoming obedient to the faith.
It seems to me that the idea presented here was not to neglect ministry of the physical needs of the people, and that by doing so, many were brought into the faith.
 
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