Interesting article regarding the "gay "gene

[chessnerd321]

I don’t believe that God gives us crosses to bear

You have to understand that people usually (but not always) talk about God giving people suffering as part of his permissive will. It’s clear that God allows bad things to happen to people, by the very fact that they do. To be honest, that’s really not very much easier to swallow. But as a Catholic you have to at least admit that much.

It’s a tough message but God isn’t fair, as we usually think about fairness. Take Romans 9 which includes things like:

11 Yet, before the twins [Issac and Ishmael] were born or had done anything good or bad—in order that God’s purpose in election might stand: 12 not by works but by him who calls—she was told, “The older will serve the younger.”

And

17 For Scripture says to Pharaoh: “I raised you up for this very purpose, that I might display my power in you and that my name might be proclaimed in all the earth.” 18 Therefore God has mercy on whom he wants to have mercy, and he hardens whom he wants to harden.

And even yet

21 Does not the potter have the right to make out of the same lump of clay some pottery for special purposes and some for common use? 22 What if God, although choosing to show his wrath and make his power known, bore with great patience the objects of his wrath—prepared for destruction?

We could likewise spend all day wondering why God doesn’t give everyone the grace he gave to the Blessed Virgin. Who wouldn’t be converted if God appeared to them how He did to Saint Paul? So why doesn’t God give everyone that grace? It’s a hard pill to swallow but it’s clear: God allows some to suffer more than others. God gives more grace to some. Aquinas went as far as to say God doesn’t love all equally. But that he loves all enough, and gives each enough grace that all might be saved. I didn’t not attempt, as you suggested, to say that gay people suffer exactly the same amount as anyone else.

 

[LilyM]

One of the points I’ve been trying to make is that in most cases, the relationship with a friend is not the same as the relationship with an intimate partner or significant other and not just because one involves sex. Friend’s usually just won’t be as committed to you, rain or shine, in sickness and in health, day in, day out. Most people I’ve had as friends end up drifting away after a while. And they won’t do anything for you if it becomes too inconvenient.

And I’ve never said that Genesis says that it’s OK to have an intimate helper or partner of the same-sex, only that it says that it’s not good for a person to be alone.

I’m a family lawyer. Seen lots of partners and significant others bail very quickly, either at the first sign of hardship or the first whiff of someone younger/better looking/richer than the current partner or SO. And seen lots of family/platonic friends who stick around.

 

[Elf01]

I’m a family lawyer. Seen lots of partners and significant others bail very quickly, either at the first sign of hardship or the first whiff of someone younger/better looking/richer than the current partner or SO. And seen lots of family/platonic friends who stick around.

And a partner willing to stick around can become ill or die.

 

[Thorolfr]

LilyM:

I’m a family lawyer. Seen lots of partners and significant others bail very quickly, either at the first sign of hardship or the first whiff of someone younger/better looking/richer than the current partner or SO. And seen lots of family/platonic friends who stick around.

And a partner willing to stick around can become ill or die.

According to the American Psychological Association’s website, “about 40 to 50 percent of married couples in the United States divorce. The divorce rate for subsequent marriages is even higher.” And the average age of a person going through their first divorce is reportedly about 30 years old. So, considering how bad things appear to be out there, I guess I’m lucky that my partner has been willing to stick around for more than 20 years.

And the APA website also says that 90 percent of people in Western countries marry by the age of 50. So, this notion that lots of people go through their whole life never having a partner isn’t true.

 

[Maximus1]

But your culpability level is diminished. Sin involves the objective sinful act, but also, there is culpability considerations as well.